J-lube is a bit of a pain to mix evenly, and it doesn't last long before it expires.
If you want something good that isn't as costly as Bad Dragon, and you have Amazon Prime: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01AKUHDNQ/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s01?ie=UTF8&psc=1
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I'm very surprised you had issues like that. I've done anal alot and have never had such issues. Firstly you need good lube. This is my go to lube. It's vaginal safe as well and is super slippery. Maybe that's why your have a gross clean up. Also I wouldn't go bareback if she isn't on some form of birth control because if you cum in her, even if its anal, it can still find its way onto the vagina be it just dripping down of if you accidently push inside her vagina for a second. If you are super concerned with mess, she can do an anal enema 30 mins to a hr before you have anal sex.
Lynk Pleasure Products Anal Lube Water Based 8 oz Sex & Intimacy Lubricant for Men, Women, and Couples https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01AKUHDNQ/ref=cm_sw_r_apa_i_4EFBEYDWSS70SGVPW1XB_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Yes, you're having a reaction to one of the ingredients of the lube. I've had the same burning reaction to multiple lubes. Took me a while to find one that I didn't have a reaction to.
The one I finally settled on is Lynx Anal Lube And it's inexpensive and comes in a pump bottle
When I use toys at home I mix water based with oil, makes it last longer. Never use oil with condoms.
I keep a bottle of lynk under my bed. It's toy safe because it has no silicon, but it dries up in like 2 seconds so it sometimes gets annoying to reapply.
When I buttplug, I use more oil than water lube.
We use this one after trying quite a few others over the years. https://www.amazon.com/Lynk-Pleasure-Products-Personal-Lubricant/dp/B01AKUHDNQ?th=1
There isn’t one magical lube for everyone though. Unfortunately you will probably need to try several to find the best for the two of you. Some people just use coconut oil.
J-lube is a huge pain to produce besides, because it literally expires on you in a day. It's so sugary that it attracts bacteria. Mixing it evenly instead of clumpy is hard.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01AKUHDNQ/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o04_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I personally use this, but it isn't like cum lube at all. It works better, but doesn't have the white cum lube appeal.
We have used many lubes over the years and finally found this one months ago. We were looking for something that wasn't irritating since I have an issue with a lot of lubes. Hubby loves it as well for anal. No strong smell and it doesn't taste bad if you get it in your mouth. Glycerin and paraban free. https://www.amazon.com/Pleasure-Products-Natural-Intimate-Lubricant/dp/B01AKUHDNQ/ref=zg_bs_10786421_3
This is the brand I currently use, it works well and won’t damage any toys https://www.amazon.com/Lynk-Pleasure-Lubricant-Personal-Lubrication/dp/B01AKUHDNQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Anal+lube&qid=1622443756&sr=8-2
Just some LYNK Anal Lube water based. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01AKUHDNQ?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I got this off amazon, and it works fantastic. I would suggest ordering online
No friction is the way to go. My gf and I only use water based lubes. It works with all toys and all that as well. Our normal lube for everything is below:
This lube is very affordable and truthfully, you can't beat the price. Below is a thicker and we use a lot less of it, but it is definitely pricey and very thick. It is better for toys though.
Happy anal adventures. :)
We use this