What is Reddit's opinion of Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients)?

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If you're going to read just one book, this one has been highly recommended by my psychotherapist friends and loved by my psychotherapist ex-partner!

Another great one one, that's written for a broader public, but brings together attachment styles and non-monogamy.

Below, a small collection of research papers on the topic of consensual non-monogamy (which is broader but includes polyamory):

.Consensual Nonmonogamy: Psychological Well-Being and Relationship Quality Correlates (2014)

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/265392916_Consensual_Nonmonogamy_Psychological_Well-Being_and_Relationship_Quality_Correlates

.Comparing relationship quality across different types of romantic partners in polyamorous and monogamous relationships (2018)

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/328410804_Comparing_relationship_quality_across_different_types_of_romantic_partners_in_polyamorous_and_monogamous_relationships

.A comparison of sexual health history and practices among monogamous and consensually nonmonogamous sexual partners (2015) https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/26395880/

.Jealousy, Consent, and Compersion Within Monogamous and Consensually Non-Monogamous Romantic Relationships (2019)

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007%2Fs10508-018-1286-4

.A Critical Examination of Popular Assumptions About the Benefits and Outcomes of Monogamous Relationships (2012)

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1088868312467087?rfr_dat=cr_pub%3Dpubmed&url_ver=Z39.88-2003&rfr_id=ori%3Arid%3Acrossref.org&journalCode=psra

.Examining relationship quality across three types of relationship agreements (2016)

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1363460716649337?icid=int.sj-challenge-page.similar-articles.2

.Prevalence of Experiences With Consensual Nonmonogamous Relationships: Findings From Two National Samples of Single Americans (2017)

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/27096488/

.The association of an open relationship orientation with health and happiness in a sample of older US adults (2014)

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14681994.2014.976997

Those have special implications for the practice of therapy:

. Counseling Individuals Who Practice Consensual Non-monogamy (2020)

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Stacey-Diane-Litam/publication/346972106_Counseling_Individuals_Who_Practice_Consensual_Non-monogamy/links/5ff1bc32a6fdccdcb8268317/Counseling-Individuals-Who-Practice-Consensual-Non-monogamy.pdf

. They must be sick: consensual nonmonogamy through the eyes of psychotherapists (2022)

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Agnieszka-Lys/publication/336172250_They_must_be_sick_consensual_nonmonogamy_through_the_eyes_of_psychotherapists/links/5e559acfa6fdccbeba02ff5e/They-must-be-sick-consensual-nonmonogamy-through-the-eyes-of-psyc...

. Harmful and Helpful Therapy Practices With Consensually Non-Monogamous Clients: Toward an Inclusive Framework (2018)

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://osf.io/hc39u/download&ved=2ahUKEwji46CQt577AhWFRfEDHSNNDCYQFnoECAcQAQ&usg=AOvVaw3EehNrna7iuGBlw-2Wj0ZY

*I lived in Brazil and speak Portuguese, in case you want to talk to me personally about that, I'd be glad.

OP, tough position but I understand where you are coming from. If you are really keen on working on your relationship, I recommend finding and reading Martha Kauppi's work. She is a marriage and family therapist and has some good resources for mono-poly relationships as well as for those struggling with their partner transitioning to polyamory. Her book "Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients)" has in-depth, helpful guides and worksheets. Really thorough and amazing stuff. See here: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08YWW1JGD/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0

Her recent featured podcasts have been enlightening. I really liked her conversation with Dr. Joe Kort, which you can find here: https://joekort.com/martha-kauppi-on-successful-polyamory/

As well as this one on the Couples Therapy Couch: https://couplestherapistcouch.libsyn.com/086-martha-kaupii-on-open-relationships

Good luck!