Yes! This Spectra S1 plus: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00DBKFFJM?tag=duckduckgo-d-20&linkCode=osi&th=1&psc=1
I had no troubles with the pump and I used it every day, probably 6 or so times each day, for 6 months. I liked that it had its own battery and didn’t need to be plugged into a wall, a letdown feature, a 30 min timer, and that I can pump on just one breast if needed. I’ve tried three other brands (Ameda, Medela, and Spectra) and Spectra was my favorite.
There's no retailer in Canada that carries it, she is correct, but I ordered from US Amazon. It'd be the same link that you'd use: here
I've heard wonderful things about this Spectra one. My insurance paid for the Medela PISA, but I plan to buy this one out of pocket if it doesn't work out for me. It's hospital grade and less than 200$.
Its definitely tough and a lot of work. I will say based on your summary, it seems like you are doing everything to the best of your ability, which is the most important thing. I just passed the two month mark, so I will tell you now, it only gets slightly better. Supposedly at 3 months, it can start to get a lot better in regards to having a pattern and more control over the schedule. But, as a 2 month vet, here is how I'm managing this to the best of my ability:
You wife definitely does need support. Depending on how well you can sleep, instead of STAYING awake with her, get up, get the baby, help her set up for a feed, then go back to sleep.
I don't know about yours, but my baby needs to feed for anywhere from 30 minutes to a full hour. an hour of sleep 3-5 times a night can make a big difference with your ability to handle it long term.
Also, buy your wife this pump. Its WAY better than the free one we got with insurance, it pulls out way more milk, and it's easier on her breasts. As an exclusively breastfed baby, this will allow her to pump, make a bottle, then SHE can go back to sleep and you can take 1 or 2 feedings every once in a while.
You love your child. you are trying, and you are asking for advice. You are already doing EVERYTHING right. Hang in there, it'll get better.
P.S. Once you get your first regular baby smile, it'll allllllllll be worth it
Not pictured - I bought 5 Kindred Bravely sublime pumping/nursing bras since they look fine under clothes and I didn't want to change my bra.
I work as a clinic nurse and did not want to wear the same bra twice in a row without washing it AND I don't want to do laundry during the week which is why I dropped a million dollars on these bras.
Any other suggestions? Of course I'll have water & snacks!
I'd love to see other pump kits!
It was this one https://www.amazon.com/Spectra-Baby-USA-Rechargeable-Electric/dp/B00DBKFFJM/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=spectra+s1&qid=1615437404&sr=8-3 but I had to watch and wait for it to come in stock. Looks like the s2 is in stock right now though, if you don’t mind being plugged in https://www.amazon.com/Spectra-Baby-USA-Electric-Hospital/dp/B00BLBLR1I/ref=mp_s_a_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=spectra+s1&qid=1615437404&sr=8-5
Update: just found the S1 shipping to Canada. https://www.amazon.com/Spectra-Baby-USA-Rechargeable-Electric/dp/B00DBKFFJM/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=spectra+breast+pump&qid=1611791448&sprefix=spectra&sr=8-3