If you have room in your vehicle I would suggest that you get a lugabaloo. It’s basically a five gallon bucket with a toilet seat as the lid. It’s awesome! I live full time in my vehicle and I almost never use public restrooms. Granted I do have a minivan so I have a little more room. I just double bag it with trash bags and I use kitty litter to kill the scent. Works wonders! And it’s very comfortable too. It’s about the average height of a regular toilet. I sh*t and piss in peace errday.lugabaloo
If you are Canadian, you can get these off the shelf at Canadian Tire, or off of Amazon like the link I provided.
While I commend your ingenuity, the fabric makes this impossible to clean or sanitize. Even if it was only MY OWN shit stains on the material... I wouldn't be able to sit on this more than once.
I use a luggable loo, it's for camping... I cut the bucket in half and use garbage bags in it... I cut in half to size down the height. Makes it easy to go #2 out and about. And if your finding your having accidents more often you may consider depends under garments. No shame in it.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Reliance-Luggable-Liters-Black-Grey/dp/B000FIAPXO
Maybe try this... Its a bucket with a toilet seat... You could cut the bottom of the bucket off trimming the height down bucket and use a thicker garbage bag to pee into... Then take said pee bag and put in another container for disposal. I've used these and they are cheap and great. I transfer garbage bags to two lg ziploc bags and then put in garbage can.
https://www.amazon.ca/Reliance-Products-Luggable-Portable-Gallon/dp/B000FIAPXO
One of these. You can get the bags with the bio gel in them or buy bio gel on the cheap and potty bags.
This: http://www.amazon.com/Reliance-Products-Luggable-Portable-Gallon/dp/B000FIAPXO
No seriously. What if you don't have access? Sawdust (or biogel/bags, etc.) and this bucket will allow you use the restroom comfortably if the water gets turned off or you have no access for some reason. And until you do need it/use it, it can store all your other items.
Also make sure you don't have any friends, or a girlfriend. You're also gonna want to get a shit bucket https://www.amazon.com/Reliance-Products-Luggable-Portable-Gallon/dp/B000FIAPXO
That way you don't have to worry about inconveniences like pooping either.
Next you're gonna want one of these https://www.amazon.com/EZ-DRINKER-Beer-Guzzler-Helmet/dp/B006CUJXMI/ so you can fill one with a protein paste and the other with water.
Follow this advice and you'll be level 300 in no time.
In the woods, crap like a cat and take your TP out with you. “Like a cat” also called a "catholes" means dig a hole at least 6” deep, deposit your poop in here, then cover it back up. The natural soil bacteria will break it down in a short time. To prevent contamination, you do not want to do this within 50 yards of any water source, beaches, rivers, lakes, etc. * Do not bury toilet paper, baby wipes, feminine products, etc in the cathole. * Catholes also are not suited for desert or sandy environments, since there are not enough bacteria present to cause decay, and your poop might be preserved for many years. * Don’t leave turds above ground, it takes much longer for them to decompose. * Catholes are not suitable for highly populated areas or highly popular areas. * Check with the Rangers Office for your particular area for their guidelines for waste management.
If in doubt, carry it out.
In town, visit Sonic, the library, the gas station, the grocery store, where ever you would crap if you were running errands and the urge hit.
For those middle-of-the-night emergencies when I don’t want to leave my nice warm bed and go into the cold outside (and I also don’t want to go into the Walmart at two in the morning and announce that I am sleeping in their parking lot), I have facilities inside the van.
For peeing, I use an old backpacker’s trick called a “pee bottle”, which is just what it sounds like—an empty plastic bottle with a tight-fitting lid. I like large Gatorade bottles with the wide mouth; some people prefer to use opaque nalgene water bottles so nobody can see what’s inside it. In the middle of the night, without even leaving my sleeping bag, I can open the bottle, pee inside, close it tightly, and empty it out in the morning. A dash of chlorine bleach inside takes care of any sanitary problems. Of course this is best-suited for guys, though I have seen female backpackers make ingenious use of a funnel for this.
There are actually commercially-available devices, called the “SheWee " and "Go Girl ", that are available for females to allow them to urinate while standing up.
* Chick Tip: Practice with your GoGirl/SheWee in the shower a few times to acquire correct placement and flow control.
Or buy/make an Emergency potty for yourself. Luggable Loo Portable 5 Gallon Toilet,or Cleanwaste Wag Bags Toilet Kit Pack of 6, or Medical Steel Folding Bedside Commode lined with a plastic trash bag and some cat litter, pine shavings, or peat moss. The poop gets tied up tightly inside the trash bag and then gets disposed of in a garbage can or dumpster in the morning, just like a used baby diaper or doggy doo bag.
There are instructions online for making wag bags on your own, with various adsorbents, deodorants, and bags.
The standard "cassette" toilets of Thetford and Camco are quite popular. These can be emptied into any flushing commode for easy disposal, or can be poured into blackwater dump sites.
Then there are composting toilets and incinerator toilets and "dry-flush" bagging toilets.
Many states have passed the Restroom Access Act (Ally's Law) for people with specific medical conditions to have access to bathroom. You can also request for a card here.
In any case, I too have a similar set up, but in my car in case of an emergency in the middle of a drive. It's a bucket but with a toilet seat that you can get on Amazon
I've tried those, but have had...less-than desirable results. Apparently I lack the sort of coordination needed to use one without peeing all over myself. ��
So I did the next best thing and created my very own Whiz Palace! It's essentially a large bucket with a toilet seat on top; I secure a small trash bag inside and fill with cedar shavings (like you'd put in a small pet cage), to mitigate any noise or smell. The toilet is then placed inside a pop-up shower tent and voila! I also include toilet paper and other accouterments. I change the bag and cedar daily. It's not pretty, but it beats the heck out of stumbling to a porta-potty at 5am.
Will the lugaloo fit in the frunk?
Reliance Products Luggable Loo Portable 5 Gallon Toilet https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000FIAPXO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_bZfoFbB8VZFGX
Yeah, I wondered that myself. I think you'd need something like this:
http://www.amazon.com/Reliance-Products-Luggable-Portable-Gallon/dp/B000FIAPXO
Definitely get a therapist and medical team involved!
Once medical issues have been ruled out, work with the therapist to come up with a trauma-informed plan.
You may need to get creative. It's possible that she's had trauma in the bathroom and/or specifically related to the toilet. In fact, I would probably assume that she has had trauma around this issue, especially if her parents were emotionally volatile or if there was any abuse. Toileting issues can bring out strong emotions in adults!
Here are some creative ideas:
Try to be neutral when she has accidents. Involve her in clean-up but in a non-shaming way, similar to how you would have her clean up some water she spilled. I'd try to keep in mind that it could be out of her control due to undiagnosed physical or mental health issues and always respond with this possibility in mind.
You are going to want one of these https://www.amazon.ca/Reliance-Products-Luggable-Portable-Gallon/dp/B000FIAPXO
NTA, a perfectly justifiable consequence for her actions.
I would invest in one of these: https://www.amazon.ca/Reliance-Products-Luggable-Portable-Gallon/dp/B000FIAPXO
combined with https://www.amazon.ca/Reliance-Products-Double-Doodie-Toilet/dp/B0024O0W94/
for emergencies in the future. Your youngest should be required to use a pail, but what if someone else is on the can doing some slow business, having this as a back up is far better then shitting your pants or just a "pail".
I use this when i'm up at the cabin, the outhouse is a good 300 meter walk from my cabin, and when it's -10 at night and ya gotta go, that walk is not a lot of fun.
$20
Reliance Products Luggable Loo Portable 5 Gallon Toilet https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000FIAPXO/
I recommend using liners in the bucket, you tie them off like a dog waste bag.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000FIAPXO/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Edit: Everything fits under my queen-size bed with room to spare, except the bucket toilet thing, that lives in a closet.
Found out about this by way of /r/vandwellers:
https://www.amazon.com/Reliance-Products-Luggable-Portable-Gallon/dp/B000FIAPXO
Don't forget one of these.
if doing it all at once, i suggest getting one of these
This is more official: http://www.amazon.com/Reliance-Products-Luggable-Portable-Gallon/dp/B000FIAPXO
Yeah, these things are a fucking blessing for camping far away from civilization.
All I can say is if you go to genpop, bring http://www.amazon.com/Reliance-Products-Luggable-Portable-Gallon/dp/B000FIAPXO/ref=pd_bxgy_sg_img_y
I'm not even going to try to do public toilets again this year.
$18 on Amazon