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Could you ask your neighbors to park in your driveway, give the appearance of more people being there?
Do you have pepper spray or mace? Have it at hand in every room you’d be in. You & DH should think through all possible scenarios, what you would do. Having a plan may make you feel calmer. Imagine you’re on the couch, you hear someone coming in from each point of entry, where do you go, what do you differently for each?
Can you & DH schedule friends to sleep over?
Does your security system include panic buttons? If not, there are ones not tied into a system that emit enough noise to scare someone into thinking it’s an alarm. https://www.amazon.com/Personal-Emergency-Self-Defense-Security-Keychain/dp/B076FVX6S1
Can you set up baby monitors or some type of cameras so you can see other rooms from where you’ll be most of the time? Just so every normal noise doesn’t freak you out, you can see that you’re safe.
I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I wish we could help more.
Srs, I have a personal alarm on my keys that is loud AF. Recently a man starting harassing me for money in a parking lot, followed me to my car and banged on my window. I started yelling and honking my car horn and he backed off. You can get personal alarms on amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Personal-Emergency-Self-Defense-Security-Keychain/dp/B076FVX6S1
Call the police. Stop leaving the house without protection. Example: pocket knife, pepper spray, rape alarm. I can't believe this happened to you. I am so mortified for you, and so sorry. Please also tell your parents.
>and for safety I would suggest getting pepper spray over a knife because it’ll scare them off and give you distance
Better still, a personal alarm. It's the one thing that can't be turned against you. Example (there are a zillion options). Connect the noisy part to yourself and the pull-tab to something you can throw some distance.
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I'm still in high school but I used to have the same anxiety that I would be kidnapped or something when I was by myself at home or walking down the sidewalk. I know my situation is different but what helped me was keeping a small alarm near me when I walked home from the bus and stayed in the house alone. The alarm I carried had a key chain that attached to your keys, backpack, etc and you activated it by pulling a pin out and it made a really loud noise. It also had a flashlight so you could blind the attacker or use Morse code. Idk if you would be interested in buying one but here's a link to one on Amazon
Hope this helps and good luck with school
Here's a link to them on amazon: https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B076FVX6S1/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I learned about them in a police class for civilians that I took. They said it's better than pepper spray because you can accidentally spray YOURSELF with the pepper spray, and also because of the drawing attention to get help.
Report the attack to the police non emergency number (416-808-2222). The police can apprehended the person under the Mental Health Act and take them to the nearest hospital for psychiatric examination.
Carry a personal alarm for women and download and play a loud and blaring sound (like the emergency alert sound/purge sound) or a screeching sound like nails on a blackboard on your phone when you feel you are in danger. Spray lots of lavender, peppermint, spearmint, orange, cinnamon, frankincense, vetiver, and ylang ylang essential oils in your surrounding area and on your person. It would promote relaxation from people in your general vicinity and reduce or deter aggressive/hostile people. If you feel the person is getting to close to you, spray more lavender/frankincense between you and the person until they back off and leave or pull your personal alarm if they don't leave. You can also take off one of your high heels and hold the pointy part of the heels out in front of your upper body if a man attacks. People will less likely be a bystander when you are bare feet and holding a shoe in front of you for defense.
Call or email your councillor and explain what happened to you and how it has affected other women that you seen. Raise the issue to your councillor about the increase violence against women and submit a request for increase patrols by TTC special constables in Eglinton subway station and for increase police patrols in the area where the cafe is located.
Rather than pepper spray you can go for an alarm keychain. They’re legal and will make a super loud sound when pressed :) https://www.amazon.ca/Personal-Emergency-Self-Defense-Security-Keychain/dp/B076FVX6S1
Situational awareness and Personal Alarm
I just bought an alarm off amazon (since it's illegal to have pepper spray mailed to you in NY). https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B076FVX6S1/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o07_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Put your headphones on without or with low volume music so you're aware of your surroundings - if they think you can't hear them they will be more likely to leave you alone.
I live by you as well and I know my female neighbor goes to Blink every morning around 6:30 am. I also leave for work around that time and don't have an issue. I don't make eye contact, I walk fast and hard. I'm also older and you'll see once you hit 40 you start to disappear... but nonetheless this aggressiveness is not OK.