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There are actually a few, but it's not necessary to follow a road map. If you want some structure you might want to try Rules of the Game as it has structured homework assignments and related lessons. But you don't need it.
Learning is not a straight road. It's a twisty one and everyone walks their own twisty path.
For a true beginner. Get this book.
https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Game-Neil-Strauss/dp/0061911690
It works on your confidence and self image. Its supposed to take 30 days but if your anxiety is bad, you may need to repeat earlier days until you're comfortable.
Really honestly, if you want to learn how to practice shit like this read The Rules of The Game by Neil Strauss. It's a book designed to impart pick-up-artist skills to guys who are unwashed, awkward, and introverted. Don't read it with the intention of learning pick up, read it to see how one puts into practice new skills (social or otherwise) on a day to day basis scaling up from "totally theoretical" to "used to trying new things." There's a lot of overlap between the pick up and social engineering communities, this is just a book that can show you how people with one goal learn to implement new behaviors outside of their comfort zone.
Based solely of your pictures your insecurity is radiating! I would recommend this book to practice, I did this myself. It helped massively. It contains tips about how to dress to impress for cheap, seeming secure about yourself through eye contact and voice analyzing. You have one task each day from making eye contact with strangers, saying hi to them, saying hi to them while making eyecontact, saying hi to them while making eyecontact deep enough to note the persons eye color and so on. The looks aren't your problem, it's probably your charisma and posture.
> Girls seem to think that I'm creepy and boring, even though I try my hardest not to do anything creepy around girls.
A couple of points... creepy is NOT necessarily bad. A famous PUA named 60 Years of Challenge actually makes the point that you have to "risk being creepy" at some point. Being (somewhat) creepy is actually OK... how's that for a shock, huh? The thing is, don't be apologetic about being creepy! If you look at a girl and she "catches" you looking, don't look away like you got caught doing something naughty. Maintain eye contact for a second or two, smile, then look away. If she smiled back when you smiled, go talk to her. If not, ignore her. Or if you just want to do some inhibition breaking immersion stuff, intentionally try making it creepy.... she "catches" you looking, pointedly look her up and down, undress her with your eyes, lick your lips and then smile. She may give you a disgusted look and leave, but pretty soon you'll learn that the worst thing that can happen is usually just that... nothing. You're not going to get security called on you, or get water thrown on you, or get beaten up or anything.
Ross Jeffries shares some immersion style exercises you can do, and there are some things like that in Style's other book Rules of the Game. Consider going through some of those exercises. One is this: go to a mall, spend a few hours going up to girls and going "Excuse me, my name is Manny the Martian.... what's your favorite flavor of bowling ball?" Once you do that a few times, you'll start to realize that girls really don't have any power to hurt you by rejecting you. If one rejects you, you just move on to the next one.
I know this is a bit off the source but have you heard of the pickup artist Neil Strauss. Check out his book Rules Of The Game I gave this book to a good friend of mine after he lost 120lbs of cancer.
There's an even greater tragedy here: Strauss tried to sell an actual book to help people, not to tell the story or PUAs. Here it is.
Effectively, it was a 30-day program to try to get people to get a date. And, it was broken down into little missions to do each day to get people prepared, and he was smart enough to know that his reading audience would be starting from a very rudimentary level. I did almost all of the social anxiety missions.
Missions included things like "meet the neighbors": knock on the neighbor's door, say "Hi, I'm (name), and I figured I'm come say hello because we're neighbors and we've never met before." Talk for 15 minutes, and leave. Sometimes, it included finding local magazines or news papers, and looking for events that seem interesting to go to, and go to them. Another was "Moviephone", where you're calling people anonymously in the white pages. Ask for someone's name, and when they say you've got the wrong number, thank them, but say that you're going to the movies with the person you were calling for, and can you recommend a movie? If you get the random person to give you a movie recommendation, you win. There's even a very scary mission...ask people for spare change.
It may be a little annoying and creepy, but how the hell else are we going to deal with the glut of people we have who aren't socialized?
I didn't go through the whole thing, but I did do a lot of it. The last social anxiety mission was a choice: go do an open-mic set at a comedy club, or go sing karaoke. I did the latter. It was hard, but I survived, and I'll remember it for the rest of my life.
All in all, we have a problem of people who aren't capable of living in a society we have, and we're going to need to do something about it. Because if we don't, they'll do something about it themselves.
There’s also a book about all sorts of “steps” you can take to build confidence… it’s old, it’s aimed squarely at men, but the tactics for being less shy work regardless of gender: https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Game-Neil-Strauss/dp/0061911690/
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try this book
my guess is you dont know how to play the game.
It's part of a book written by Neil Strauss : http://www.amazon.com/Rules-Game-Neil-Strauss/dp/0061911690
That book is a sort of sequel to The Game by the same author: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0060554738/ref=pd_aw_fbt_14_img_2?ie=UTF8&refRID=1W1TT40KN9QVY4EE07RG
This is the website with the extra book contents: http://www.stylelife.com/challenge/
The Mystery Method: How To Get Beautiful Women Into Bed
The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction
How to Win Friends & Influence People
Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion
etc.
Also, the mastermind forum on mASF.
There's a lot of material on youtube as well. Just search for the names of some of the well known gurus.
It's called Approach Anxiety and it is something everybody has to deal with. There are different ways of learning to cope with it, some ways work better for some guys than others. But the gist of overcoming it involves:
detaching yourself from the outcome. When you don't attach any particular meaning to the outcome of any given interaction, when you can treat each approach as "practice" or "play" then it becomes a lot easier.
building your overall confidence; there are multiple different kinds of confidence and different ways of developing them. Ross Jeffries has a lot of good material on this topic, and there are plenty of books on building confidence at amazon.com, or in the self-help section at Borders or Barnes & Noble. I highly suggest checking out some of those resources. There's a lot of stuff that can be done with NLP, hypnosis, etc. in this area as well. If you can find a competent hypnotist or NLP practitioner in your area, consider working with them.
Immersion. Just go out, and approach every woman you can... whether or not she's attractive, and with no intention of "sarging" her per-se. Just get used to talking to women in general. Talk to old women, fat chicks, the cashier who rings you up, your waitress, the girl in the clothing store at the mall, whatever.
Newbie mission: If you want something a little more structured, google for some of the various newbie missions that are out there. Or consider picking up a copy of Rules of the Game and do the Style-life 30 Day Challenge. They have a forum setup specifically to discuss that. The Don Juan Bootcamp is also worth a look.
You need to learn the rules of the game.
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and everytime they mention the game, styles, mystery, the old days they are referring to this book
Read Rules of the Game. Do the challenges how they are meant to be done. They may not be the best way to go about (the absolute right way is always debatable), but they will definitely give you the right frame of mind as to how you should approach women. It's an easy way to start. There's some great exercises on evaluating yourself and how you need to improve your inner game.
It's probably outdated. Try this.
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