I recommend this pillow.
Try a hemorrhoid pillow.
Kieba Hemorrhoid Treatment Donut Tailbone Cushion for Hemorrhoids, Prostate Cushion, Pregnancy Cushion, 18 Inches. Ultra Premium Comfort Foam Hemorrhoid Pillow (Black) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01A5CRM6W/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_zynbybNVWN9M4
Kieba Hemorrhoid Treatment Donut Tailbone Cushion for Hemorrhoids, Prostate Cushion, Pregnancy Cushion, 18 Inches. Ultra Premium Comfort Foam Hemorrho https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01A5CRM6W/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_Fzj5oJfP1AtJy
A pillow like this definitely helps! I had very bad tearing and this was the only way I could sit in a chair to eat for a couple weeks. It will get better (I’m 100%) but it sucks while it lasts!
I'm 1.5 weeks post-op and the cushion I went with is this one: https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B01A5CRM6W
I also have used this peri bottle a TON for rinsing after using the bathroom. Dr. Wittenberg and her team were very specific about No Wiping, so I use the peri bottle and dab after: https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07PBXBTLV
If you have access to ice, I highly recommend the ice based packs instead of the gel ones. I tried to cycle the gel ones but just ended up buying the ones the hospital used that are ice based: https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B00J3YKBD0
Also, it's pricey af (that bottle is $35 for 1 week supply) but I used Arnica and Bromelain to help with bruising and inflammation because both Wittenberg and my electrologist seperately both recommended it. I can't compare to not using it but my swelling has been pretty manageable (my understanding is that this week is the rough one for swelling/wound separation). https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07GHL7NMP
Best wishes for a quick recovery and stellar results!
Someone recommended this on a post of best items for moms and it's on my registry.