I agree with your statement. I downloaded it about 3 days after a fucked up break up, from my ex who broke up because he couldn't communicate his needs. It was the worst decision I ever made. I eventually met someone but the constant mind fuck about your ex. What he's doing and the guilt alongside it. It just broke me. I work beside my ex so it made it even more difficult to see him everyday. In the end my ex breadcrumbed me and was vulnerable as I was and wanted so desperately to get back with him. I ended up hurting a guy who really didn't deserve it. The point is. You need to sit with your emotions.. as hard and brutal as they are. You can't make it go away by seeking connection with other people. It's just selfish and you are leading people on, who don't deserve it. I'm currently now single again as my ex who I got back with, decided 2 weeks ago to yet again break up with me than discuss the matter.
I'm taking time out to heal before I even think about going back to dating anyone. This time it's different. I'm super happy it happened because I can appreciate my own space and company. I don't have that urge I felt the last time. Just take care of yourself and what helped me to get over things was this. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Abandonment-Recovery-Workbook-Guidance-Heartbreak/dp/160868427X#
It was the best thing I ever read. I am currently re-reading it and taking better care of myself.
Yes, absolutely!! I also purchased this workbook to create structure in my healing journey: The Abandonment Recovery... https://www.amazon.com/dp/160868427X?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
It’s helped a ton.