The book you need is by Karen Brody!!! She discusses the 7 masculine archetypes and it is essentially a blueprint of what it means to be a man! Unfortunately the book’s title is awful and wrong, it’s called “Open Her”, but it is not what the book is about. The audio version of the book is excellent!! Highly recommended!!! Link below:
https://www.amazon.com/Open-Her-Activate-Masculine-Powers/dp/B079C83K4F/ref=sr_1_1
Sadly, I've been in this state since my d-day almost 2 years ago. It is extremely unsettling not knowing who you are? What parts of "you" are actually "you" is hard to identify. I ended up living other people's lives. I spent a lot of time with my friend Dave and his family. I spent a lot of time with my brother and his family. I lived other people's lives, so not only do I not know who I am, I didn't even live my own life!
Apparently, the solution is to face your own fears. By facing your fears, you get to know who you are. This is easier said than done in my opinion. But I am a different person to who I was a year ago. So maybe I'm facing my own fears? I'm not sure? If you are a guy, one book that is quite helpful is authored by Karen Brody. She talks about the 7 masculine archetypes and what is essentially a blueprint of what it means to be a man. In the chapters covering the Dark Knight archetype, she discusses the importance of facing your fears. Karen Brody says that going to strip clubs, drinking, fast cars and other things are not freedom. Freedom is not something you “do”! Freedom “are the choices you make”! This made a lot of sense in the way she described it and deconstructed it. At one point she uses the concept of a prison and that you can still “do” things, but “doing” still keeps you inside the walls. And that “making choices” allows you to climb the walls. And its “choices” that enable you to face your fears and traverse the edges of “the dark knight”. Thus, a dark knight doesn’t “do”, he doesn’t bread crumb inside the prison walls. He makes choices to face the things he’s scared of, but does them anyway.
Karen Brody's book is terribly titled. Its called "Open Her", but that has nothing to do with the content of her book in my opinion:
https://www.amazon.com/Open-Her-Activate-Masculine-Powers/dp/B079C83K4F/ref=sr\_1\_1
The following audio book may answer your question. It's about the 7 masculine archetypes that men should possess. Think of it as a blueprint of what it means to be a man. Karen Brody (the author) provides a brilliant explanation with incredible examples. Ignore the title of the book "Open Her" as it doesn't reflect the book at all. It is profound. I had some of the archetypes, but lacked in others. I highly recommend the audio book version as Karen Brody narrates the book exceedingly well.
https://www.amazon.com/Open-Her-Activate-Masculine-Powers/dp/B079C83K4F/ref=sr_1_1