Dr. Ramani. She is on YouTube. She has a book also. https://www.amazon.com/Should-Stay-Surviving-Narcissistic-Relationship/dp/1618688782. She works on California, where many people economically can’t separate. Sometimes you have to stay. Many people stay because they are waiting for the kids to get out of the house. But listening to her may help you feel better about your decision with wise advice t help you walk the tightrope you are on.
Admittedly you will get a lot of advice to leave in places like this, but don’t feel bad and ignore it if you know it does not apply to your situation. Forums like this cannot get into details enough to make perfect decisions and you can never tell what is care and concern vs. bitterness lashing out.
But here is a little 💕💕💕 Just because. 😘
> I Wanna Marry ZeroTwo
Isn't she the narcissistic type though?
Wanna marry her still? Read the guide then, mate!
There's a PDF out there somewhere, around academia.edu
P.S. I started thinking most (all?) overtly sexy girls out there to charm might be of this kind.. And thus a relationships choice their partners later regret
The fact that he's throwing you under the bus to his parents kind of tells us everything we need to know about how he's viewing the situation -- it seems you are an accessory to his life, not a priority in it. If you are an inconvenient accessory, you will be punished. OP, this is a massive neon blinking red flag.
Don't make kids with this man. Please, OP, consider moving back where you know people and people know you. It is absolutely bugfuck insane that he moved you away from everything you know - essentially isolating you - and now is expecting you to somehow bootstrap (?!) into some vague idea of growth (?!) shortly before he does it all again and moves you to fucking ALABAMA.
I have family in Alabama. I don't know what kind of like-minded people he's talking about, but you really have to consider if they're all going to treat you this way too because it's not looking good. It will likely only get worse from here. Please read SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO by Lundy Bancroft and do the workbook - it may help clarify your situation to you a lot more. https://www.amazon.com/Should-Stay-Surviving-Narcissistic-Relationship/dp/1618688782