She doesn't sound crazy, just evil. Check out Sam Vaknin's book on NPD and stay safe.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. Narcissistic abuse is awful.
Sam Vaknin wrote THE textbook on narcissism https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00HDJF7HC
The rest are catchphrases associated with personality disorders - gaslighting, dark triad, psychopath.