{"product":{"product_id":"B00B60DRKI","title":"Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life","price":"20.99","image_url":"https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/5137Y48vO7L._SL500_.jpg","url":"https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI"},"comments":[{"body":"And here's my obligatory plug for the book that's saving my life and getting me out of the FOG,\r\n\r\nStop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI/\r\n\r\nCause previously I would have felt like it was my fault I couldn't get over the abusive behavior he still refuses to take responsibility or accountability for. Peace out, STBX wBPD. ✌️ ","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"am59853"},{"body":"It's like bait so you'll say, \"no no you're not really abusing me, I didn't mean it like that, just forget I said anything\" etc.\r\n\r\nUgh.\r\n\r\nObligatory plug for the book that saved my life:\r\nStop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI/","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"am59853"},{"body":"I'm right there with you. I'm heartbroken and sad and feel like I've failed. I feel like I'm abandoning someone who can't take care of himself, like I'm leaving him to die.\r\n\r\nBut that's my disorder. Of course, he's an adult and was taking care of himself (somewhat anyway) before I met him. I gave up my life to try to show him a normal one, full of kindness. But he's still sad. I can't fix it him.\r\n\r\nThis book is currently saving my life, maybe it can help you too:\r\n\r\nStop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI/","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"am59853"},{"body":"I would skip all of them and get\r\n\r\nStop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI/\r\n\r\nIt saved my life, and I've been recommending it as much as I can here. Several others have agreed it has been helpful. ","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"am59853"},{"body":"The more important the thing you're doing, the worse he'll act out. You're not allowed to let anything seem more important than him. You'd have been better off not telling him you had anything going on.\r\n\r\nThis book saved my life. Maybe it can help you.\r\nStop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI/","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"am59853"},{"body":"The question is why continue asserting boundaries with people who don't respect them?\r\n\r\nThis book may be helpful. Don't be put off by the title (all due respect to anyone diagnosed with BPD/NPD). Full disclosure, I have BPD, NPD traits, and found this book excellent.\r\n\r\nhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/Stop-Caretaking-Borderline-Narcissist-Drama-ebook/dp/B00B60DRKI","subreddit_name":"CPTSD","author":"SunMoonMirror"},{"body":"Lmao holy shit did you hack my phone and screenshot my last business trip? \r\n\r\nListen here king, the *first thing* you gotta do is disengage. Stop chasing after her, she wants your attention to validate her, and it will never be enough. So stop killing your mind trying to fill her needs. \r\n\r\nSecond thing you need to do is [Read this book. Right now. ](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_FBQW60N7RBQ1HDT3GAF1)\r\n\r\nYou don't have to live like this. You deserve better","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"PhukdNtheHead"},{"body":"It's a conflict of interest for your therapist to also see your ex. They can't be impartial to either of you. Any good therapist should have refused to see one or the other of you. Same reasons why one's individual counselor cannot be an impartial couple's counselor. Have you thought about looking for a new one? \r\n\r\nAnd while you're looking for a new therapist, this book will help you set healthy boundaries and get your life back:\r\nStop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life\r\nhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_meH7Fb0J5WDHM","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"am59853"},{"body":"Dis you ever read this book?  https://www.amazon.ca/Stop-Caretaking-Borderline-Narcissist-Drama-ebook/dp/B00B60DRKI\r\n\r\nIt will clarify many things ..   and although I had read the book, it took me and the kids a good 6 months to realize how the family dynamics was truly messed up.  The signs were there, we just did not notice them.   And I realize the damage she did to me and the kids..  but mainly the kids.","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"Mart243"},{"body":"\u0026gt; I hope that if I am just patient enough, good enough, and wise enough to say and do the right things, she’ll be well and we can be happy together.\r\n\r\nGive this book a read: https://www.amazon.com/Stop-Caretaking-Borderline-Narcissist-Drama-ebook/dp/B00B60DRKI","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"Mart243"},{"body":"I stayed in the relationship for eight years because I thought I'd feel too guilty to leave, and I took on more debt and made more concessions in the divorce than I should have so I could walk away feeling like I did everything I could to support him even in this.\r\n\r\nBut this book is what helped the most and solidified my decision that leaving was best for both of us. It will help you move past the guilt.\r\n\r\nStop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI/\r\n\r\nThen when you've been gone a little while and are ready to resurface to a normal life, look up the book \"Whole Again,\" which does a great job explaining what happened and how to heal so it doesn't happen again.\r\n\r\nBest of luck, friend. You're worth the work and effort of leaving.","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"am59853"},{"body":"This book helped put everything in perspective for me:\r\n\r\nStop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI/\r\n\r\nI was with my STBX husband for seven years, officially separated just last month. It hasn't at all been easy. But it's worth it for both of us. He'll never stand on his own with me propping him up all the time. ","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"am59853"},{"body":"We have made the mistakes that we don't want you to make. Our lives have been (temporarily) ruined by believing we could help these people. Many of us refused to see reason and our caretaking nature got us into serious trouble. We are bleak because the prognostic for people with BPD *is* bleak. It's not about you, it never was.\r\n\r\nDo yourself a favor and read \"[Stop Caretaking the Borderline](https://www.amazon.com/Stop-Caretaking-Borderline-Narcissist-Drama-ebook/dp/B00B60DRKI)\". In situations where you *have* to co-exist with a pwBPD, there's a lot that can be done to improve the relationship (uniquely from your end), but in romance, it's just a matter of exiting in the least damaging way possible. It is a fact that these people cannot improve with your help and you do not know who they are and what they are capable of if you have not studied the subject of BPD carefully.","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"[deleted]"},{"body":"I'd go ahead and start with this one, or else buy it now because you'll eventually need it:\r\n\r\nStop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI/","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"am59853"},{"body":"Honey, go get you a copy of\r\n\r\nStop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B60DRKI/\r\n\r\nand start rebuilding yourself.\r\n\r\nSending you love. ❤️","subreddit_name":"BPDlovedones","author":"am59853"}]}