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Change the locks! Have a heart to heart with SO about how awful you felt at that moment and how you never want to feel like that again. Ask for his help in strengthening up the house security. Follow whatever rules are there on your lease, but definitely do what you can to protect yourself. Amazon has alarm door wedges (or just search "alarm door wedge. I haven't actually owned this product. It was just the top of the search) that you can stick under any door and it will have a shrill sound when opened. Might be a decent temporary measure.
Look up wedge door alarms. They scream/beep when activated, and they don't require any installation. One for your front door, one for your bedroom.
This doesn't fix the MIL and SO problem, but could you install a door chain or a deadbolt that is only accessible from the inside? (Make sure to use the longest screws you can find in case she loses her mind further and decides to body slam the door.)
There's also these door blocks that scream when activated.
At least then you could have privacy in the bedroom
Many one star reviews. Seems like a good idea. I wonder where the fault is.
This looks interesting: https://www.amazon.com/SABRE-Wedge-Security-Alarm-Siren/dp/B00M30SQGA/ref=mp_s_a_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=door+security&qid=1631194479&sr=8-5
You could also consider something like this for the inside of your door while you’re in there (overnight):
I'm so sorry you don't feel safe in your own home. There's also door stops with alarms, like this onethis one. Backup for the door lock and also an alarm.
There are door wedge alarms, too - best of both worlds. $10 cheap!
Pair this with maybe a chain lock and an indoor camera in case you're sleepwalking.
If your door swings open:
SABRE HS-DSA Wedge Door Stop Security Alarm with 120 dB Siren --- Great for Home, Travel, Apartment or Dorm https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00M30SQGA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_GA4C7R0AMBRHS0BG7FB1
If your door swings out:
GE 45115 Personal Security Window/Door, 2-Pack, DIY Protection, Burglar Alert, Wireless Chime/Alarm, Easy Installation, Ideal for Home, Garage, Apartment, Dorm, RV and Office, White, 2 Count https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00178HMCI/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_JR8MTC3A13PJQEPP574J
These will at least help while you are asleep
i use this when i travel to shady hotels in usa or anywhere really
Meditating before bed could help reduce some stress and allow for a better sleep. Don’t sleep with electronics in the bedroom or while in bed as this disrupts your natural sleep pattern even further.
Could also put down a tub of cold water where you put your feet down so the cold wakes you up.
You could set up bells on the door that might alarm you when you open the door. (Like the doggy hanging bells) or even an alarm that sets off when you open the door.
There’s quite a few things you can try from Amazon. . But personally I like the door stopper. That can stop you from wondering out and also might wake you up soon as you try.
If you can’t install a door latch as the other posters suggested, try a door wedge alarm. No installation, no DIY skills required. Stay safe OP!
This: https://www.amazon.ca/SABRE-CHS-DSA-Wedge-Security-Alarm/dp/B00M30SQGA/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=3IY3D7KHT01OQ&keywords=door+jam+alarm&qid=1648701829&sprefix=door+jam+a%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-3 BEST little investment ever!
A friend of mine has a Door Wedge alarm like this: https://www.amazon.com/SABRE-Wedge-Security-Alarm-Siren/dp/B00M30SQGA
I was playing around with it one day in my hands and accidentally set it off, and let me tell you it would definitely wake anyone asleep nearby up, and scare off anyone trying to open the door - it's loud as hell. In addition, since it's a door wedge, it stops the door opening as well.
I hope that it can give you the peace of mind to sleep soundly at night at least
Get very stern next time he does it and buy one of these.
Maybe to using a alarm door stopper like this
One of our FAs posted a video of a few men trying to break into her room in Paris a few weeks ago and when they heard the door alarm go off they ran away. She said both items saved her life.
Door Alarm Stopper
Portable Door Lock
Install a Wyze motion camera,it sends a text to your phone if its senses motion.When I lived in a condo I put one of those pressure alarm stops on the front door when I slept.
I was thinking the doorstop/alarm/siren hybrid. Mwahahah
Tagging onto this, I recommend getting privacy film for the windows. I bought two different ones off of Amazon—one for my back door that’s black, and one for my bedroom window that looks like stained glass. My bedroom window faces a high traffic area in my apartment complex, so I didn’t even want to deal with it.
Personally, I recommend the stained glass one. It looks nice, breaks everything up into fractal shapes so it’s hard to see anything even when I shove my face against the window from the inside/outside, and throws rainbows around my room when I have my curtains open.
The benefit of the black one is you can look outside during the day without a problem and they’d have to get CREEPILY close to look in and see you. PLUS it keeps the room cooler by blocking out some sun!
You’d still definitely want the curtains pulled at night. With the black one, if it’s lighter inside than it is outside, people can see in. With the rainbow one, the same is true but everything looks blocky/censored so it’s super hard to make out details.
There are also frosted versions but I’ve never tried them.
Additionally there are 120db door alarm wedges and window and door alarms that will scare the piss out of anyone attempting to get in.
SABRE HS-DSA Wedge Door Stop Security Alarm with 120 dB Siren --- Great for Home, Travel, Apartment or Dorm https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00M30SQGA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_1JJ2PCYKGGTV28FYXG7R
Buy this doorstop alarm
Maybe use one of those door stop alarms
SABRE HS-DSA Wedge Door Stop Security Alarm with 120 dB Siren --- Great for Home, Travel, Apartment or Dorm https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B00M30SQGA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_FJQEKBA50K2V36B5YHB3
maybe something like this?
You might want something like this in addition to the security bar to help wake you up.
SABRE HS-DSA Wedge Door Stop Security Alarm with 120 dB Siren --- Great for Home, Travel, Apartment or Dorm https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00M30SQGA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_6szoFb4CR8837
I recommend these for your new doors.
NTA I don't want to disrespect your mother by saying she is a moron or her BF by saying he is a moronic pig. I will just simply suggest you spend a couple bucks at amazon for a wedge with an alarm https://smile.amazon.com/SABRE-Wedge-Security-Alarm-Siren/dp/B00M30SQGA/ref=sr_1_3?crid=XUYYF79OGOUF&dchild=1&keywords=door+wedge+alarm&qid=1594030918&sprefix=door+wedge%2Caps%2C145&sr=8-3
best of luck
My advice is to buy these.
SABRE HS-DSA Wedge Door Stop Security Alarm with 120 dB Siren --- Great for Home, Travel, Apartment or Dorm https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00M30SQGA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_4B-zDbZBTHTAD
Many women who travel use a door stopper alarm.
Window Door Alarm, Toeeson 120db Pool Alarm for Door, Door Security Alarm for Home and Hotel https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07SLKBBHK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_jD-zDb3RWMX7B