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>Alternative is a locked box for inside the fridge
These are easily available and can even attached to the refrigerator so the box cannot be removed from the fridge easily.
When I shared a house I had one of these to stop one wanker stealing my milk. Fuck you Steve, go to a fucking shop.
A mini-fridge is definitely the best option. Another option is buying a lockabox for the fridge. That will let you store some food and other small items inside. It's locked and opened with a combination code. They are pretty small so you won't be able to fit a lot inside of them. [link]
this is the sort of thing i am talking about
fridge lock box
There was also a particularly nice perspex one. I love the thought of the pastry just sitting there, completely visible but utterly inaccessible....
I’m sorry you have a deal with family eating your food. How about getting a refrigerator lockbox? You could store it in the fridge (they have different sizes) and it would be locked. Then you wouldn’t have to worry about your food getting taken. If you go to Amazon they have several options. Here is a link for one that’s $40 but they have cheaper ones too.
Lockabox One | Compact and hygienic Lockable Box for Food, Medicines and Home Safety | One Size 12 x 8 x 6.6 inches [link]
I've posted this before re snacks. This is what I do:
In my freezer, there is a bin for frozen veggies and I am the only one who eats veggies. So I buy a couple of boxes of frozen spinach or whatever. Save the boxes and store ice cream sandwiches in them. Voila, ice cream for when the kids piss me the hell off. Snickers, cookies, etc also go into various empty veg containers. I do not share.
Packaged snacks go into oatmeal tubs.
Other packaged snacks go into my tampon box. I put a few tampons on top so anyone getting curious will only find tampons.
If you crochet or knit, keep some snacks in your yarn stash.
Decorative woven baskets that have lids contain still more snacks.
All of the above requires that you sneak around and that's not always possible with kids underfoot. Plus, you shouldn't HAVE to hide food because one kid can't regulate himself. So you need a food cage:
Or if you want to assign snack lockers to everyone, you could get an actual locker cabinet and everyone gets their own snacks, so once their locker is empty, they don't get another infusion until you feel like filling it back up. You provide the locks so you can have all the combination codes. Snack lockers are extreme but why should you hide the fact that they're necessary because SS can't share?
Fridge lockbox. $40 on Amazon. Holds 11 cans and they can look but not touch.
NAH - well MIL might be Ta but I dont think the kiddo is.
Have you seen the clear glass boxes with locks?
One of these with the small milk boxes. You ration out the milk. Definitely get the kiddo help. It is a weird compulsion.
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NTA. I would get a frig lockbox if my husband was disrespectful like that. At the least.
I know what you mean. I grew up with two brothers and I found out that they were eating ice cream every day after school and that's why we never had ice cream left for family nights. I started doing the same thing because it was the only way I could get something approaching an equal share. My poor mom had to buy separate sweets for herself that were strictly off limits to the rest of us. Luckily, in our family, leftovers and things bought with your own money and properly claimed were respected, so I started doing the same thing when I got a job.
You need one of these until your husband can learn his lesson.
You can find a variety of them under the search term fridge lock box.
This was the one I found with the best reviews, even though its a little pricey. I like that it spacious enough so that I can keep more than just leftovers if needed.
They make locking food storage containers for this exact reason. Here's one I found on Amazon, but they come in different sizes so you should be able to find one that you like:
You could also ask management to place a camera in that area aimed at the fridge so that there will be video evidence of the thefts.
Also, put a sign on the fridge making it clear that thefts have been occurring and "reminding" everyone that if they didn't bring it in, it's not theirs to take. Also ask management to send out a group email stating that they are aware of the thefts and that whoever is caught will face instant termination. That might get the message across to the thief.
They make lock boxes for the refrigerator.
You can leave your bathroom items inside your bedroom so that she can't steal them from you and your roommates. That's what I did when I was living with roommates. I carried my shampoo and stuff with me to the bathroom every time. You can buy a little bag to put all your supplies in so its easy to carry it back and forth.
When she cleans the kitchen, I guess she wants you all to know that she's contributing and doing her part. You could all just have your own dishes, i guess and be responsible for only washing your items. For example, after you use your plate, you can wash it off immediately and then put it in your bedroom that way nobody else can touch it and you wont have to worry about anyone doing a sloppy job cleaning your stuff.
"Problems with food"
Well one option is getting a mini-fridge and putting it in your bedroom. That way she won't have any chance to steal your food from you. There's also something called "lockabox" that is a plastic case with a combination lock to store your food and stuff inside. You can buy it on amazon.com It's not very large so you won't be able to fit a lot of stuff inside it. https://www.amazon.com/Lockabox-Compact-hygienic-lockable-medicines/dp/B01KVKMGBE/
"she says she won't have an answer until 2 weeks before the lease ends."
i'd just suggest for you to put an ad out for the apartment a month in advance and see what kind of responses you get. You don't have to wait the last 2 weeks to post an ad. Save all the names and contact info of the people that message you. You can always communicate to these people the situation so they know what's going on.
With the utility problem, if she doesn't want to pay utilities when she's gone then she should find a temporary subleaser to rent her room out during the time she's gone. That way they can pay for any bills instead of her.
You need a food safe where only you have the key.
Something like this
My husband (J) is currently in a rehab (where he needs to be, proud of him!) house with 2 other guys. All residents of this facility are basically in little cottage/houses on campus, 2br with 2 beds/dressers in each room, shared kitchen/living/bath in each house.
One roommate (Y) is constantly eating his food, or throwing stuff away (eg Ate the all of J's cheese, threw out a loaf of bread on the day the bag said "sell by", ate 2/3s of the other roommate[K]'s lunch meat, etc). J is exceptional with meal planning, as is K, and the facility van only takes residents to each store type 1x a week (Sat = food, Tue =Walmart, & so on) so J/K are F' d for the rest of the week as a result.
J & K can lock non-perishable items in their footlockers but were stuck with missing fridge items, so I got J this.
It arrived yesterday, so no word yet on how much it holds functionality, but something like this could help you u/ XXX, and is much cheaper than a mini fridge.
If it was me, I'd also start keeping a FU binder for this. (Link to post here.
Adapt the binder to fit your situation - Note as much as you can remember happening prior to starting the binder. Then start keeping grocery receipts in it, note what date you make meals w/what items, note what items she threw out/when, note when you talk to her / how it goes / summarize convo, note dates/times she cleans the fridge, my petty a$s would take photos/videos of fridge condition daily & email it to myself / note date/subject of email in FU binder to document clearly that nothing is in the condition she is claiming when she tosses things.
Hopefully the binder should be helpful in proving to her that your food is not what she is claiming and you can get her to calm the F down. Worst case, it can be useful as evidence if you want to break your lease or take her to small claims court for recouping the financial loss of her throwing out food that is no more than 1 week old.
For the record, imo, Jane's behavior is not normal. 2 books is not a mess. Unless one of you is spilling food/not wiping it up every day, cleaning a household fridge once a week is excessive (restaurant, sure, but not household). 3 days is not long enough for leftovers to go bad (restaurants maybe, I've never worked in a kitchen, my only source for anything restaurant related is Kitchen Nightmares/Ramsay shows). You are NOT being gross. Wilted or soft veg =/= rotten veg - if it were, banana bread wouldn't exist ffs.
NTA, and I hope your situation gets better!
I would get this until I was out of there.
Something like this should do the trick
They have these cages that go on a shelf in the fridge that lock, slightly less drastic but same idea.
something like this
NTA but desperate times call for desperate measures. If you can't buy your own fridge there are lunch boxes with locks you can get or get a small birdcage/lock and put your food in that. Your family are terrible flatmates.
Purchase this for your food:
Lockabox One | Compact and Hygienic Lockable Box for Food, Medicines and Home Safety [link]
You could just get a snack lock box like this one,
Or one of these: https://www.amazon.com.au/Lockabox-Compact-hygienic-lockable-medicines/dp/B01KVKMGBE/ref=asc_df_B01KVKMGBE/?tag=googleshopdsk-22&linkCode=df0&hvadid=341791612685&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=3043064830513758658&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9070544&hvtargid=pla-445132926874&psc=1
Stick it in the fridge and no one can touch your food again.
NTA. You should buy a lock box that you can put in the refrigerator, like this one.
Logical solution: Food safe
NTA but one of these would help.
You can buy Lockabox. They come I various sizes and colours. For use in just about any fridge.
amazon link, however lots around
Just put a label with your name on it. If they keep stealing it, then they definitely know what they're doing it. My old job used to buy coke, bread, milk, etc for people, so if someone's used to that office culture they might not know you're buying it yourself.
Excessive maybe, but you could always get a lock box: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Lockabox-Compact-hygienic-lockable-medicines/dp/B01KVKMGBE/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=milk+lock&qid=1575585029&s=kitchen&sr=1-1
If you do the prank they'll just think it was a random flat coke. Don't think they'd actually get the picture.
Honestly, YTA for losing your cool and throwing it out. I don't have kids myself and don't intend to, but I can absolutely relate to your experience of being tired literally and tired of his behavior.
As a parent, you have to set an example for your kid. You're doing a great job working hard, but it might be time to change up your parenting style a little bit. Like I said, I'm not a parent so you can take this advice or leave it, but I think you should talk to him and apologize for your behavior. Calmly explain why you were upset, and explain that you won't be buying any more soda for him. He should get a job and pay for his own soda. Maybe you could buy him 4 cans to replace the ones you threw out, I don't know. But he gets a job, he pays for soda, he learns from you the value of hard work and money.
Just a thought, but does your work have a fridge you could keep your drink in? Then you can have it on your way home and not worry about your son taking it. There's so this last resort.
NTA. You should buy one of these.