❤️ it is a very difficult time to say the least. I really like the book It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy https://www.amazon.com/dp/0767921968/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_AKT69RFTX2YJ3CAX8PNC
This book is funny and though it is funny it is also a shot to the self esteem and a good philosophy on how to power through breakup.
I recommend this book: It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy https://www.amazon.com/dp/0767921968/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_7QKZFbND77GP8
It really isn’t about you or your lack of anything. She made it about you to excuse her behavior. You made it more about yourself because you only have control over yourself.
Np. I think a great book to give her would be “It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken”
https://www.amazon.com/Its-Called-Breakup-Because-Broken/dp/0767921968
I read it online in pdf format and it focuses on acceptance and has so many funny anecdotes and covers all the crazy things we do to ourself or thoughts we have during a breakup. So validating to be like — oh, ok. So at least I’m not the only one. It also focuses on recovery in the second half. So I plan on re-reading it again in a month or two but it was good to read it now and know what should come next.
I know it hurts now. There will be a better future for you. When a relationship ends, it’s hard to keep perspective about why it was necessary. You deserved better, you deserve happiness.
I can’t recommend this book strongly enough: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Called-Breakup-Because-Broken/dp/0767921968
When I was younger, I broke up with my fiancé because we weren’t working out, and he was pretty apathetic while I was completely broken. It was so hard, but this book brought me so much clarity, and even a few laughs. When we end a relationship, there is a tendency to romanticize the memories and not see them for what they truly were. This made the break 1000x easier. I will never stop recommending it.
I think you have a misconception of confidence, happiness and depression. It is completely normal for you to be unhappy, depressed and have your confidence questioned after a breakup. I encourage you to think of each component separately. Some journaling could really help. Start with happiness. Accept that you alone are responsible for your own happiness and write things that make you happy. Confidence is interpreted by an outward expression but ultimately it is inside in our boundaries (personal and outward) and our respect (again personal and outward). Lastly depression is tricky. It can be useful in part because it gives you the desire to self reflect. It can be destructive when it’s prolonged or compounded. I really recommend the book it’s called break up because it’s broken It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy https://www.amazon.com/dp/0767921968/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_75ZGFbNQMKH39
This is a light hearted reflection on tools to use during breakups. I also recommend that you do an online depression survey once a week until you feel fine. If you score in the risk zone please talk to a professional.
Books! These have helped me a lot:
It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken
Baggage Reclaim - A lot of good free articles!
They're all written from a hetero perspective but it's just as applicable.
The biggest thing is just going to be patience and time. Don't beat yourself up for not feeling a certain way by a certain time. Something shitty happened to you and it takes time to deal with it and adjust.