Use pee pads every single time! Amazon has lots of choices. We always lay one down whether we change my kid in a changing table, bed, or floor. If the pad stays clean after the diaper change, we just fold it up and use it again.
Also note: THIS IS NORMAL. You did nothing wrong. And maybe, just maybe, the kiddo also just loves peeing when you are the one changing the diaper ;-)
Can you also tell your husband that people have solutions for these things for the longest time already and maybe instead of yelling at you he Googled some solutions for you??
No question the husband is being selfish and disrespectful but fighting in front of the kids makes it ESH. I'm kind of shocked how nobody at the hospital mentioned use of absorbent bed pads as an option.
NTA, but I understand why she was reactive to the situation. I would recommend using CHUX
https://www.amazon.com/Disposable-Underpads-Incontinence-Absorbent-Protection/dp/B07KGGS4SS
They’re not something you wear, just something disposable you can drape over seats. I used to do community outreach and always kept some in my car. It’s something she could feasibly carry in her purse and stash in the car, work, etc and keep in the bed.
I stole a bunch of disposable pads from the hospital that I lay down for free butt time for my daughter. You can get them off Amazon too.