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This is so normal theres a whole SLAA Journal on the subject (its free) and its discussed in our Text Book in Chapter 7 from memory. Just a stepping stone to recovery

We know we are getting well when we start treating other members like our brothers and sisters in recovery, not objectifying them to feed our need to get a hit xx

As a young woman in early marriage, I had constant crushes on my bosses. Usually married and always unavailable. It was part of a Romantic Fanstasy Addiction - a longing for an effortless happy ever after as a way of checking out of Reality that was not always easy. Escapism, work and distraction are my drugs of choice.

The disease progressed over 3 decades to much much worse than romantic obsessions. It is a progressive disease.

I am delighted for you that you are looking at getting help so early. You have so much to gain and nothing to lose letting go of unhelpful obsession. I hope you find good meetings with members who have recovery you would like for yourself.

The SLAA Romantic Obsession reading was helpful too. See here for example https://sanantonioslaa.org/newcomers/romantic-obsession/

And if you like it and want to know more, you can buy the SLAA Basic Text from Amazon here https://www.amazon.com.au/Sex-Love-Addicts-Augustine-Fellowship-ebook/dp/B00KF2SIWA

Anyone who needs a Basic Text URGENTLY, its quick and cheap to purchase and download from Amazon or Apple: https://www.amazon.com.au/Sex-Love-Addicts-Augustine-Fellowship-ebook/dp/B00KF2SIWA

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Just until your copy of the book arrives in the post :)

Thank you for sharing. Hope you don't mind a few suggestions to consider- take what you like and ignore the rest.

Turning around my existing primary relationship was easier once I set aside my doubts and tried what was suggested (ie it works if you work it. Who knew?! )

I had to put all 5 Preamble Resources in place instead of spinning my wheels wasting time and energy only doing some of the suggestions (the easy ones!)

The Building Partnerships Chapter of the SLAA Handbook especially the section called "Reconciliation Project" really helped.

So did asking for outreach at SLAA Healthy Relationship meetings and building a group of trustworthy friends in SLAA to Zoom/instant message/call to discuss how to apply the Steps and Traditions when relationship issues come up.

To stay happy, joyous and free no matter what crazy stuff happens around me, I do my best to:

• maintain my bottom lines (4 years sober in SLAA this month!)
• listen to SLAA Recordings,
• work the Steps a little every day,
• go to 3 SLAA meetings a week,
• do Outreach daily (by phone, in SLAA WhatsApp Groups and of course right here!)
• build and maintain a group of trustworthy friends in SLAA to Zoom/instant message/call to discuss how to apply the Steps and Traditions when relationship issues come up.
• do Service where I can help Carry the Message (our Primary Purpose)
• have a sponsor and am a sponsor
• figure out how to balance Loving myself with Loving others
• trust the program, hand over the outcome (which is how I trust my Higher Power).

The Anorexia Recovery Tools are amazing and really helped me recover emotional and sexual sobriety quite quickly after 15 years going in miserable circles in 12 Step (AA and a little AlAnon) trying to please everyone else, instead of being guided by my own Higher Power how to recover.

Best wishes on a speedy recovery - you deserve to be happy, joyous and free xx

It's worth keeping a copy on your device for meetings. I don't carry a hard copy everywhere

https://www.amazon.com.au/Sex-Love-Addicts-Augustine-Fellowship-ebook/dp/B00KF2SIWA