What is Reddit's opinion of Mate: Become the Man Women Want?

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I'm also 5'-5" but I work out so I don't appear feminine. The thing is that you can compensate for your height by working harder than others. For example, exercise, make lots of money, improve your skills and confidence, and rent a clean and beautiful apartment.

Race doesn't matter too much in dating. I'm Bengali (basically Indian) and I've never had a problem. Girls tend to overlook race when they see other attractive traits like the ones I mentioned. The height is a big negative but like I said, there are ways around it. I've dated girls much taller than me.

Check out this book. I don't get money from it, I just think it's helpful. https://www.amazon.com/Mate-Become-Man-Women-Want/dp/0316375365/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3QX7U22AVZBO0&dchild=1&keywords=mate+become+the+man+women+want&qid=1615129756&sprefix=mate+be%2Caps%2C158&sr=8-2

I think it would be worthwhile to read a social skills book. For instance, there's this book:

(https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mate-Become-Man-Women-Want/dp/0316375365)

Don't look for dating advice on reddit. You might be able to find a partner on here, but not advice. It's filled with bitter men who can't find girlfriends, misogynist creeps offering "advice" and bitter women who think every man within a metre of them is a threat.

The reality is that most conversations of this sort are really about politics and not the reality of dating, and if you take them literally or engage in them too much, it will reflect badly on you and make people less willing to go out with you.

Most people date not by looking for someone to date or waiting for someone to come along, but by meeting people by chance at events like parties.

If you're a sociable person, this should be your method for finding people. If you are not, you may have worse luck, but there's also a higher chance that there will be the occasional woman out there who is in a similar situation to you.

Most women do indeed wait for someone to date them, but that's because sexism means that the vast majority of women can do that without any issue, and it isn't a reliable dating strategy for men.

Confident men are able to go out of their way to approach women, but if you're the sort of man who struggles to get a date, this approach will come off as creepy unless you're very careful with it.

Many people nowadays are increasingly turning to the Internet to look for dates rather than real life. It's easier to do than in real life, and has also had the downside of making real-life approaches with strangers seem creepier.

However, it's also potentially more dangerous, and there are lots of scam artists, catfishes and bots to watch out for.

One way to find people to flirt with is to use websites like omegle or chatroulette. However, this is not necessarily a good strategy for finding a long term partner.

Mate - Don't let the author or cover fool you. It's a serious book and actually written by the co-author. It looks at the evolutionary biology behind what women want and what men do. Before trying to figure out how to woo women, it helps to understand the differences in their motivations, needs, worries, and pressures.

https://www.amazon.com/Mate-Become-Man-Women-Want/dp/0316375365

Please don't take advice from those forums, even if you want a one night stand.

I got into the "PUA" community when I was younger and their advice is 99% bullshit that won't actually help you. You end up taking in more information then you should and most of it BS and mental masturbation.

It wasn't until after I stopped taking their advice where I lost my virginity. Seriously, that community is filled with low life marketers targeting men with low self esteem.

Read this book, follow the advice, and your dating life should improve. It was written by an evolutionary psychologist (Geoffrey Miller) and Tucker Max.

It is also very much in line with the "sort yourself out" philosophy, you'll be given advice such as go to the gym, fix your diet, keep your place clean, etc.

https://www.amazon.ca/Mate-Become-Man-Women-Want/dp/0316375365/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1499101708&sr=8-1&keywords=mate

You're cool but you need to gain some weight and confidence.

So here's the plan:

1. Head over to /r/gainit, look at some progress pics from skinny dudes gaining weight for inspiration. Create a meal plan, pick a fitness program you like and head over to the gym. Stick with it. It's not about motivation, but about discipline.

2. Read this book. Despite the terribly cheesy title it's actually a great book about 'becoming the best version of yourself possible'.

I'm in my 30s now and I wish someone would have told me these two things when I was younger.

Ah also get a haircut. 6/10 for now but could easily become an 8/10.

I had severe panic attacks when I had that conversation with my STBX wife in 2013. My first stop was a psychiatrist who got me on some medications that really helped. There's no good reason to suffer more than you have to.

Here are a few other recommendations:

Get an apartment that you like... It will make you feel better. It doesn't have to be a long-term decision. But have a place you feel good about.

Go to Ikea and get new stuff. Furnish your place. Use TaskRabbit liberally to do the shitty assembly stuff for you.

Get a therapist... you need someone to talk to. It may seem expensive, but remember, this is a 12-month or less situation.

Before you start dating, I recommend reading Tucker Max's new book, Mate, (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0316375365/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0316375365&linkCode=as2&tag=tucmax-20&linkId=B42LME2RMHW7DM6E) or listen to his podcast, Mating Grounds. It helped me a ton.

When you feel like you're ready (i.e. when you genuinely reach a place where you hope the best for your ex), get on Bumble, Hinge, Tinder, Happn, OkCupid, etc. and start meeting women for drinks. You'll be pleasantly surprised. Good luck.

I can only speculate, but at the time, both were NYT best selling authors whose work originated on the internet, along with others like Robert Hamburger and this other guy called, I think, Dick Masterson (hope I remembered that right)? This was very groundbreaking at the time (early-mid 2000s), so I guess Tucker and Maddox figured it would benefit them both to promote each other.

Eventually Tucker got the movie deal, it ultimately flopped, he went dark for a while, went to therapy, got married and had a kid, quietly emerged again and starting blogging, started a highly successful company, created a podcast centered around a new book, and is now continuing with his company. I think.

Maddox.... well we all know what happened to Maddox.

But to actually answer your question. I think they "split up" due to Tucker's career going in a different direction. Although I never really thought they were "together" in the first place.

Also, worth checking out Mate by Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller.

http://www.amazon.com/Mate-Become-Man-Women-Want/dp/0316375365