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He is way out of line and frankly I’m afraid for you. Does your bedroom door have a lock on it? You can get a travel lock like this which can’t be picked and doesn’t require any installation.
Honestly I’d try to move out of there as soon as possible.
I had to have separate bedrooms and I bought a lock for the door so she couldn't get in. Eventually I just had to get my own home.
Hey, the same thing happened to me... at one point when I was about 14 almost 15 I realized that I was bigger and marginally stronger than my mom so I was able to brute force her out of my room. Soon after I purchased a Hotel Door Lock for like 15 bucks and was able to lock her out of my room. After months of pushback she finally let up. I am 16 now and I am having no issues with that particular problem, its very important to remember to lock your door every night though.
Stop letting him into your room. You can't make your mom pay you, so just stop watching him for you.
On other threads with room entering issues I've seen people suggest getting a portable door lock/hotel room door lock/whatever they want to call it. Here is an example I found on Amazon with a lot of reviews including review videos where they show the product used.
A doorstop might be enough like someone else suggested?
Anyway, I'd focus on just keeping your door closed since that's what you can control and it's nonconfrontational. If anyone asks say you're doing schoolwork.
NTA she needs to learn to be respectful of others privacy. I would suggest getting addalock or anything similar for everyone and the bathrooms so the doors cant be picked and no more barging in. Everyone deserves privacy.
This also has good reviews:
I have this one, it’s not any special brand. [link]
Idk what to tell you other than buy a door lock off Amazon (so your parents don’t have the “key”) and do it in your room. What they don’t see won’t hurt them 🙄
this is actually simple. I am going along the assumption that you have a tub/shower then 2 doors across from each other to each room and then finally sink and a toilet stall of sorts?
If that is the case and there are doors that are directly opposite each other, get a length of rope and loop the ends so that it will snugly go over the door handles. When you are in the shower, hook 'er up and even if they unlock as long as the doors pull into the bedrooms and not the bathroom you are secure inside there until you are ready to release the door.
Unless you have she-hulks as can-mates then that will work.
If it is a single door entry and it swings into the bathroom, then you should look at a hotel door lock that you pop into the strikeplate. [link]
The AirBNB should have basic door and window locks. You can order a door lock enforcer for $15 USD from Amazon, or similar site:
Portable Door Lock Home Security Door Locker Travel Lockdown Locks for Additional Safety and Privacy Perfect for Traveling Hotel Home Apartment College … [link]
I’m a chronic overpacker and so my gut reaction is to tell you to bring a checked bag as well. Because you’re not backpacking or constantly moving around, it will be easier to manage; you don’t want to get stuck with not enough stuff and no money to buy it.
I went thru something similar 5 years ago with my nextdoor neighborhood. I was more directly involved because her boyfriend, who did not live with her, would bang on my door and hers. I'm going to skip over the tips around documenting everything that I need to do because I was more directly involved and focus on more general tips.
I made sure my wood bat was out and I could easily grab it. There is a lot of debate around bat vs gun but I was more comfortable having a bat around.
I started using my travel door lock at home. When he beat on my door hard enough to damage it it helped to keep the door locked. [link]
I eventually worked with my property manager around breaking my lease.
Get one of these
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My sister bought a portable door lock on Amazon for $15 and she feels way safer with it.
Ive used these. LINKY TO TRAVEL DOOR LOCKS Whatever you decide to use make sure it can be removed easily in the event of a fire so you don't get stuck inside. Keep in mind that in the event you have a medical or other emergency and cant get to the door, they will have a difficult time getting in and depending on how you choose to secure the door they might never get in.
something like this might work for you. [link]
I also have something like this for a second door I rarely open or if you need less of a footprint. Otherwise it'd be too much of a hassle to engage every time.
Np.. sorry for assuming and sorry this is happening to you❤️
Buy an adalock. That way no one can come in without you opening your door. Its like $15 on Amazon.
Oh. He’s one of THOSE landlords. Sorry to hear that. This may work for us too. Portable Door Lock Home Security Door Locker Travel Lockdown Locks for Additional Safety and Privacy Perfect for Traveling Hotel Home Apartment College … [link]
There's actually cheap portable locks you can buy which might work better than a doorstopper. I use this one whenever I travel since it makes me feel safer especially in an Airbnb or something
Please get in contact with someone outside your household. Extended family, a favorite teacher, a school counselor or principal, resource officer, a cop, anyone. This is absolutely not okay and you're in danger, even if it doesn't feel like it. Put a lock on your bedroom door if you can, or a safety lock like this, any time you're alone in the house with your father, sleeping, or undressed. Please take precautions to keep yourself safe, honey. The onus shouldn't be on you, but to a degree, it is and I'm so sorry.
Be brave through all this. Your dad is being a creep, whatever happens to him as a repercussion of this, if your parents end up divorcing, etc, isn't your fault. It is the consequences of his actions, the consequences of him being inappropriate with you. As an adult he absolutely knows better and deserves whatever bad things he gets.
We're here for you. Don't be afraid to reach out for help.
Also get a deadbolt that can only be opened from inside the room to ensure privacy while you are in the room. If your parents won’t let you install something, try a portable door lock like this: Portable Door Lock Home Security Door Locker Travel Lockdown Locks for Additional Safety and Privacy Perfect for Traveling Hotel Home Apartment College … [link]
Always use a travel lock
There are portable door locks you can get on Amazon! Idk where you’re located but here’s a link: door lock
Landlords are why I have this with me at every apartment I’ve ever had.
Portable Door Lock
They have his IP address and they are now in his computer. He will need to buy a new computer, change all passwords and buy a better VPN. These people don't play games and my ex husband did this to me, he worked at Apple as a Developer and played all these types of games. They have Trey's banking information, they have it all. He will need to factory reset his phone but maybe even buy a new phone, it just depends. I suggest he get the hotel locks on Amazon and no one clean that hotel room. https://www.amazon.com/Portable-Security-Additional-Traveling-Apartment/dp/B08L7DNXT9/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?dchild=1&keywords=hotel+locks&qid=1622980680&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&smid=A5MI14WE0WGQZ&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEyTUxSQ0dVUEM1UTQ1JmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwMzg0NzUzMzAwOFAzTk1QREo4RSZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwOTYxNjE3TkNOTkU4UU5LR0JLJndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfYXRmJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm90TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ== He is in the military and he will be protected, hopefully.
Tell mom. Then mom tells dad. It's not reasonable to be in an uncomfortable situation.
Also, this could help make sure to keep track of it.
They have portable door locks the size of a keychain you can close in the latch. Even if they unlock the door they aren’t getting in. It also comes in pink!
These things, probably. You wedge the metal bit into the door strike plate, and then a thick plastic piece slides onto that to physically bar the door from opening. Once blocked, you can only open the door by breaking or dislodging the plastic piece.
If you have hard floors, you could also get one of these braces. They wedge under your existing doorknob and use a sticky friction base to prevent the bar from sliding. Putting force on the door just pushes the bar downward, increasing the friction.
Neither is going to stand up to an attacker that can shatter the whole doorframe, like one of those police battering rams, but otherwise will be very secure. Also, barring the door is only one line of defense against a determined attacker, who might just be able to spray bullets right through the drywall.
That's scary. From what I see locksmith is an essential service, but can you find something like this until you can get a callout?
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Hello! I’m non-binary (but female sex) and I’ve studied criminology for over a decade. Let’s start with your home itself; Check to see if all your windows can open and if they have locks. Sometimes windows are painted shut, and while some might think that’s a good thing to keep out intruders, it’s also bad for you because it takes away another escape route. ALWAYS keep your windows and doors locked. If you’re home during the day, opening a window is okay, but make sure it’s locked before sundown. And never keep your doors unlocked for any reason. Everyone is busy so if you’re bringing the mail in or something you might not think to lock the door behind yourself. A quote to live by said from a true crime podcast host is “fresh air is for dead people”. Keep the blinds closed when you’re not home. People will peek in to see if you have any visible valuables. This next part might sound harsh or rude; but never automatically trust someone, neighbors included. If they stop by to welcome you to the neighborhood, introduce yourself on the front porch. You can still be friendly and offer to grab a drink (water, tea, whatever) for them, but don’t just let them inside. Even if you seen them regularly at a nearby house, it doesn’t mean they live there. They could be friends or family of the residents and claim they do live there and use that as an excuse to talk to you or to test if you willingly let them into your home. Trust your gut at all times, even if you can’t explain why someone makes you feel weird or uneasy. You don’t owe that person an excuse if they seem confused or irritated that you no longer want to talk or hang out with them. I always say it’s better to be a rude bitch than a dead bitch lol. If neighbors ask you over for stuff like dinner or coffee; really, really look for any warning signs/bad vibes. I would never go into a house where the only occupant is male (unless they were a gay couple, but still, trust your gut). And do NOT eat offered food that neighbors bring to your door. You can still take the plate inside and say thanks, but toss it out and claim it was good when they retrieve the dishes. I’ll end with home protection products that aren’t nearly as expensive as Ring doorbells/cameras (but I do recommend having cameras around lol). First; this portable door lock. [link]. Put it on your door at night so even if someone has managed to get a key, the door won’t unlock. A lot of people use it when traveling alone for hotel doors. Second; these door and window chime/alarms. They’re marketed for the caretakers of older people with Alzheimer’s so if the patient goes outside, the door will beep loud enough to hear but I think they’re also great to use as home safety. [link]. And last but not least; this unassuming bracelet is able to break glass for emergency situations and also has a tiny key that works with nearly all standard handcuff key. [link]. It was designed by the military for individuals who are at a higher risk of capture. It’s called the GTFO bracelet for a reason lol. A book I highly recommend is “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin de Becker. Fear and anxiety feel awful in the situations they appear in, but keeping your mind sharp and alert can save your life. I hope this helps and feel free to PM me if you have questions. Stay safe ❤️
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If you prefer not having to knock, you could use an extra lock that prevents anyone from coming inside the bathroom while it's occupied. Something like this --->
Maybe something like this? Especially while you're inside for your safety
Get something like this, I bought it for myself and it works pretty well!
I second the locking doors windows point. I live in an apartment and my door did not have a deadbolt. Found this and it gives me some peace of mind
Get yourself a portable Deadbolt (https://www.amazon.com/Portable-Security-Additional-Traveling-Apartment/dp/B08L7DNXT9/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=portable+deadbolt&qid=1626885390&sr=8-2) No need for landlord approval.
Same link, without amazon's tracking-related stuff: [link]
this could work