i highly recommend writing a list of all of the negative side effects of drinking (hangovers, weight gain, memory problems, impaired judgement, bad sleep, etc.) when i think about it , trading sobriety for a sex life doesnt seem like a fair trade. if your unable to let loose, i would talk to your partner about how you feel. the fact that your both sober might help them rationalize how you are feeling. if not, you might want to think about if your partner is right for you. in my eyes, the fact that you cant feel loose around your partner when you’re sober might be a deeper problem with the relationship. i have personally been dealing with the same problem of not feeling comfortable around my partner when im sober. i think its just something that im going to have to come to terms with to keep my sobriety. remember that 2 years is just a speck of time when it comes too your whole life. think about how much progress you have made in such a small amount of time. you could probably make progress on your sex life if you pit your all into trying to relearn how to have a sex life while sober. if you are willing to wait it out i recommend reading this book (https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Recovery-Meeting-Between-Covers/dp/1616496614/ref=nodl_#aw-udpv3-customer-reviews_feature_div)