I am an aspie with a 9 year old aspie child. Even though we have the same condition we are still very different, and being patient with him can be a struggle. We got him into occupational therapy to help with his extremely picky eating habits, and that has been very helpful. I also read some "social rules" to him from this book:
I wish someone had read that to me as a kid. It would have saved me from a lot of painful experiences.
OP since the issue transcends schools and different groups of kids, it’s probably time to examine her social skills a little harder. My son doesn’t technically have Asperger’s, he’s been evaluated, but if it’s a spectrum he has a foot over the line. This book has really helped him understand what he was doing to kind of repel other kids when he hit middle school and it’s helped him a lot. I can really tell the difference just a year later, and now he’s fit in with a group of kids and found his niche.
The Asperkid's (Secret) Book of Social Rules: The Handbook of Not-So-Obvious Social Guidelines for Tweens and Teens With Asperger Syndrome https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1849059152/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_A2HSBGYK1ZZF9RZMR6TV?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I'm 41 and when I found out my son and I were autistic last year I found a book that literally had a few pages of social rules (there's obviously more to the book than that, but the list is the best part). Most of the list I had already learned the hard way over the years, but to see it all laid out like that, thinking how much easier my life would have been if I read it when I was a kid....I got a bit weepy. I am now reading the list to my kid a bit at a time. Highly recommend.
https://www.amazon.com/Asperkids-Secret-Book-Social-Rules/dp/1849059152
My son was diagnosed around the same age, and we both found this book very useful:
The Asperkid's (Secret) Book of Social Rules: The Handbook of Not-So-Obvious Social Guidelines for Tweens and Teens With Asperger Syndrome
https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1849059152/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_RWRRAMG828Z3E45CFKH9
The author and most of her family are on the spectrum, and so has an actual as opposed to academic understanding.
Thank you all for such thoughtful replies. What a great community!
I also wanted to let you all know how much my son has loved this book: https://www.amazon.com/Asperkids-Secret-Book-Social-Rules/dp/1849059152. My adult friend with Asperger’s recommended it and said he wished he’d had it when he was younger.
There is a book called The Asperkid's (Secret) Guide to Social Rules. And it looks pretty cool. I've read some of it and it's spot on. :)
Amazon tells me I bought this when my older son was ten. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Asperkids-Secret-Book-Social-Rules/dp/1849059152
He found it helpful and funny. As did we. And, erm, rather revealing about his parents.
Something like this? Apparently the author is autistic but read the reviews and make your own decision.
Yes, look up Asperger support materials. There is a whole treasure of info there to discover about "adulting".
I recommend this one: https://www.amazon.com/Asperkids-Secret-Book-Social-Rules/dp/1849059152
Nothing professional, but I found this book on Amazon. While it's specifically for teens with Aspergers, it seems to be well-reviewed and appreciated by broader audiences.
i have an 11 year old on the spectrum. i think it's great that your kid has a good friend.
we just got this book for him and he seems to be inhaling it: https://www.amazon.com/Asperkids-Secret-Book-Social-Rules/dp/1849059152/ref=sr_1_3?crid=B8X704BGHU36&keywords=aspergers+books&qid=1556635398&s=gateway&sprefix=aspergers%2Caps%2C121&sr=8-3
Sure sounds like it. Check out these books. I'm an adult but they still helped me a lot: https://www.amazon.com/Asperkids-Secret-Book-Social-Rules/dp/1849059152 https://www.amazon.com/Nerdy-Shy-Socially-Inappropriate-Asperger/dp/1849057575/