What is Reddit's opinion of S.E.X., second edition: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties?

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I understand, and I didn't mean to sound callous. I just did some digging on Amazon, and by all accounts, this book is a must-have for teens. It covers sex, consent, and relationships for everyone - male, female, cis, LGBTQ+, etc. You might even be interested enough to read it yourself! ☺

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I strongly recommend getting this book.

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I got this book for kiddo - it's way detailed, but still age appropriate.

I also told him that it might be too much for him.....which sure as shit got him to pick it up, immediately.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0738218847/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I'm gonna concur that you need to hash this out with a therapist you trust. But I'm also going to recommend this book by Heather Corrina. It might be targeted to a slightly younger audience, but they're brilliant when it comes to inclusivity.

I feel like a good way to handle this (for many family dynamics, at least) is to get your daughter a good quality book about sex and relationships geared towards highschool and college age people. Your daughter is going to be getting all sorts of information from her friends, boyfriends, the internet etc., and it's the best scenario to start her off on an well informed platform on the subject. And this helps to take the awkwardness out of sitting her down and having a direct conversation about something like masterbation, as I'm sure there aren't many 14 year old girls who are going to be thrilled about being blindsided by that talk with their dad.

Even better may be to buy two copies. Give her one and tell her that you/your wife are going to read the other, and you guys are happy and open to discuss anything of the topics in it if she has any questions or wants to talk.

I'm old enough to have a toddler of my own, but young enough to clearly remember high school and college. Your comment in the original post about not wanting your daughter to run off headlong into college without any dating experience of sorts is 100% correct, in my experience. That also applies to social experiences, partying, independence with money, responsibilities, all of that. Obviously withing reason and with a framework, but that's what you can provide as a parent while your kid is in highschool. Some of the craziest kids I met in college, and some of the fastest dropouts, were kids who were never allowed any freedom and independence in highschool and were then released into a freshman college dorm halfway across the country. Guys and girls alike.

A quick search led me to this book as a possibility options:

S.E.X., second edition: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738218847/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_navT_g_ERD9E7HQ2MM1VGCJRXHD?psc=1

76% of American Female Adolescents get their first period between their 11 birthday and 13th birthday.

Meaning when they are 11 or 12 years old. So... late 5th grade to early 7th grade is the nearly 3/4 majority. About 10% before their 11th birthday and the other 14% after their 13th birthday.

Source: The book in my lap right now

Isn't this the high school book she's referring to?

https://www.amazon.com/X-second-All-You-Need-Know-Sexuality/dp/0738218847/

That's the best sex ed book I've seen for people older than 13.

For sex ed, www.scarleteen.com is great. They cover healthy relationships and boundaries as well as just the sex part. I highly recommend it for people who grew up in religious environments with an emphasis on gender roles. Their site has a search function and posts are tagged, so you can always just bookmark it for when you need it. They also have a book that I need to dig into.

I (cis woman) was basically taught to be passive and wait for a man to ask me out, then let him run roughshod all over me in the relationship. Learning how to actually communicate my needs has definitely been helpful.

Since no one has mentioned these things, op, for educating yourself with confidence in your own knowledge and body, please check out [Planned Parenthood's website](www.plannedparenthood.org/learn) or their YouTube channel for sex education, as well as AMAZE, a global sex education platform with explainers; the animated videos are meant for kids and teens, but the facts are very helpful. Lastly, [Scarleteen](www.scarleteen.com) is a collection of blog-type posts on sex ed written from a teen perspective... but the info is still really interesting and relevant, like your original question today. If you wanted a book to read, Heather Corinna's S.E.X., second edition: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide To Get You Throught Your Teens And 20s

GG, uncle!

I don't understand parents who limit their child's information about sex. They are setting their kids up to be unsatisfied and unsafe at best, manipulated and abused at worst.

I told my kids everything about sex, consent, safety, health, relationships, etc. and then when I ran out of information, I bought them each a copy of S.E.X. by Heather Corinna. There's no such thing as being overeducated.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0738218847/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tpbk_p1_i0

Here are two I bought, these are the US Amazon links:

• s.e.x: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by Heather Corrina

-SEX: An Uncensored Introduction by Nikol Hasler

1. I'm so sorry this happened to your daughter. Make sure she understands you're sorry for her, not angry with her. She's at a tender age when she's old enough to have sexual desires but young enough to where she can be manipulated and taken advantage of, which is what's happened. She's more a victim than a wrongdoer and you should treat her that way.

2. As others have said, your first priority should be to find a therapist for her to talk to, preferably multiple times a week. Find someone who specializing in young teens who she'll be comfortable talking about sex and body issues with.

3. Unlike what some others have said, I don't think harsh punishment is the way to go. You should set it up so her devices/communications are monitored going forward but not take them away completely. She needs to prove she behave in an age appropriate way, not be denied digital connections completely.

4. It sounds like her actions are being born out of severe body insecurities. This is VERY hard to fix, but there are many things you can do. There are some things I do with my daughter to grow her body acceptance. Here are some things I do with my daughter in an attempt to grow body acceptance:

   • My daughter and I go to clothing-optional hot springs and she's allowed to be naked around the home. This is a non-sexual way to accept her own naked body.
     
   • She attends women's only yoga and mindfulness retreats without me, where they do spa and mud type things. My daughter is young enough to where this is a day-spa type thing, but they have overnight camps and the like for older girls. (note: Covid has put restrictions on this for now)
     
   • Focus on positive body-control activities and reinforce with body-positive language. The best looking, most attractive people are those that work out and eat healthy, not those that eat too little and starve themselves. Reinforce this with a healthy meal and workout plan and stick to it, especially activities she enjoys. My daughter loves hiking and swimming, but if yours prefers aerobics, weightlifting, soccer, etc then that's good too. Find something she likes and DO IT WITH HER.

5. Talk to her about healthy expressions of sexuality, relationships, consent, and all of that. Do not shame her. At her age she should be exploring her body, masturbating, wondering about sex, and having sexual urges... but at her age sexual behavior (including over the internet) isn't healthy. There are some good books like this one:

   • S.E.X., second edition: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties
     
   • The Every Body Book

The summation is: Your daughter is a victim and needs your support, not your condemnation. What she did isn't acceptable, but she's at an age where she needs more of a support network than she does punishments. Restrict her access to a level that you monitor and make sure she's using the internet in a healthy way, and explain that's not a punishment it's you protecting her from others and making sure she's remaining healthy. Get her a therapist and work on body positivity and body acceptance through activities, working out, and eating healthy.

Thank you for your very sweet response! I'm the lucky one to have my wonderful kid. I just have one daughter, (but sometimes when her ADHD is really fired up it seems like many more!)

In the UK you gals have that wonderful NHS for your medical needs, unlike here in the US where just getting insurance coverage of women's health has been a huge political battle, and now our damned new congress is taking what we did have away. So since you have a great healthcare system... USE IT! First, I think you need to talk to your GP about your phobia of being touched, because that's gonna need to be dealt with in a therapists office, and as I understand it, you'll need a referral for that? The treatment will likely be a combination of gentle, gradual desensitizing and probably with a prescription of anti-anxiety meds, plus talking out your feelings as you desensitize the fear and discomfort to understand where they came from in the first place.

And this would be a great thing for you to start with, because there are SOOOO many wonderful "girly" things that await you as a reward... spas, and facials, and invigorating salt scrubs and detoxifying aromatherapy body wraps (imagine being in the warm, sweet center of a wonderful hot cup of chamomile tea... so comfortable you almost fall into a nap, and coming out with amazingly soft skin), manicures, pedicures, and many types of massages. You have the greatest spas and beauty treatments and gourmet foods on the planet over there, so there are rewards aplenty ahead for every step forward you put into this journey. And these things are all designed to pamper you - they are sensual without being sexual as you beautify. And... take a deep breath and forget about mean disparaging words like "frigid" or what some schmuck "partner" might want. This is about YOU enjoying YOU. It's about enjoying all 5 senses - because they are yours to enjoy! If I might ask, what are your favorite things to enjoy? Are you a foodie? Or a musician? Athletics? Visual art or sculpture? Sing in the shower? Dance to the radio? Walks in nature? Banging on drums ... What relaxes and recharges you? it's not about pleasing anyone else, not about what it's "ladylike" to like... but what you DO like?

I don't know who told you, "you don't see a gynecologist until you're 25"... but women have different parts than men, and things can go wrong with them at any age. I'm a firm believer of empowerment through education - having the knowledge of your body's workings, and the decision making power over every facet of your being, BEFORE the question of "other partner" even is on the horizon. So quit worrying about words like "frigid" or what some dude you haven't even met yet might or might not want. Take time to be you, and learn what you like, and what pleases and works for YOU. Make your own well-being your first and only priority right now.

So, Amazon books also serves the UK, here's the link to that fabulous SEX book I told you about. And it's not written for 13 year olds... at 23, it's still perfect for you. Promise. And my beloved Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts is there as well.

Introduce them to the Scarleteen website. This site can answer any and all questions about sex and sexuality.

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Also consider buying them both a copy of this book:

S.E.X., second edition: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties Paperback

Hey there get this book S.E.X., second edition: The... https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738218847?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf It has a whole section on what you are dealing with there.

I think you can tell your parents that you are concerned that your siblings will be entering high school without any sex education, and you would like to volunteer to give them some information if your parents don't want to. Here is a list of suggested ones. http://sexedconference.com/sex-education-books-for-teens/ I'd give this one https://www.amazon.com/S-E-X-second-All-You-Need-Know-Sexuality/dp/0738218847/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_0/144-4227415-6819751?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=ATPD1YVM1R6T524M6SHV one copy to each teen.

And I'd suggest that your mother read a copy too and write in the margins any thing she wants to add, and then trade her copy out for the teen's and do it again for the other teen.

You should probably also tell your parents that they might want to get one of the new books from Deseret Book about sexuality for grownups too.

And in addition to your siblings needing to understand their own bodies, real education here includes understanding their own worth and how teens get caught up things they never planned to get caught up into. Be sure to tell them they should always have a buddy and they are in danger physically every time they get drunk or high and every time others around them get drunk or high. And that sharing a faith on the outside doesn't mean that the other person might not take advantage of you, so look for actions, not words or appearances, or what calling parents have.