What is Reddit's opinion of Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man?

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The other shameful part is that those of us who aren't normally like that often get shamed into being more 'manly' - i.e. acting like dicks - around other men. I've always preferred hanging out socially with women because of this.

Yes, there is a thing. Check out this book:

Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000OT8GTE/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

In it she suffers severe depression as a result of her experiment.

I'm remembering a book called Self-Made Man that covered a woman's experiences masquerading as a man to catch a more authentic view of masculine interactions. It might be interesting to you. I can give you some more of my thoughts on masculinity if you want, but they'll be rambly and somewhat scattered.

For the simplest explanation why he specifically says that white men are the most put upon people, though, I suggest doing some quick google research on white feminism. People are always going to be more aware of the issues that they themselves face, and consequently think that they're the weightiest issues of the time. So while there's a lot to untangle about masculinity and a lot more about what issues get air time vs. which ones don't, never underestimate the power of good old fashioned cognitive biases.

Not quite what you are asking for but I cannot recommend enough Norah Vincent's Self Made Man for those interested in finding out female experience of what it is like to be a man.

The book you're thinning of is Norah Vincent's <em>Self-Made Man</em>, and it is excellent.

> My impression is women just broadly don’t get the male experience, and how much social capital you lose by being male instead of female...

If you want to give them a taste, I recommend having them read <em>Self-Made Man</em> by Norah Vincent. She disguises herself as a man and goes to strip clubs, dates straight women, joins a bowling team, and even joins a men's support group. People sometimes assumed she was gay, but nobody clocked her. Afterwards she revealed that she was a woman and while her male friends were surprised, they took it well.

I'm a man, so it was funny to read her experiences. She was shocked by how hard it is to pick up women. She was also surprised by what women found attractive in men. She initially thought that she'd have an easy time dating because she'd understand women better than men. But to her surprise, women much preferred a strong and stoic psyche to a vulnerable and empathetic one. She also had no idea just how much men suffer (since they tend to do so quietly).

Her view changes are best summed up in an interview with ABC:

> "Men are suffering. They have different problems than women have, but they don't have it better," she said. "They need our sympathy. They need our love, and maybe they need each other more than anything else. They need to be together."

> Ironically, Vincent said, it took experiencing life as a man for her to appreciate being a woman. "I really like being a woman. ... I like it more now because I think it's more of a privilege."