https://www.amazon.com/Jesus-Jewish-Roots-Mary-Unveiling/dp/B07HHF7C9D
Also...google oldest Marian hymn and you find something from 250AD which is pretty early. I suspect some themes in Scripture such as the Queen Mother were so clear to Jewish eyes and really anyone immersed in the early tradition that you may not see explicit mention.
The Catholic Faith is the only thing worth living and dying for. You are the head of the family. Your wife probably hates the Catholic Church because she does understand it. (I hated the Catholic Church for about 20 years, because - surprise - the only Catholic books and material I read were by non-Catholics)
Book recommends for you and wife
Jesus and the Jewish Roots of Mary - Brant Pitre
https://www.amazon.com/Jesus-Jewish-Roots-Mary-Unveiling/dp/B07HHF7C9D/
Four Witnesses - Rod Bennett
https://www.amazon.com/Four-Witnesses-Early-Church-Words/dp/0898708478
How the Catholic Church Saved My Marriage - David Anders
https://www.amazon.com/Catholic-Church-Saved-Marriage-Discovering/dp/B07WRMSYT3/
These books knocked the Protestant out of me
I was a convert - three books that had the biggest influence
1 Jesus and the Jewish Roots of Mary by Brant Pitre - https://www.amazon.com/Jesus-Jewish-Roots-Mary-Unveiling/dp/B07HHF7C9D
2 Four Witnesses by Rod Bennett https://www.amazon.com/Four-Witnesses-Early-Church-Words/dp/0898708478/
3 How the Catholic Church Saved My Marriage by David Anders - https://www.amazon.com/Catholic-Church-Saved-Marriage-Discovering/dp/B07WRMSYT3/
These books are written very plainly - they arent theological tomes. What I like most is how much they focus on real life, or history. The author’s personal journeys with the topics discussed really highlight the beauty of the Church
Eventually I ran out of things I could critique and began the process of conversion. I had no catholic friends or family at the time haha