{"product":{"product_id":"B007679QTG","title":"Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships","price":"10.49","image_url":"https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41eDKuOmZJL._SL500_.jpg","url":"https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007679QTG"},"comments":[{"body":"The reason that the penis evolved to work like a plunger was precisely because in order to increase the odds of impregnating the female with it's genetic material, it had to pump out a lot of other semen first.\r\n\r\nCumdumps are as old as humanity itself.\r\n\r\nRead [Sex at Dawn](https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG). Gay men don't get turned on when we gang bang a bottom because we're ***gay***. We get turned on because we're ***men***.","subreddit_name":"AskGaybrosOver30","author":"PikesDad"},{"body":"Monogamy is a relatively modern concept. It's not how we evolved to be. Many couples make it work and while it ***is*** common, it's ***not*** normal... for gays or straights.\r\n\r\nRead [Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships](https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG)","subreddit_name":"AskGaybrosOver30","author":"PikesDad"},{"body":"I believe I came across an even less determinate consensus in the book [Sex at Dawn](http://www.amazon.co.uk/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG) based on observations of the Kalahari bushmen, probably the last real hunter-gatherer society.\r\n\r\nOne of the authors, Christopher Ryan, used the word \"Monogam-*ish*\" at a presentation in Sydney. You can picture him using that hand gesture with the fingers spread out and waving in that \"sorta, kinda\" fashion.\r\n\r\nAnyway to the point, within a single tribe he observed both trends toward monogamy and non-monogamy. Some members liked to be exclusive and the others - the decision making didn't differentiate between men and women - would change partners every so often. Basically just like sexuality is a spectrum, *not* a polarity.\r\n\r\nParenting - aside from the direct birth mother link - was a duty of the whole tribe. The promotion of the nuclear family ideal is a tragedy.\r\n\r\nEDIT: Clarified my closing sentence","subreddit_name":"sex","author":"vu1xVad0"},{"body":"It's not just the male brain. ***Human*** sexuality evolved for something approximating what we now call polyamory. Read  [Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships](https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG).\r\n\r\nMonogamy in males is relatively new from an evolutionary aspect. Men only started to control the sexuality of women when we invented agriculture and the concept of personal property that we could pass on to ***our own*** children. Which meant we needed to control which men the women were around to ensure that any of our multiple wives only bore children that we created.\r\n\r\nMen were never expected to be monogamous until very, very, recently. I'd even go so far as to say that the sexual revolution in the 60's didn't free women, it restricted men.\r\n\r\nBonobos are our closest evolutionary cousins but they don't have all of the religious dogma surrounding mating so... they all fuck like... well... basically like gay men do if left to their own devices.\r\n\r\n\u0026gt;But it seems like it’s a lost battle and I should attempt to reframe my mind for shorter term relationships.\r\n\r\nNot necessarily. I've been in an open relationship with my partner for over 12 years and I've been monogamous for the last 11 or so. The fact that monogamy is not in our nature does not mean that you can't have a monogamous relationship. It just means that you have to deal with the reality of that fact.","subreddit_name":"AskGaybrosOver30","author":"PikesDad"},{"body":"White I agree some people use sex as a selfish form of validation, there are other reasons for this behavior. As a man with a high libido, I often judged myself for these thoughts. Suspend judgement for a moment and imagine having the best, most intimate loving sex with a partner, then going for a walk five minutes later and having sexual thoughts about the first woman who walks by...it's baffling really. I'm a man, and raised as a catholic (but no longer), so I had immense guilt around these feelings. So I spoke to a therapist about it and she talked to me about instinct.   \r\n\r\n\r\nDid you know that a significant amount of our predecessors were not monogamous? One particular primate species would have sex without bonding and then suddenly move on to the next mate. Now again, in no way do I think this is an excuse for immature, poor relationship skills. But nobody can ignore the effect that millions of years of this led up to the development of the human brain we have. And of course the other side of the coin are female instincts, for example the tendency of some heterosexual women to generally use financial stability as criteria in choosing of men. Right or wrong, it's what we're dealing with. [Here's a book that I read that goes deeper into this topic](https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG), a very very interesting read for anyone interested.","subreddit_name":"dating","author":"Tallm"},{"body":"Actually it is a competition thing. The \"helmet\" of a male human's penis allows for sort of a pumping out of competitor's sperm. Size and shape allows for the disruption of other sperm, and spermicides in precum help kill off competitor sperm.\r\n\r\nOur ancestors fucked as much as bonobos. \r\n\r\nSource: [Sex at Dawn](https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG) (evolutionary biological look at sexuality and relationships in humans)","subreddit_name":"nextfuckinglevel","author":"Makal"},{"body":"\u0026gt;Humans are hard wired for pair bonding.\r\n\r\nNope. Read [this](https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG).\r\n\r\nAlso, for the record, I agree with you on points one and two. I'm in an open relationship but ***I*** have been monogamous for the last 10 years of the almost 12 years. By choice.","subreddit_name":"AskGayMen","author":"PikesDad"},{"body":"Monogamy isn't even normative for straight couples. Humans and human sexuality didn't evolve to be monogamous, that only happened with the invention of agriculture. Read [Sex at Dawn](https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG/) for further explanation.","subreddit_name":"AskGaybrosOver30","author":"PikesDad"},{"body":"No animal spends more of its allotted time on Earth fussing over sex than Homo sapiens—not even the famously libidinous bonobo. Although we and the bonobo both average well into the hundreds, if not thousands, of acts of intercourse per birth—way ahead of any other primate—their “acts” are far briefer than ours. Pair-bonded “monogamous” animals are almost always hyposexual, having sex as the Vatican recommends: infrequently, quietly, and for reproduction only. Human beings, regardless of religion, are at the other end of the libidinal spectrum: hypersexuality personified.\r\n\r\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG/ref=nodl_","subreddit_name":"NoFap","author":"BigStudley01"},{"body":"I really highly recommend reading [Sex at Dawn](https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG/ref=nodl_) . It’s a great book by anthropologists about human sexuality- please check it out. It really gets to the root of a lot of modern day relationship issues.","subreddit_name":"Needafriend","author":"sensitivebaby"},{"body":"I don't understand the humiliation part. However, there's an interesting case made for group sex (multiple males having sex with one female) being evolutionarily natural in *[Sex at Dawn](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007679QTG/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8\u0026amp;btkr=1)*, though I may take that book with a grain of salt.","subreddit_name":"BlackPeopleTwitter","author":"donewithit6969"},{"body":"As I stated, [the book](http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG) explains it much better.\r\n\r\nSomewhat, but I think the \"warrior\" culture is just competition, (ingroup-outgroup tribal dynamics) and all species on earth do that. Propagating DNA.","subreddit_name":"worldnews","author":"My_soliloquy"},{"body":"\u0026gt;cial apare ca răspuns la o nevoie biologica sau ca o îndeplinire a unei utilități. Asta îl face sa nu fie fix pe o perioada lunga, însă un construct social nu înseamnă că nu e o expresie a unor lucruri biologice/naturale sau ca nu exista.\r\n\r\n[https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG)\r\n\r\nUite o carte interesanta pe acest subiect. O gasesti si pe libgen daca vrei.\r\n\r\nFor example, a man trying to have sex with many women all while avoiding parental investment is not doing so because he wants to \"increase his fitness\", but because the psychological framework that evolved and thrived in the Pleistocene never went away\r\n\r\n[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History\\_of\\_human\\_sexuality](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_human_sexuality)","subreddit_name":"CasualRO","author":"After-Audience-3646"},{"body":"For the Himbos book club can the first book be sex at dawn ?\r\n\r\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG","subreddit_name":"TheBonfire","author":"Aimhigh0420"},{"body":"We found the gorilla!\r\n\r\n[Required reading for you](https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG).","subreddit_name":"Abortiondebate","author":"temp4adhd"}]}