my bad, misread.
A little silver bullet can do the trick but if you really want to save up and surprise her one day try this. Comes down to preference but basically most powerful/high acclaimed "massager" on the market.
srs I do not understand the cult following of the Lelo products. they look weird, the performance is suboptimal, and they're EXPENSIVE. but then again, I'm a fan of the actual Punisher, so take my advice with several grains of salt.
I'm going to expand on my comment a bit.
This is the current version of the Magic Wand. Hitachi sold to rights to the manufacturer (Vibratex I believe) a number of years ago. The true Vibratex produced version has two setting Low (5000 RPM) and High (6000 RPM) and the bezel around the switch is square with a blue insert.
Many Amazon listings show the Wand with a speed controller, or other accessories. I'd highly recommend avoiding those as the wand manufacturer is unknown. If you decide you need attachments or (for whatever reason) a speed control purchase those as a separate item but use the link I posted for the purchase itself.
Now, none of this helps you if you're outside of North America. There is no Euro version of the Hitichi. Vibratex never made a model that was directly compatible with the 220v-240v standard found throughout most of the world. There are plenty of other manufacturer producing wind type massagers, but I can't speak to their quality of effectiveness.
If you're in Canada you can still order from Amazon, just select other sellers and order from etailz they sell the correct product and ship internationally, though it'll cost a few dollars more for shipping, and the trip take 7-14 days.
So that site may or may not be an authentic Magic Wand distributor, but it's definitely not "Hitachi's site". For one, they say in their "About" page that they're a "California-based retailer" that has been around for "10+ years". Hitachi, of course, is a huge Japanese company, and the Magic Wand alone has been around for fifty years.
And again, the name Hitachi is no longer associated with the product. The Magic Wand is made by Vibratex, and distributed by a bunch of people, but Hitachi themselves have nothing to do with it anymore. So it would be strange that "HitachiMagic.com" would be the definitive website for the product. You'll also notice that the Amazon page you linked has a total of two reviews, and they're not awesome. Again, not a great sign that this is the authentic listing for the world's most popular and iconic vibrator.
Now, in general, it's a really bad idea to buy sex toys on Amazon. Amazon is known in this industry for being full of fake, counterfeit, or even used products. However, if we're talking Amazon, I'd point you towards this listing, which at least points out that the item is made by Vibratex, and is far more heavily trafficked and reviewed. I do acknowledge that the title of that page "misleadingly" uses the word Hitachi, although the clarify in the description that it's "now known simply as the Magic Wand". When looking at any of the well-known reputable toy retailer websites though, either online ones like SheVibe or hybrid online/brick-n-mortar like Adam&Eve, notice that none of them refer to the item in any meaningful way as the Hitachi, except to say in their descriptions that the item "used to be known as the Hitachi Magic Wand".
Are you massaging afterward? My husband massages for a few minutes right after he gives me the shot -- and HARD, like it hurts. Then I use a handheld massaging wand for ten minutes on each side. I also sit on a heating pad while I work at my desk during the day. I also heard walking or doing squats after helps but I stopped after a while and don't think I can tell a difference but it might be worth a try! And as others say, try different spots and talk to your doctor/nurse to make sure you are targeting the right area, I found that we could go a bit higher than we were going which hurt less for me. Good luck!
Yeah.. his reaction to me getting some shit like that is what I'm trying to avoid in the first place. If he were any other person I wouldn't give a shit at all but he's the kind of person that will tease you with it for the rest of your life. Now that I have my Fleshlight I want one of these and I can't get it shipped it here. https://www.amazon.com/Original-Magic-Wand-HV-260-Massager/dp/B00005M1WE
I agree with Lmn_41: you probably want to figure out how to cause her to have an orgasm.
Vibrators work. Get one that adjusts in intensity - the right intensity is different for different women. If it plugs into the wall, one way to adjust the intensity is to use an extension cord with a built in dimmer switch in-between. Hitachi Magic Wands work well, but without the dimmer switch it is too intense for my wife.If you don't trust the electrical safety of that situation, there are fine battery powered vibrators.
And if you get that to work reliably and are bored with it, try removing the vibrator once her orgasm is clearly underway. Her reaction will not be boring.
The ladies out there may be able to attest to this, but there can only be one. (NSFW)
Anything else is just a novelty.
A surprise might be fun, or you can tell her that you're buying it for her. The anticipation is kind of fun too.
+1 to the Hitachi recommendation. But you shouldn't have to spend $80. It's about $45 on Amazon. If you don't mind spending more, you can get the cordless version, which has more fine-grained intensity control and a silicone head for easier cleaning... but not really necessary.
To clean, soap and water then dip in rubbing alcohol you can get at the drugstore.
Battery vibes go through batteries fast. Get your own batteries and use them when you play so you won't wear out hers or she'll know.
But if you really want to good toy, you should go for a plug in vibe mail order. Easy to do: https://www.amazon.com/VIBRATEX-HV-260-Magic-Wand-Massager/dp/B00005M1WE
Go middle of the road on price and try the Hitachi Magic Wand. You can get it on Amazon for about $45 bucks and I'm pretty sure you'll see the quality difference.. and probably a few dead relatives by the time you finish your first round with it.
If you buy one make sure you only buy it direct from Amazon not any of the 3rd party sellers because so many of these are sold (about 250,000 a year last I heard) they're being counterfeited now.
I'm the exact same way! I used to only be able to orgasm by grinding against a pillow/rolled up blanket stuffed tightly in between my legs (usually takes less than 5 minutes). Always thought it was the strangest thing because I couldn't get off during PIV, plus I was pretty embarrassed about it. I think my problem was the amount of pressure I required because I had been using that method for years. When I met my current boyfriend, he had this Hitachi Magic Wand that vibrates at fast speeds and, when pressed against your clit, can be pretty intense. The first time we used it, it took me a good hour before I could even feel an orgasm building up. Months later, if I can concentrate hard enough, I can get off in 10 to 15 minutes, but even then it's still a bit of work. Maybe you should invest in one! My boyfriend says that when I'm using it and he's in me, it feels good for him too.
And on an additional note, I used to feel like a total weirdo for grinding, but then one day I was just honest with him. Turned out that he wasn't freaked out at all! Even encourages it when we're together sometimes.
EDIT: I'd also recommend using a vibrator inside you as well as the wand on your clit. Having both of them has always made it less difficult for me. I wish you luck!
Amazon has then for around the same price there's one for $61 that comes with two attachments also.
Hitachi Magic Wand Massager
If you have amazon Prime it's free two day shipping. If you don't have prime and are a student they have a prime trial membership you can take advantage of.
im pretty sure i got somethign in m magic bag that could work!
/whips out magic wand!
i just see this thing posted soo much on this site, finaly found a reason to paste it :P
Is it This one? I did a quick Google search....
If I could spend $150 right now, which toy would you recommend? I know I said $50 in my original post, but that number was really extrapolated from very little research.
I know a lot of people who like Hitachis since they're a lot stronger, vibrating wise. I also know you can buy different "heads" to put on them for insertion and stuff like that. :]
This is the single best vibrator ever made. My wife has a number of expensive exotic vibes, but this is the one she uses every time. Guaranteed orgasm in 5min or less.
(female here). I've tried a lot of vibrators and the Hitachi Magic Wand is, by far, the best vibrator I've ever used. It's pretty powerful; if it's too powerful, some of the "rabbit" vibrators are great. I know a vibrator won't keep my interest if it's not strong enough. What is it about the one you have that won't keep your interest?
If it is strong enough, the only other thing that can make me lose interest is the sound of my own thoughts: it's a mental thing. In that case, I either put sexy thoughts into my head (things that turn me on, fantasies) or give up. But it's up to me to get myself in the right frame of mind.
Sometimes even when I'm turned on, my thoughts will wander and I "lose it"- lose the flow, not turned on like I was before. I have to again, bring my thoughts back to things that turn me on.
As for technique, well, what sort of things does your SO do to get you off? Clit stimulation? Then go for that with your vibrator. Vaginal stimulation? Go for that. Think about what he does that you like and try to replicate it with your toy.
For me, especially with the Hitachi, I can't just rub it against my clit. I have to build up to that. It takes a bit of time to orgasm this way, and it's just too strong for me to keep on my clit the whole time, so I'll start by using it around the outer labia and above the clit, usually circling around those parts. Once I'm good and turned on, I'll get closer to the clit. I rarely put it directly on the clit until I'm orgasming or about to, and sometimes even then I will put it on there and move it off, then back again.
I rarely insert anything unless it's to warm me up or to use alongside a vibrator that's stimulating my clit as well.
I can't believe there's a vibe thread and no one has mentioned the Hitachi Magic Wand.
http://www.amazon.com/Vibratex-HV-250R-Hitachi-Magic-Massager/dp/B00005M1WE is a reasonable price.
I bought one for my GF, she calls it "the best present, ever." It's very strong, and gets her off outrageously quickly. You won't be sorry.
Get a plug in boyfriend. Once you do that and you can give your self an orgasm, work on doing it with him in the room with you. Then just turn it into your normal foreplay. You'll be happy & so will he.
I don't know if this would help you or not, but maybe a non-penis shaped vibrator would help you feel better about it. I was thinking of something like this.
Keep in mind that sometimes women just want to have a quick orgasm, like men often do. I find an orgasm before bed helps me sleep better. If my husband is staying up later, my magic wand is always there. But that doesn't take away any of my desire for my man. A vibrator is nice, but a partner is always better.
Sorry if I'm stating the obvious, but one of these? I heard a girl describe it as the two-minute device. Find a really cheesy romance novel too and see if it helps. /randomguywhodoesn'tknowshit
Have you tried this yet? It's fantasssstic. Also, try more lube, and porn. If you don't like the idea of watching porn (and there's certainly a lot of shitty violent stuff to wade through) try written erotica.
Oh, the things you could do with one of these - http://www.amazon.com/Vibratex-HV-250R-Hitachi-Magic-Massager/dp/B00005M1WE
It's less than $40, plugs into the motherfucking wall, and has a LOW speed of 5,000 rpm.
I've bought these for a couple of ladyfriends and they found them immensely enjoyable.
in return for your awesome pics...
I'd suggest a Hitachi Magic Wand ...there are reviews all over the internet eg http://www.amazon.com/Vibratex-HV-250R-Hitachi-Magic-Massager/dp/B00005M1WE.
Some find it too strong, the girl I bought it for did at first but then loved it with all her heart (/pussy). She loved it so much was horrified at the thought it would ever go away.
You just hold it against yourself for the best results, apparently (although there are stuff you can add to it)...I know you're probs afters something penetrative but seriously, buy one. They are godlike.
Was so good my gf made me come with it in seconds, just from the vibrations. Hope it goes well if you do get one:)
I would suggest a older man, tend to pay more attention to the lady than just getting off.
Also from reading on here, this seems to work as well. "Massager"
Wife and I watched a bit of porn, and there is one site where they use this particular vibrator that the actresses love. They even commented that it's their favorite part of the shoots, and some of them even own one themselves now.
Wife and I find out that it's called the Hitachi Magic Wand
>Isn’t it normal for a mid twenties man to develop his own life that doesn’t involve his parents every weekend?
Is BFsMom married, divorced or widowed? She sounds like she made an 'A' in JN101 - Making your offspring your sonsband.
If she doesn't have a spouse she needs a BF closer to her age. Or a Hitachi. Or a dog or joining a knitting circle or a rollerblading group or SOMETHING other than her pwecious baby boy.
And said offspring needs a pair of shears, to cut the fucking apron strings. He comes to town for 2-3 days, he needs to spend 20 minutes at mom's house and the rest ~~having hot sex~~ hanging out with you.
He's a grown man. Mommy's clingyness is HIS problem, not hers. He needs to peel her off his leg, spray her with a water bottle when she tries to hump it and tell her to Get a Life.
Ask him if his mother's responsible for his feelings. The answer should, of course, be no. Then ask why he feels responsible for hers? She's been adult (chronologically at least) longer than he's been alive. She needs to renew her relationship with her husband, seduce her pastor (not really) or do something besides expect BF to fill her time and give her life meaning.
BF needs to read and re-read my standard recommendations for a young male who hasn't quite located his balls, or who finds them in his mother's purse: When I Say No I Feel Guilty by Manuel J. Smith and No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover.
One possible reason he's going gray in his twenties is that his mom's stressing him out. He needs to think about that, as it's no more his job to change his mother than is being her emotional spouse.
It's his job to stop letting her fuck with his life.
Hitachi Magic Wand Massager https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00005M1WE/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_5k96BbBKRGQ33
A Hitachi Wand with a speed controller is never a bad gift.
Amazon link: Hitachi Magic Wand.
May I introduce you to the Hitachi magic wand massager. They call it a "massager" but they know what they are selling. I love it as it is non-penatrative. The vibrations are really calibrated just so for the >!clitoris!< . 💯 Recommended.
The housing for a https://www.amazon.ca/Hitachi-HV-260-Magic-Wand-Original/dp/B00005M1WE.
It could literally be anything because you're showing us the outer shell, and there's no dimensional readouts. For all I know, it doesn't even take Talons.
Too big; waste of energy. Just grab a handy Magic Wand and Velcro it to the side.
I'd recommend the Magic Wand; there's also a cordless rechargeable one, but it's twice as expensive (but very nice). From Amazon it should come in a generic box; I bought it elsewhere, and it came in a discreet box, though it's also more expensive there.
Is it possible to have it shipped to a friend's house?
It's got solid reviews on Amazon!
I'm a guy, but:
Hitachi. Look, I get that it isn't pretty like a Lelo, but every sex-positive kinky woman I know gets off with the Hitachi. Basically, you can dick around with show dog vibes that are expensive and pretty and have fancy features, or you can get a Hitachi and your girlfriend will have lots and lots of orgasms. It's really that simple. If you don't mind spending a bit extra, get the rechargeable version. If she also wants penetration, get her a good g-spot dildo to use at the same time (or use your fingers :) ).
p.s. um, for future reference, pretty sure most women these days prefer not to be referred to as "ladies". Just saying.
Tell me what part of this is supposed to look like a male crotch.
Its about as bad as claiming the washington obelisk is a phallic symbol.
Use a vibrator. This (and similar models) is my favorite: https://www.amazon.com/VIBRATEX-HV-260-Magic-Wand-Massager/dp/B00005M1WE
Warning: "low" setting is SUPER high, so i'd recommend a towel between her body and the vibe for the first few times if you want to ease her into it-- otherwise, just press it against her clit and watch her go wild.
here's some $50 science that will actually get a woman off.
Normally this: https://www.amazon.com/VIBRATEX-HV-260-Magic-Wand-Massager/dp/B00005M1WE
A classic :)
Get a vibrator.
This will make you cum without an erection. Pretty quickly too.
This should help with the no orgasms part.
The only sex you ever had
Hitachi Magic Wand.
Or you can get it on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/VIBRATEX-HV-260-Magic-Wand-Massager/dp/B00005M1WE
But get this. Trust me.
Thinking about this, I have a somewhat insane suggestion.
Sex toys. Specifically, a Hitachi Magic Wand.. Note the fact that it's corded.
Then get a smart outlet like this one, and put the magic wand on a timer.
Not exactly elegant, but it could work.
Just gonna leave this here for ya.
First, you need to ask her about this and see if she can explain what's going on. She may believe that only PiV is "real" sex or that there is something wrong with having orgasms from oral or a handjob. It may help if she learns that MOST women (70-80%) cannot have orgasms from PiV. Some girls think that there's something wrong with them if they can't cum just from penetration, but in fact it's absolutely normal.
Second, most guys think of clit stimulation as "foreplay," but a lot of women don't get much out of it until after they are already somewhat aroused. So oral and fingering are more like "midplay" for them. (I'm definitely like this. My guy knows better than to touch my clit before I'm warmed up, because it either does nothing for me or else it hurts.)
You probably did much more making out before you graduated to PiV. So you were doing a lot to get her hot before you went down on her. But now, if you are typical teenagers, you're in a hurry to get to the main event, so you skimp on the kissing and groping and go straight for her clit without much warm up, and it's just not as effective.
If this is part of the problem, the solution is to be more patient at the start. Make love to her. Make her feel loved and desired as a person, not just a fuckable body. Take your time on foreplay AND "midplay." If she'll let you, get her off at least once before you move on.
Third, if she wants to, she can do some homework on her own and basically teach her own body how to have orgasms more easily. Her nervous system is still developing. (About half of all girls her age have never had an orgasm at all.)
If she wants to work on becoming more orgasmic, here are two places to start, each with many links to more good sources:
The r/sex FAQ on Orgasm troubles is an excellent intro.
Learning How to Have Orgasms includes links to many helpful articles and other resources.
I particularly recommend the book Becoming Orgasmic and a wand-type vibrator like the classic Hitachi Magic Wand or the battery-operated Mystic Wand.
Finally, you may need to improve your oral/fingering skills. A good start would be Nina Hartley's video guide to cunnilingus. You can find it on many porn sites. In addition, this is a book that I think every young guy should read and reread often:
Good luck to both of you. I hope you get everything sorted out.
Stay safe and have fun!
Personally, I'm a Lelo whore. I own 2 Lelo vibrators, and they are the Lily and the Gigi 2. The Lily is perfect for clit stimulation for me, and the Gigi is a fantastic g-spot vibrator; however, everyone's anatomy is different. When I want extra sensation when doing things aside from laying in bed and going to town, Luna beads are actually quite fantastic.
That being said, I have two even further recommendations, though the above are amazing. I give to you the Stronic Eins, the toy that actually fucks you. I know it's steep. But my. god. It's worth it. Trust me on it. And of course, the never over-rated Magic Wand. If you've never used one of these, take yourself down to a sex shop and just ask to feel one on; they'll be more than happy to oblige.
If you have any questions about any of this, or want more info or advice, just comment here or PM me. Sex toys are a passion for my needy cunt.
Great Japanese machinery made by Hitachi
> - Non phallic appearance
> - Electric for constant, powerful vibration
Oh really now. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Hitachi Magic Wand
This may be a little too far out for ou guys, but if you buy a hitachi wand, you can buy a harness that will hold it in place so that both her hands and your hands would be able to focus on other things. Unfortunately, there are no harness products out there for other brands of vibrators (I've spent hours looking), so it'd have to be that kind of vibe. On the plus side, check out the reviews for the hitachi magic wand. I'm a big advocate for nice vibrators, even though they are often more expensive.
So you're a woman, right? I'm just going to assume this based on the fact that you want a vibe and not a fleshlight or something.
Vibes are not something you should skimp on. Make sure you get something made of 100% silicone (usually a little pricier) because other materials like plastic can harbor nasty bacteria and can cause you lots of vagina problems.
If you're looking for something that will absolutely blow your mind - go for a hitatchi magic wand. It's not discreet in any way - it's super loud and pretty big - but a lot of women swear by it. This blogger even wrote a comic about it.
My wife loves this one. It's fantastic for gspot, clit stimulation, and makes her squirt like nothing else. Our girlfriend liked it so much she got her own. It's hard plastic so easy to clean and fine with any kind of lube.
The hitachi is the other main tool in our arsenal. Plugs into the wall, super strong, well known in the kink community as the way to get a woman off. It's a bit bulky for PIV but it's workable. It also has a bunch of attachments for different kinds of stimulation.
> Here is it on Amazon right?
Read the one star reviews - http://www.amazon.com/Vibratex-HV-250R-Hitachi-Magic-Massager/product-reviews/B00005M1WE/ref=cm_cr_dp_qt_hist_one?ie=UTF8&filterBy=addOneStar&showViewpoints=0
Dammit, link didn't work... http://www.amazon.com/Vibratex-HV-250R-Hitachi-Magic-Massager/dp/B00005M1WE
Ima leave this right here
Does she really need to insert it? I sometimes have a desire to put it in me, but most vibrators are either too hard, or too soft, probably to avoid injury.
I have a magic wand, which has various attachments, that are priced well, and can allow for many different positions.
If she hasn't used this before, or isn't familiar with vibrators, take caution. It's the Cadillac of vibrators, and can be too much for a lot of women, even on "low".
If you want to be discreet, and not make face in a sex shop, I would go to adam and eve. They have great deals, and the reviews as well as the customer feedback is excellent. Not only that but they ship in discreet packaging.
The flower is a nice touch.
Is that a tiny Hitachi Magic Wand that locust is using to get himself off with?
Hitachi Magic Wand.
I highly recommend it.
I believe that is the recommended route from r/sex to all these type of posts.
As in the gold standard for sex toys at a bargain price.
If you're concerned about strength, go for the gold and get the Hitachi Magic Wand. The Nea is a nicer-looking piece, though.
i thought u were advertising something else
you should sell these at a discount instead
Does she have a Hitachi Magic Wand?
Here's your answer. Use it WHILE having sex. She'll get off and you'll appreciate the added vibes.
Problem solved, NEXT!
If you have any active nerves in the area, then buy one of these and you'll have an orgasm, and you can satisfy a partner.
No home should be without one.
As for the first question, I don't think it would be weird to buy her a sex toy, especially if you two have been dating for a while and have a happy, active sex life. (If you've only been going out for a few weeks or if she seems really shy about sex, though, you may want to reconsider. However, since she already mentioned wanting one, I think it would be fine if you got her one.)
As for your second question -- I think you should either go for a rabbit vibrator or a Hitachi Magic Wand. Both models are extremely popular, both make great "beginner" vibrators, and you can easily find them for $50 or under. The Hitachi Magic Wand is one of the best vibrators on the market and is very, very, very popular (hell, just read some of the comments on the Amazon page!), so I'm quite sure she'll get some good use out of that one.
You might want to try casually bringing up the subject of sex toys in conversation one night soon and see what she says. Maybe she has a specific model in mind.
The Hitachi Magic Wand. If you don't burst a blood vessel in your eyeball orgasming using this while he is pounding away... you should get a new vagina.
Girl, you gotta buy yourself a decent vibrator. Here's a recommendation.
I think this one is the one that's currently a hit in Japan.
Eh, a one-time fee of $400 for the snip-snip and you never have to pay for contraception again; for $50 you can pick up one of these and you'll cut down a ton on lube costs.
Who the hell needs lotion if you have this
Amazon! Amazon has everything! http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00005M1WE/ref=cm_sw_su_dp
If you are a student you can sign up for 6 months of free Amazon Prime, 2 day free shipping for 6 months!! you can also find awesome attachments. condoms. lube. anything you want, they are discreet and fast and easy.
Plus reviews! lots and lots of reviews.
I had no idea this was a thing until today. Although it took me about 5 seconds to realize his roommate was probably huffing. I just assumed kids who huffed had to go through gallons of upside-down whipped cream to get their kicks. Leave it to capitalism to make it easier, with such an innocent looking product.
"Non phallic appearance"
Ahaha. Now that's a selling point.
Do you think she may be feeling down that you two can't have a child and it's having an effect on her emotional state when it comes to love making?
Also, have you tried recommending that you two use a Magic Wand while you two do it? It's a great way for both of you to add some vibes to the gathering and it almost guarantees she'll have a nice orgasm.
Easy Mac & Hot Pockets
most vibrators are phallic in shape if not full penis sized. Consider these classics:
https://www.amazon.com/Original-Magic-Wand-HV-260-Massager/dp/B00005M1WE thats my sword