He is not joking at all. It's true! Plain true! Seek to be closer to Jesus from point where you are.
From my experience: Might be you can try to understand bit more about your sexuality from this book: https://www.amazon.com/Soul-Virgins-Redefining-Single-Sexuality/dp/0985810718 It helped me after my marriage with nonbeliever colapsed. And I started those relationships from same point as you now. Now I am married with wonderful christian woman. Miracleously!!!