"she's not going to change," always my favorite JustNo excuse. Must be nice to control the world and everyone in it so we all have to work around the MILs personality. ��
As a practical matter if she's not boundary stomping you to death, I'd keep trying to coexist. Though you might want to remind your DH that he married you when you have the quiet, reserved personality you have now - it's not like you sprung it on him after the fact. Did his attraction to you include the fact that you have a more restful personality than his family? And if so, why would he want you to change it?
ETA: Also, this book is excellent and very informative about introverts, I highly recommend it!
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004J4WNL2/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_9LI2CbQ1WKHWF
I recommend this book/audiobook - “Quiet: the power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking” by Susan Cain. She was a lawyer herself and very much an introvert. Might be helpful to you, perhaps consider checking it out!
https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking-ebook/dp/B004J4WNL2
fellow introvert here! i highly recommend reading this book - i already knew i was an introvert when i read it, but there were sooooo many things discussed in the book that were mind blowing for me. it's really fascinating!
"Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" for kindle just went on sale today for $3 so I'm giving it a try. Will report back if it's any good. https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B004J4WNL2/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_M63R514MEMG9A50M4FBR
I am an introverted person, and have had the same concerns you've had throughout my life. I really recommend reading the book Quite, it helped me come to terms and build confidence in the way I naturally communicate.
I think you're an introvert and realizing it. I've been there too, so I'm not going to suggest scifi, because that might not be something that would help you.
https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking-ebook/dp/B004J4WNL2/
Just a thought. Some of us are given energy by being "socialable and normal", and some of us aren't. You may not have to go the whole aesthetic lifestyle.
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You may also like these books on introverts:
Quiet
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004J4WNL2/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Introvert Power
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00BL5Q6DS/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
This book is about introverts and it has received amazing reviews: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004J4WNL2/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Here's a book that will change your life: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a world that can't stop talking, by Susan Cain.
http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking-ebook/dp/B004J4WNL2
This one was recommended by Stephen Fry. Haven't read it yet, but that gives in legit points in my book.
She also has a great book!
16 This is an eye opening book that is very well writen to describe introverts and how they function in society. It is really inspiring and informative whether you see yourself as an introvert or not. It is a must read if you are interested at all in how your brain works and how people work especially in society. While it may not be an action/adventure/mystery or any other fictional series that is more interesting to most it is a great book. Here is the link to the book http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking-ebook/dp/B004J4WNL2 and here is a speech by the author about it so check this out if you are on the edge of reading it https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4
Yeah, it's somewhat less appealing if you've played a bunch. Anyway, if you two are enjoying playing together, have fun!
Also, perhaps he's just an introvert and you're an extrovert? Introverts and extroverts recharge in different ways. Read Quiet by Susan Cain, it's pretty good.