check out the book recover! it is exactly what you are looking for.
http://www.amazon.com/Recover-Thinking-Reclaim-PERFECT-Program/dp/0738216755
seriously awesome book, it has a ton of work you do in it its not just a book to read.
I've done AA off and on over the last five years. Sober most of the time - but with some relapses.
This time I've realized I just am not compatible with AA. Too much religion (yes - it is religious), dogma, and cultish. Zero science. I've been seeing a therapist and following Recover! Stop Thinking Like an Addict and Reclaim Your Life by Stanton Peele. It's helped immensely.