Now read a book about dating.
These cover different things. The first is how to identify good relationships. The second is how to communicate and recognize love.
After this is the grueling gauntlet of fuck ups until you figure out who you really are. Then everything gets too easy. If you are like me, you will use the "aggressive messaging" rate of your stupid self but with too much success. Too tired. I water boarded myself. Ah ha ha ha ha.