Dude, hate to break it, but high school never ends.
Wait 'till you get in the workplace.
But MGTOW gives you power.
Also read 48 Laws of Power. Lots of good advice.
Poverty of the mind is worse than poverty of the bank account
The best way is to understand that life isn't fair and that you need to fight for what you have in this world.
If you really have a novel idea (which I'd be surprised if you do), then you protect yourself from the legal side.
Make sure that you have good counsel and know how to fight for what is yours.
At the end of the day, if you cannot protect what is created and fight for ownership in a company you founded it never really belonged to you.
Ideas are a dime a dozen. Execution and luck are where it is at. And part of execution is retaining control while growing.
Now if you truly want to figure out how to be a political animal, here's something for you to read.
Trust no one at the job no matter how much they smile and seem friendly. Be cordial and professional nothing more nothing less. Have a game plan while you are working for the man, be working on your plan to have multiple streams of income so you can have some "fuck you" I quit money stacked somewhere and you can pivot. It's crazy how you have to think like a prepper in this day and time but these skillsets that my father taught me have helped me navigate.
Develop relationships with peers so you can have others like you across fields that can be your sounding board. Always look for jobs that aline with what you doing because sometimes once you really get into the thick of it you may want to change avenues of how you are developing your career.
Also, not all skin folk are kinfolk. Some have an " I wanna be favorite complex."
Find something that brings you joy and happiness that you can level you out when you just need to decompress. Take personal trips and always look to elevate your game. If you seem like you are on the move to always better yourself you will show those around you that you value yourself and you will also discover more possible opportunities and knowledge.
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Read the 48 Laws of Power to really become a Jedi.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0140280197/ref=cm\_sw\_em\_r\_mt\_dp\_RBDRC5WHEVDK7YP86AQS
I think the best place to start would be learning how to identify manipulative behaviors in others, most of them are extremely subtle and you need to pay close attention to notice. A book I'd recommend is The 48 Laws of Power.
This is a very complex question having to do with identity and much more underlying issues. I would recommend watching any of the TED Talks concerning the successful psychopath. Or for a quick treat I'd recommend doing the audiobook or written version of the 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene.
Experience with these people with deeply broken foundations, they won't stop, until all their systems have broken down. If you want to have some fun on some real insight to these personalities speak to a divorce lawyer or therapist who deals with these personality types.
That's the way the world works. The people you're criticizing aren't evil villains, they're just experienced, cunning individuals. In this jungle, nobody gives 3% of a fuck about your logic, or your values. They only care about how you make them feel.
The people you mentioned are the ones that will achieve the most money, success, and sex. And there is no Karma, no God, no such thing that will punish them for their narcissism. In fact, that kind of bullshit was invented by powerful people themselves to discourage idiots (aka everyone) from threatening their power. See: the Catholic church in the middle age, the marxist religion in modern west, the Islam. All ways of social manipulation in order to maintain the pyramid.
At this point, because you're smart, you've discovered how the world really works. Now you either study the ways of power to become as powerful as the people you now hate, or you refuse it all in a self-righteous act of puritan "morality" (which if you're an INTP, is not really morality but fear). But keep in mind that you cannot avoid the game of power. You are either a player, or a pawn.
It is sadly common. There are people in this world whose only goal is to get more power for themselves, and they don't care who they trample to get it. Do yourself a favor and read this book: 48 Laws of Power. Not so you can use it, but so you can be aware of what's going on around you and defend yourself against it.
Of course it's a fact but you add that disclaimer (or some variation) to almost every comment you make. It's a behavior that signals a lack of confidence and ownership in what you know.
How about trying some 'irrational confidence'? Be the smartest, baddest motherfucker in the room.. own it. I guarantee if you start practicing this, you're Frame development will shift into Ludicrous Speed.
http://www.amazon.com/48-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197 >Law 48: Assume formlessness · By having a visible plan you open yourself to attack. · Stay adaptable and on the move
Also consider reading the whole sidebar, include the references contained in the assorted links. There's a fair amount of good stuff, and it will shed light on much of the discussion.
> History is littered with leaders who got to where they are through any combination of the above.
And you think things like that don't take intelligence?
I would highly recommend you this book: http://www.amazon.com/The-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197
no, but have read this book a few times: http://www.amazon.com/The-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197
and is a fascinating way to understand the flow of history and human nature while developing one's inner faculties...not occult, but deeply psychological.
>Well obviously psychopaths and sociopaths miss the mark here :). But concerning the claim to weakness, you've got my curiosity. Why do you consider it a weakness?
Actually I disagree, physcopaths and sociopaths seem to have quite the edge here if they can learn to use it. Empathy is an emotion that can be exploited, it's rather one of the easy ones.
>should they have any interest in communal well-being guaranteeing their own safety in return
But, power games would be a way to amass great things, people and safety, especially if you know what you are doing.
If you're interested, one of my favorite reads is The 48 laws of Power I'm starting to recommend it to people as a way to detect when others are attempting to gain power over you, honestly, I see people do it all the time, completely unaware of what they are doing to manipulate others.
The 48 Laws of Power By Robert Greene is an entertaining read. He kinda sells it as a modern version of Sun-Tzu's "Art of War" but he illustrates each "law" with a handful of detailed historical stories.
For example law 20 is "Do Not Commit To Anyone" and he illustrates this by telling how Queen Elizabeth used her status as an unmarried monarch to manipulate suitors from other nations into doing favors for England, by telling how Isabella d'Este lead the Italian city state of Mantua through a complicated web of alliances by maintaining neutrality, and how Charles Maurice Talleyrand the French diplomat successfully served under Louis XVI, the revolutionary government, Napoleon, and Louis XVIII, without losing his head.
Each story is only a page or two at the most, and the book is filled with them. I like them much more for the historical anecdotes than as some kind of a modern Sun Tzu.
https://www.amazon.com/48-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197
That's a Reader's Digest version where most people start and end. It's widely disseminated and talked about. I've never met a single person in my life who was interested in such things though who didn't have some underlying selfish drive for it. Not excluding myself from that at all. If you start practicing these things, it will accentuate and draw out those traits more and more. You should always keep in mind what is truly most important in life.
I don't mind a good rant/vent, and I don't care if it's long.
> lack of compassion from co-workers who sit around me
Um, I don't know how old you are, or how long you've been working, but 98% of white collar work I've seen (from working 43 years in the U.S.) is FAR worse than what you describe. People in low-level positions are petty and dumb beyond belief; and not even deliberately so...they're merely ignorant about certain ways of the world. You have to find much better firms (to work at) just to find people who actually have business ethics and understand the value of cooperation (and compassion) in the context of a team working together (or even just people in separate cubicles, working independently, in the same department). I've worked at a place for about 20 years now, and yes, after about 16 years people started reliably and consistently respecting me and being nice.
/u/agent_of_entropy counseled "Suck it up sister." I would tend to agree. And I'd like to emphasize that what you describe is nowhere near the level of shit that can go down. I've been physically attacked twice on jobs, both times right in front of a slew of coworkers (the second time an obvious feint by management, secretly paying a worker to do so, in order to force me to quit—which I did—fuck those people). I had a boss who ran a check fraud scam on me to steal $10,000 (and this was in the 1980s) and almost got away with it. I've worked at global law firms where the violence was at such a high level—not to mention a pool of people hijacking a dozen servers to use them to play numbers and pocket the profit on that—that a coworker threw a director down a concrete stairwell in a fit of anger. At that same place, a high-level IT worker, a wonderful, very smart woman, committed suicide. Work is rough. I've heard of people just quoting Oprah and then being threatened that they would be fired for "hate speech" and subsequently having to hire a lawyer just to retain their position.
Even if you ascend in academic circles and work side-by-side next to Ph.D.s, the crap still exists: nice to your face, nice to all your friends, secretly plotting to discredit you publicly and push the rest of your career into a ditch.
Here's a valuable resource: The 48 Laws of Power. This book can help you combat vicious stupidity in the workplace.
The other advice I have is this: shut up. Shut up as much as possible, then shut up some more, and then try to see if you can go for year after year not saying anything. That worked really well for me.
If you think hoarding whiteout is bad, I'm afraid you are going to see far, far, far worse.
Nice, smart, evolved, compassionate, forward-thinking people with strong, good ethics are probably 1 in 1000, if not 1 in 10,000.
Good luck.
Greens's fairly popular Book 48 Laws of Power is better for instructional manual on how to be a ~~sociopath~~ organizational leader.
And Rules for Radicals and The Prince are both better summarized and made mainstream in The Dictator's Handbook.
https://www.amazon.nl/48-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197
Black, dark, white, all the same tricks the difference is the deontology.
May I recommend you read the 48 Laws of Power and then The 33 Strategies of War.
Please do. Had several friends in your position, ready to throw in the towel, and crawl under the bed...UNTIL....they read those books.
Read them and make notes. You'll come up ahead.
PS. Never tell ANYONE you are reading these books! No one! Not even your lawyer! This is a secret you take to your grave.
Good luck & Success.
I love your paperbacks! Do you read e-books as well? If so, I have a few recommendations for you :)
I hope you enjoy these!
This is valuable advice for INFPs. One of my best friends, an INFP has been going through a really hard time and set me to the task of recommending empowering books for her. This is the list that I have come up with:
A Love Letter to INFPs: A Guide to Knowing Your True Power
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking
My friend is quite happy to start off with these and explore more :) Enjoy!
It’s not a project management book but one I would strongly suggest is ‘The 48 Laws of Power’ by Robert Greene.
The 48 Laws of Power https://www.amazon.com/dp/0140280197/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_JM7RWECFTBMFJTEA9H0V
And of course, ‘The Art of War’ by Sun Tzu
The Art Of War https://www.amazon.com/dp/1599869772/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_WQPE4C99PGPE8E79CXV6
As a PM, your biggest challenges in the workplace will most likely not be related to scholastic project management quandaries. If a charter isn’t laid out perfectly or your project plan is missing tasks it’s not a not a big deal. You’ll have to think on your feet and adapt.
As a PM, you need to wield power and influence over decision makers and resources to lead and guide the project in a proper direction. Most likely you will have little actual authority to command others to do so. Understanding others’ motivations, gaining their trust and respect, and using influence will be your greatest superpower. It will also help you buy time to figure things out if you need to collect more data or background.
Project management requires an intense amount of emotional intelligence to succeed. Focus on developing those skills first. The rest will follow much easier.
Ever had a look at this book before?
Link: https://www.amazon.com/48-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197
I always think of this novel as one of the de-facto books for ENTJs to read lol.
hahaha!!! I used to do that, like 15 years ago, waaay before figuring it out.
That's brilliant... Let me try to remember what else...
Here this is another one: 48 laws of power, oh and Tony Robbins of course.
Someone told me long ago that narcissists are attracted to Tony Robbins.
Mind you, that's how I got started. Then I went off into the deep end with Desmond Morris, then Daniel Dennett and Richard Dawkins..
It's hard to dial into the truth in this world. If you start out believing it's all based on power (and which narcissist doesn't), it makes sense to start with the art of war and the 48 laws of power.
Anyway, thanks for that memory.
Books: The 48 Laws of Power
https://www.amazon.com/48-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197
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Robert Green has a couple of other good summaries. The 48 Laws of Power is good, covers Sun Tzu, Machiavelli etc.
You've never heard of The 48 Laws Of Power?
The 48 Laws of Power https://www.amazon.com/dp/0140280197/
48 not 38. lol i need to read it. he's wrote other books that people rave about as well.
Was it The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene? (https://www.amazon.com/48-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1486169223&sr=1-1&keywords=48+laws+of+power) And Mastery also by Robert Greene? (https://www.amazon.com/Mastery-Robert-Greene/dp/014312417X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1486169261&sr=1-1&keywords=mastery)
Yep!
The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
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I used to have much worse anger than I have now, here's some things I was living with that made me lash out.
Over the space of a year or two I cleaned up my diet, reached for better opportunities at work and began to try and show my eagerness for advancement (ie: instead of asking for a raise I asked to be part of projects that would get me noticed)
I fapped when i wanted to, which took the stress off of times when my girlfriend wasn't in the mood and made things overall more light hearted when she was in the mood.
I started to reward good behavior and ignore/punish the bad in every aspect of my dealings with other people. I stopped believing that the world owed me something, and instead realized that it's a dog eat dog world, and if you do good things for yourself, the rest of the world respects you more than if you do good things for them.
Went to the doctor, he told me that I had to lose weight, and I did - dropped 40 pounds.
I laid off on my friend who I was covertly coveting, and just let life go on it's own path for both of us. I stopped trying to be someone else, and just realized that real friends are friends naturally.
I also read books like "the 48 laws of power" and checked out subreddits that are about men empowerment like /r/TheRedPill and /r/MGTOW
tl;dr: self improvement made anger not necessary.
Just remember us little people when you stage your first coup...
Yes! "Well-rounded" is a great way to put it. A leader who had a favorable ("favorable" is subjective, I know) balance between certain traits. Balance is key here.. Take a trait like ruthlessness for example:
Genghis Khan killed 40 million people in his campaigns across Eurasia, right? Massacring, torturing, executing, and enslaving the whole way.
Was all that necessary? I'm actually willing to admit the possibility that it was, as a matter of strategy. Chapter 15 (Law 15) of Robert Greene's book The 48 Laws of Power is called "Crush Your Enemies Totally" and discusses just this sort of thing. So I would not necessarily begrudge a leader taking a violent approach to securing their empire.
Now take, on the other hand, a leader like Timur aka. "Tamerlane", who was sort of Genghis' successor in a way. Tamerlane's death toll was only about half that of Genghis', but ~19 million deaths is still nothing to sneeze at. Timur's conquests were also run in the same sort of ruthless fashion as Genghis' (executing 100,000 captives in the 1398 Capture of Delhi, beheading 70,000 after the Isfahan revolt, etc).
Does this make Genghis Khan twice as ruthless as Timur? And if they happened to have racked up the same death toll, would that make them equally ruthless?
I believe the thing to consider is what else each leader brought to the table for their people and the world AND if, or to what degree those merits offset their ruthlessness. Again, this gets pretty subjective and philosophical (but I am asking for opinions, after all :-)).
So, for example:
One of Genghis Khan's main motivations for his campaigns (and I do think motivations behind actions are important) was to open up trade routes for the good of his people. In fact Genghis Khan is credited with bringing the Silk Road under one cohesive political environment, and this kind of environments may have had a positive impact on other civilizations as well who collaborated in trade using the same routes. Khan also replaced cronyism with meritocracy, which was a plus.
This was decidedly not the case for Tamerlane, who seems to have had much less noble motivations. By certain accounts "Unlike Genghis Khan, however, Timur conquered not to open trade routes and protect his flanks, but to loot and pillage." Besides being a military genius, positive light in Tamerlane's corner seems to be rather sparse.
Obviously this is a comparison between two historic leaders that I don't know if anyone would have as candidates for the very best leaders of all time but my point here is that there are certainly some solid metrics by which leaders can be praised or denigrated. Was there a boom in the economy when a leader rose to power? Was that a coincidence or because of some economic reform they enacted? Was there a dramatic fall in crime? Did their rise to power result in a fertile environment of innovation and literary/artistic/philosophical/scientific achievements? and so on. We can use historical data in context along with the same metrics that we could use to judge leaders today.
Thank you for the input.
I recommend you read The 48 Laws of Power.
Not specific to consulting, but one of the best primers for the professional world. An oldie but quite good:
Hey Jernest,
Whenever you get the time, you should buy this book from your local store and read it. Its a life changer.
http://www.amazon.com/The-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197
Exactly. Rossi could keep his rivals at bay with SILENCE. I hope Rossi picks up this book and read it for the 2017. It really helps!
Here's a link to the The 48 laws of Power book on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/The-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8
Hope that helps
It sounds to me like you want to read this book, The 48 Laws of Power
>My life has been a disastrous whirlwind of shit. I've been emasculated, treated like shit, conditioned to be weak. The ones closest to me have hurt and damaged me. My psyche literally feels like it's throwing up sometimes. I know I'm a strong person, my environments have been damaging and have damped the person I should be.
This. This man. Kill it. You sound whiny,and nobody likes whiny.
>My request is advice on how to start. I'm an 18 year old male, with little to my name. I don't know what the hell I'm doing and I don't know what to do.
>No one taught me about self respect, so I never learned how to stand up for myself. At times it's almost difficult.
Great.
You own it to yourself to be the best person you can be. So start lifting, http://stronglifts.com/stronglifts-5x5-beginner-strength-training-program/ works wonders. Take hikes/long walks/ whatever keeps you moving on off days. And read in your leisure. 48 Laws of Power, http://www.amazon.com/The-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197, is a great start, and incorporate your focus onto reading whatever subjects you find suitable to your goals.
At the end of the day, it's on you to cultivate the life you desire. You have time, energy and self-awareness on your side.
Good luck
I always liked the 48 Laws of Power.
Robert Greene wrote The 48 Laws of Power, it's pretty close.
If you have the time to, read this:
It's called The 48 Laws of Power and it's basically the ways you can keep yourself from being manipulated (and also how manipulate others, although there is no ethical center to the book).
I can't say that It changed my career as It's not that long yet but it gave me a good sense of what to expect from people and how to act in some situations for better result.
The thought that you'd think you'd get a meaningful straight answer to such a question means you don't understand how this company functions. I'd recommend reading "The Prince" by Machiavelli, it's a good life lesson (Laws of Power is good too).