> but that and orgasm together is better than that alone, haven't you tried both together? If not why not?
Depends on the context. Yes I have done certain practices that incorporate both. Those practices obviously do exist, some of which are potent. But not in jhana meditation, for reasons already mentioned. Sensuality and jhana are mutually exclusive, it's a different kind of pleasure withdrawn from sensuality.
For the time you're in jhana, there's an absence of sensuality, you simply can't mix the two while in that state.
If you're after sexual types of meditations specifically, you won't find that in Buddhism (except perhaps in fringe elements of Vajrayana Buddhism maybe?). Perhaps Taoism? Maybe try Taoist Secrets of Love by Mantak Chia perhaps? I read it years ago, although I'm not sure whether this is considered orthodox in the Taoist religion.
It's not any more detailed than what's written above, really. I'm reading Mantak Chia's Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy https://www.amazon.com/dp/0943358191/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_WrPcCbTNYNV4H
But I'm basically just edging, and when i get close, I'm using my pc muscles, focusing on the positive feeling in my genitals, and trying to move that up my spine to my brain and the rest of my body.
Have you tried any of this before? Are you reading anything related to SR?
You can strengthen some muscles in your groin area that can be clenched at will to stop ejaculation during orgasm. Prior to developing the necessary muscular control, you can pinch off the pathway with two fingers, right before you cum, by pressing on a point in your taint area. It sounds weird but it works.
Check out this book. It presents the technique with some spiritual hocus pocus, but the physical processes are real:
A buddy of mine turned me on to a book that you might like: http://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191 I have not read it entirely but my buddy says that he talks about practicing things like you are working on namely semen retention and orgasm without shooting. It might be of interest to you.. All the best!
After reading "Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy" by Mantak Chia, this article reads similar to "drinking bleach can regulate blood alkalinity"
Hang in there bro! A buddy of mine turned me on to this book this week: http://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191 I ordered it but it has not arrived yet. He says it is about how to transmute that energy into building life force energy. All the best!
Our relationship with our body, the opposite sex and with the act of sex is something that is completely natural. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you wanting to date, kiss or sleep with a woman. Please don’t feel disgusting or gross!
What was your relationship like with your parents growing up? What were their views on sexuality? I grew up in a family where I was taught that premarital sex is bad and I’ll burn in hell for engaging in it. I developed a very negative view about my body and sex/sexual expression. It took me a long time to realize how damaging those beliefs were to relationships with not only myself but with my partner too.
Sex is part of life. It is literally the driving force behind life. I recommend you read this book, this author has a few different books and I honestly think everyone should read both.
https://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191
the buck breaking society fears accession through semen retention. https://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191
When this started for me in meditation i later found Mantak Chia's book which was very interesting. For me the intense sexual energy started when i started to let go in my meditation, letting go of forced effort and just "being still". I remember in the past when i got aroused during meditation i thought i was doing something wrong or that this shouldn't be happening, this is not the case. It's a heavenly thing :)
https://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191
The Whole book here in pdf: https://archive.org/details/taoistsecretsoflovebymantakchia1984/mode/2up
https://www.commonsensekundalini.com/science_spirituality/sexual-sublimation.html
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Sitting Quietly
兀然無事坐、春夾草自生
"Sitting quietly, doing nothing,
Spring comes, and the grass grows by itself." Zenrin Kushû (The Way of Zen 134, 222)
It's described here - https://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191/
Good luck.
Hi brother, I don't know much about your condition, so it's better if you could ask a medical doctor, is better if he's open minded.
Having said that, maybe you could try the testicular breathing, mantak chia explains it, it's like the mind directing the flow of energy upwards. Also the prostate contractions help. https://youtu.be/CnOg_ZS4eSE . He has explained also the microcosmic meditation, I highly recommend it. https://www.amazon.com/-/es/Mantak-Chia/dp/0943358191/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=mantak+chia+books&qid=1609199910&sprefix=mantak+chia&sr=8-3# This book I also recommend https://www.amazon.com/-/es/Daniel-Reid/dp/067164811X/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=the+tao+of+health+sex+and+longevity&qid=1609200050&sprefix=the+tao+of+he&sr=8-3#
Hope this can be of help to you. If you have a question about it, please let me know. Peace.
This is the one I read last year... it was pretty authoritative on the subject. Good luck!
https://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191
Semen retention is also a critical part of Taoist sex, tantra, karezza etc.
I suggest starting with Mantak Chia, Taoist Secrets of Love:
https://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191
Energy-Karezza is great too.
https://www.amazon.com/Energy-Karezza-Sexually-Fascinating-Powerful-Fidelity/dp/143824455X
Sounds like Hinduism or tantra. I like the Chinese version more, Tao Yoga. Take a look at http://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191/
Read "The Taoist Secrets of Love". http://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191
EDIT: Read this "Awaken Healing Energy of the Tao" before you start actual practice. http://www.amazon.com/Awaken-Healing-Energy-Through-Tao/dp/0943358078/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1433587384&sr=1-1&keywords=Awaken+Healing+Energy+of+the+Tao
My thoughts exactly after reading this book
Sure. I have not read it yet, but my buddy suggested I read this: http://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191 and it came in the mail last week. He said that philosophy in it about sex is amazing. I am currently devouring this book: http://www.amazon.com/Torah-Guide-Enlightenment-Gabriel-Cousens/dp/1583942491/ref=sr_1_17?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1425153091&sr=1-17&keywords=cousens it is by a medical doctor / rabbi who comes at Judaism from a very Hindu perspective. He had a kundalini awakening when he was young and studied in India. He reinterprets the Torah from that kind of perspective. I grew up in Christianity and am familiar with Judaism but am very in tune with Hinduism, so I love this book. He is also a raw food vegan, I am vegan and am trying to go raw. I love Paramahansa Yogananda, too!! Loved Autobiography of a Yogi.
A gold mine! I like that. So a buddy of mine turned me on to this book. I ordered it and it has not yet arrived. I think it is about how to transmute the energy :) http://www.amazon.com/Taoist-Secrets-Love-Cultivating-Sexual/dp/0943358191
This book has some techniques that might be helpful to you.
This Book by Mantak Chia has some really great information on the benefits of semen retention.