So despite being in the uk, I read this book:
The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce: And How to Avoid Them https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0307589803/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_36BV1VS0YJ9BCWQ29PRA
I found it really useful. Basically , in court, you get to state your case first if you file first
See the reviews on Amazon: