You definitely want to roughhouse and you definitely don't want to do it wrong so get everyone some training:
https://smile.amazon.com/Art-Roughhousing-Old-Fashioned-Horseplay-Every/dp/1594744874/
It said to me that the majority of men (because they say "some is not enough") are behaving in a way that is not acceptable, and most men need to better themselves and hold each other accountable. They are claiming that most men behave in a repulsive, uncivilized way. That's retarded to put it nicely. Men are not responsible for other men's problems (adults, anyway). It's not men's jobs to police other men. Men are not born angry, aggressive, dominant, sexual assaulters. Most is learned. Are men by nature more aggressive? More hot-headed? Dominate? Probably. However, most is not nature, but nurture. Boys are not being raised correctly. Single parenthood is extremely common. Single mothers are more common than single fathers. Most educators in our society are female. This tells me we need more positive male role models that understand that men are not restricted to the extremely outdated gender standards that men are still held to today.
Boys are not being raised in a healthy way. This is why men and boys are falling further and further behind in education. Why the rate of males going to college is decreasing. Why the vast majority of inmates are men. Ignoring your problems and holding emotions inside is probably the worst thing you can teach a kid. Further, the only emotion men are "allowed" to have are aggressive ones like anger, because somehow that's seen as normal.
At this point I don't even know what toxic masculinity is. I am sure, however, that if there is a such a thing, if it not restricted to men. So either toxic femininity is a thing as well, or people just have bad character traits, some more common in males or females.
The "Boys will be boys" statement is true depending on how you look at it. Kids "roughhousing" is beneficial to them (https://www.amazon.com/Art-Roughhousing-Anthony-T-DeBenedet/dp/1594744874/psychcentral). As long as no physical harm is done, of course. So more accurately you could say "Kids will be kids". The whole notion that the roughhousing scenario gives is that boys are physically aggressive even as kids, and it needs to be stopped. That's just wrong.
So yes, I do think the message is "men bad".