This is far more common than most people care to admit. What you are demonstrating is conflict-seeking behavior. chances are that due to some habit that you developed growing up to adapt to childhood environment. Most adult people exhibit the behavior which made them in the center of attraction in a good or bad way: conflict. They are trying to project their own self-image to people around them, you might have some self-esteem issues which you are projecting to your partners. the relationship which you need to work upon is the one which you have with yourself and your younger self. I had my share of struggle with this . I suggest consult a therapist, practicing positive self-reinforcement through gratitude journaling and meditation. this book also helped me a lot https://www.amazon.in/Didnt-Start-You-Inherited-Family-ebook/dp/B013D6640M?ref=kindlecontentin50-21&tag=kindlecontentin50-21&gclid=Cj0KCQiAjJOQBhCkARIsAEKMtO0ufxyJUbUxH84titFOKCDjYFPUsUxm3RVtzWPHkoKrtrlIVz4nTTIaAl2REALw\_wcB