Can't comment much on cymbals but I had the Yamaha KP65 kick drum and 'upgraded' to the Roland KD-10. I didn't notice any difference in noise level at all (both still quite noisy) although the KD-10 has a nicer strike feeling.
I'm using a felt beater but I've seen the quiet beater recommended so that may help you if you're prepared to put up with the difference in feel. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Roland-KDB-200-Practice-Kick-Beater/dp/B07DXZS55B
If your only concern is the pad noise impinging on yourself then I've found that drumming headphones are great for blocking out all external noise.
You can use any beater with any kick pedal. Some just flip around the beater so the plastic side hits the drum head. My double-kick pedal has felt beaters, so I bought two of these and replaced them. To replace the beaters you just use your drum key and loosen the nut that holds them in. https://www.amazon.com/Roland-Electronic-Drum-Accessory-KDB-100/dp/B07DXZS55B/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=plastic%2Bkick%2Bbeaters&qid=1595612481&sr=8-1&th=1