{"product":{"product_id":"1560258489","title":"Sperm Wars: Infidelity, Sexual Conflict, and Other Bedroom Battles","price":"38.7","image_url":"https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51JjmOHEYvL._SL500_.jpg","url":"https://www.amazon.com/dp/1560258489"},"comments":[{"body":"Aaaa forget about it. You got all that mumbo jumbo modern talk stuck inside your psyche.\r\n\r\nLook, you are what you feel. If you feel bad about yourself people can see that. Another thing, do you like yourself as you are or do you want to change?\r\n\r\nSometimes we don't get the easy way of doing things. It sucks but the sooner you accept that the sooner you can move on and do something else.\r\n\r\nI think you need a therapist to talk to. Talk about your insecurities and fears. Fix all the things that mentally bother your about yourself. Working out, change your diet. And for the time being your hand can be your girlfriend until you upgrade yourself.\r\n\r\nYou need to work on your confidence and self-esteem. Read this [book](https://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489).\r\n\r\nGet a nutritionist. Learn how to diet. Cook healthy meals. Find a social group that bikes through trails or something nature related. You never know, might meet someone. And you can work on your social skills. Because that is important too.\r\n\r\nDon't worry about anyone having it easy. Just worry about working on yourself and the results will show after a good year. Good luck.","subreddit_name":"depression","author":"throwawaydoa69"},{"body":"\u0026gt; It doesn't matter if you give him a BJ every morning for 20 years. Somehow in the male mind having sex with someone else is more appealing than having sex with someone who you have already had sex with. It's not about the orgasm, it's about spreading the seed in a different field.\r\n\r\nExactly. It's a hard-wired evolutionary adaption, that represents the \"Optimal Mating Strategy\" for the Ancestral Environment in which we evolved.   That doesn't necessarily mean it's *right* to cheat, but when you understand how powerful these drives are, one can start to understand - if not accept - the occurrence of cheating.\r\n\r\nSee [Sperm Wars](http://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489/ref=sr_1_1?s=books\u0026amp;ie=UTF8\u0026amp;qid=1279334552\u0026amp;sr=1-1) for a thorough explanation of the whole thing.\r\n","subreddit_name":"AskReddit","author":"psykocrime"},{"body":"Actually, actual evidence \\([source](http://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;s=books\u0026amp;qid=1266289914\u0026amp;sr=8-1)\\) seems to suggest that a single episode of cheating can have a much higher chance of conception because our bodies' biology is fucked up like that and would sometimes prefer to cuckold one man with a supposedly better man's genes given a single opportunity. Along the same lines, apparently our sperm make a little extra effort if we ourselves fuck around... many of us understand the lure and excitement of a little \"strange\" and  that's why... in both cases you're putting the cost of spreading your genes well on someone else and of course your body finds that very exciting.\r\n\r\nThis is even more of a reason to leave someone for fucking around though as if a woman's body is telling her to fuck other men that are apparently better for her then clearly you are not that man.","subreddit_name":"AskReddit","author":"lectrick"},{"body":"Then read 'Sperm Wars'. It combines biological explanations with sexual vignettes. It includes the above example and a lot more.\r\n\r\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;s=books\u0026amp;qid=1272474798\u0026amp;sr=8-1","subreddit_name":"science","author":"bearsinthesea"},{"body":"This is old news, I first read about it in the evolutionary psychology book, [*Sperm Wars*](http://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;s=books\u0026amp;qid=1277395981\u0026amp;sr=8-1), by Robin Baker, that I highly recommend to, well, everyone.  Oh, and it was first published in 1997.","subreddit_name":"sex","author":"ohstrangeone"},{"body":"Asking for sources is a Good practice. \r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nThe book “Sperm Wars” by Robin Baker lays out in detail both how it works and why.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489\r\n\r\n\r\nThis article says the same thing I said: many can’t from penetration (75% it says here), and some never do at all (10% it says).\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nhttps://abcnews.go.com/Health/ReproductiveHealth/sex-study-female-orgasm-eludes-majority-women/story?id=8485289\r\n\r\n\r\nThis article mentions up top that 5-10% can’t at all, although the article is not about that exactly.\r\n\r\n\r\nhttps://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2011/05/why-cant-some-women-orgasm-neuroscience-might-finally-have-an-answer/238767/","subreddit_name":"BlackPeopleTwitter","author":"DocGrey187000"},{"body":"[\"Sperm Wars: Infidelity, Sexual Conflict, and Other Bedroom Battles\"](https://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489) is a good one","subreddit_name":"IncelsWithoutHate","author":"Professional_Ad_6006"},{"body":"It's a [$6 book/free on Kindle](https://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489); if you would like to see the sources, he told you where you can find them.","subreddit_name":"nottheonion","author":"GoingforIvey"},{"body":"[Read this book and it will tell you](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sperm-Wars-10th-anniversary-Infidelity/dp/1560258489)","subreddit_name":"youtubedrama","author":"Dannyboi93"},{"body":"There's a good book called [Sperm Wars](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sperm-Wars-10th-anniversary-Infidelity/dp/1560258489) which goes into great detail biologically why this happens. Read it and all will be clear.","subreddit_name":"AskReddit","author":"Dannyboi93"},{"body":"https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sperm-Wars-10th-anniversary-Infidelity/dp/1560258489\r\n\r\nhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/Red-Queen-Evolution-Penguin-Science/dp/0140167722\r\n\r\nhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/Selfish-Gene-Richard-Dawkins/dp/0192860925\r\n\r\nEducate yourself","subreddit_name":"CringeAnarchy","author":"nanoakron"},{"body":"Sorry if I seem curt, but I know about oxytocin and all that jazz. I read [Sperm Wars](http://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;qid=1311101524\u0026amp;sr=8-1), [Dangerous Passion](http://www.amazon.com/The-Dangerous-Passion-ebook/dp/B000FBJHOE/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;qid=1311101520\u0026amp;sr=8-3), and whatever the heck else is required by psych classes. A point I would like to make is that our sexuality isn't monogamous or polyamourous by evolution. People like to read psych books and conclude that we *are* poly or mono amorous to confirm their own choice.\r\n\r\nThe truth, as I see it from those texts, is that humans evolved from deceivers. We do we we can get away with, trying to spread our genes as much as possible. Monogamy or polyamory are just strategies employed to achieve this goal, cast of at a moment in favor of gene spreading deception. A polyamourous partner can go outside the relationship just as a monogamous partner can.\r\n\r\nIt may seem strange that I care so much and I am getting away from the original argument, but I want to drive home that we are not the \"prehuman monstrosity\" we evolved from. We can stay faithful because, even though it might be in our genetic interest not to, we really care about someone. We are not our genes.\r\n\r\n\u0026gt;Laughter to begin with was probably glee at the misfortunes of others. The baring of teeth in laughter hints at its savage ancestry. Animals have no malice, hence also no laughter. They never savor the sudden glory of *schadenfreude*. It was its infectious quality which made laughter a medium of mutuality.\r\n\r\n\u0026gt;Beasts are not beastly. The evil of dehumanization is not that it turns us into animals but turns us into the malignant prehuman monstrosity from which man evolved. -Eric Hoffer\r\n\r\n/rant","subreddit_name":"sex","author":"Paul-ish"},{"body":"I read it here\r\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;s=books\u0026amp;qid=1273683417\u0026amp;sr=8-1\r\n\r\nbut I'm sure you can find it around the internet too.","subreddit_name":"AskReddit","author":"vdirequest"},{"body":"A [Similar thing](http://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;s=books\u0026amp;qid=1263244539\u0026amp;sr=8-1) happens in humans. ","subreddit_name":"science","author":"JimSFV"},{"body":"This read like [Sperm wars](http://www.amazon.com/Sperm-Wars-Infidelity-Conflict-Bedroom/dp/1560258489/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;s=books\u0026amp;qid=1263696325\u0026amp;sr=8-1) in a nutshell.","subreddit_name":"comics","author":"Paul-ish"}]}