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I got my husband this book and I think it helped a lot. We also took a new parents class at the hospital. But we had so many of these dumb conversations: sleeping on their backs, no blankets, all kinds of stuff I thought was obvious at this point. If he'll trust that you know what you're doing and he's willing to learn, I think you'll be good!
My work has a lot of women, and naturally some will get started on their wee ones. I have a stack of these babies to give away whenever I see a baby shower announcement. Being in IT it's a perfect gift from me, and either the mother-to-be or babydaddy tends to be engineerily inclined so it works.
I get this reaction every time; "HAHAHA this is hilarious! .... whoa, this has good info in it!"
S’ok, you can always buy it from Amazon if you’re too tired for the ceremony:
(I have this book, it’s pretty funny, but not sure how much better it really is than flying by the seat of your pants)
Being a new mom is so hard and people really underestimate it especially if you don't have like a huge family of women you can learn all those little tips and tricks from, or didn't grow up with a lot of babies in the family, and then you add that on top of no sleep and hormone surges and it can be a hot mess. Honestly I had to learn a lot myself because I didn't have the best parents nor did I have a lot of close family so I relied on this book and I swear they should hand one to every freaking parent that pops out a kid lol.
Personally, I'm ecstatic about being pregnant and DO want something baby-related. I love shopping for tiny baby clothes because they are so cute, so a gift card to Carter's or Amazon would actually be really sweet.
For my husband, one gift I'm getting him is The Baby Owner's Manual, a humorous guide to caring for a baby that I thought would be fun to read together.
Got this one as kind of a joke with my first, but it’s honestly a pretty good parenting book. One author is a pediatric psychologist, so there’s actual science behind the stuff.
There are “sequels” for toddlers and teens, and the series apparently branches out to pets, home ownership, marriage, and sex.
What has helped me was reading up on what to expect. I found this particular book very helpful:
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance (Owner's and Instruction Manual) https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ND0fFbYX0NJK5
There's a whole book like this called the The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Troubleshooting Tips, and Advice on First Year Maintenance
It is both hilarious, and actually full of good advice, with easy to follow instructions for things like a proper swaddle and diaper changing.
I gave this to my husband. https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978 I thought it was pretty good. Also used glow baby app in the beginning and it was good. Your doctor and nurses are also good resources. They help a lot in the hospital of showing you how to care for the baby.
Thanks! Closest match to a manual I could find online was this https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978, not sure if it applies to all models :D
At a week old we have only had one night of screaming bloody murder, but that was fixed with feeding. Aside from that and diperchanges he has been calm as can be 24/7, I'm dreading the moment he can scream just for shits and giggles :D
When waiting for our little guy to arrive I found perusing this book helpful to calm my nerves: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_HTY1AAS7CJ4RXCTF61KK
It's not a wordy book and gives simple instructions (with diagrams) on how to perform certain tasks.
However, sounds like your wife will be your greatest resource. Don't worry, you will get a lot of practice very quickly.
Kind of lame gifts.. but ..
My guy is a wanna-be gear head (will start schooling to be a paid gear head once he's retired from service officially).
So, I got home a baby book set up to be like a vehicle owners manual ( "The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance (Owner's and Instruction Manual)") actually pretty good, and a bit funny so a good read for him.
found on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_1JPPRCW93DRRMR8K8ES8
And some new soffe's in obnoxious colors since he loves exercising in the dang things so much but can only wear black as of right now.
My husband has really enjoyed this book so far and is learning a lot.
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance (Owner's and Instruction Manual) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_ERFT97A37M82D5XZR401
This is more for after you graduate from predaddit, but "The Baby Owner's Manual: operating instructions, trouble-shooting, tips, and advice on first-year maintenance" is a really great reference book. It's written like an electronics owners manual and gives great how-to's and diagrams on all of the basics. No need to read it cover to cover, just a really good backup to defer to when you have a question.
There’s a book called Baby Owners Manual. Totally made for dads to be concise and easy to navigate. Highly recommend, especially if he is mechanical/engineer type
Edit: Found it on amazon for you; https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1534404063&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=baby+owners+manual&dpPl=1&dpID=41Icd49EmLL&ref=plSrch
I read a few but ironically, the one I kept coming back to was “The Baby Owner’s Manual”. The theme of the book is an almost sexist joke about men only understanding technical writing and manuals but the content was actually spot on and not as gimmicky. It’s cheap as hell too.
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-shooting Tips, and Advice on First-year Maintenance was great for us - we are both STEM nerds too, we loved this! It’s humorous yet informative - I’ll get the toddler version later as well!
Not really set in an inspirational or emotional tone, kinda the opposite really since it’s supposed to resemble an instruction manual, but it’s our favorite book.
Gifted this to a couple of new dads in my work group. It’s great.
Pictures. Lots of pictures. They change so fast yet it’s right in front of you, you don’t realize it.
Do you mean books on how to be a dad? Books to read to your baby? Books on how to teach your kid science?
Edit: For the first category, start with this
My husband and I are adopting, so I figure this is my opportunity to buy all the dorky dad and grandparent gifts. Definitely getting him this book and maybe a "manly" diaper bag or baby carrier. Any suggestions?
hands down without question the Baby Owners Manual.
It's straightforward, presents the material in a "welcome to your new appliance" type of way with diagrams and all, and actually has useful information in it!
(FYI there's a pregnancy version too for you. I don't like it as much, but it's still fairly useful).
This book is amazing. It's helped me understand what my wife is going through, and how to handle situations.
Also, I don't know if you've done the ultrasound, but find a hospital that has classes. The classes should help you feel more comfortable.
We both enjoyed The Baby Owner's Manual, which is a rather nerdy look at how to care for a baby. It doesn't cover pregnancy or childbirth, though.
We particularly liked the fact that it said things like "bouncing a baby at a frequency of > 1 Hz is shaking a baby". It's nice to have good definitions of that boundary line.
This is what I got for my husband when I was pregnant last time. He seemed to like it, he didn't read it beforehand, but dug it out once the baby was here and there was something he needed info on.
There is nothing that can prepare you, lol
But to actually answer your question, I always give my friends who are becoming first time parents The Baby Owner's Manual. I picked up like 3 or 4 from a second hand book store a while back, and already gave them all out to friends. It was a great help for my first kid.
It's not so much for parenting, but for caring for the baby. Check your local secondhand bookstores first, as they're usually cheaper than buying it new.
We are on almost the exact same timeline (ahead 1 week) and also having a girl. I too have a younger brother, but honestly anytime I ever imagined having a child it was a girl so I feel like im subconsciously prepared for it. I was more fearful about having a boy!
I would recommend checking out this baby book I got recently which helped put my mind at ease for the infant stage. It reads like an instruction manual and has some good humor in it. Better than any of the other books ive read, and yes it covers wiping, burping, swaddling, etc.
All in all though, i wouldnt stress about the sex. It's going to be a wild ride regardless!
Oh, they never gave you a copy of the manual at the hospital?
I imagine that it's almost like payback for when we used to do that to our parents xD
Congrats! My husband wasn't into any of the books we bought until I got him this one: http://www.amazon.com/The-Baby-Owners-Manual-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978
He's the type who is always looking for things around the house to fix, so the owners manual approach resonated with him. Plus it's pretty funny at times.
Edit: fixed a typo
I enjoyed The Baby Owner's Manual. I guess it all depends on your sense of humor though!
"You do realize I have no idea either, right? This is all a guessing game to us both."
"I'm not sure. What do you think?" (say this genuinely curious/asking him, NOT with an accusatory tone. it puts the ownership back on him and hopefully makes him realize that you DON'T have all the answers all the time and that he SHOULD at some point -- or at least ask google.)
If you're both in a good place, legit sit down and have a conversation about this. If he has a sense of humor maybe buy him the baby owners manual and say "it sounds like you need to read the directions" ;) (https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978)
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance (Owner's and Instruction Manual) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_UTMKCbEXXFK04
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance (Owner's and Instruction Manual) on Amazon
A few years ago before my niece was born my cousin said the same thing just before they had a baby shower.
I bought them this
well then.. someone sounds excited? haha. congrats and welcome to the club :)
> how do you make it feel real?
it slowly happens over the weeks and months, buying stuff, going to doctors visits, building your nursery. my wife is at 37 weeks this week and it's still not completely real to me. i'm sure it will be real really damn soon..
> Do we need to curb their expectations
we didn't tell anyone until 12 weeks. after that, it's pretty safe. If I were you just keep it to immediate family and make sure they don't go blabbing to everyone, or they'll have some explaining to do should anything happen.
> What do I do now?!
You're right, a little too early to buy stuff, but start getting educated! Two books I loved were these:
The Baby Owners Manual
The Expectant Father
Once you're a bit closer have a look at Happiest baby on the block or just watch the whole thing on youtube.
I've also read many many times, be sure that both you and your wife do NOT read "What to expect when you're expecting" even if it's advertised to you as being the number 1 book for pregnancy. Avoid it like the plague.
A quick look at amazon reviews:
"The writing is vapid and uninspiring. The tone is condescending. The information is watery and half-assed."
"This book assumes that pregnant women are idiots, and talks to them accordingly."
and my favourite.. "Guys ... consider this a warning; this will be the worst book that your significant other can read and will make your life utterly miserable for the next nine months. It's been over four years since I had to deal with this serie's 3rd edition and I still can't stand the sight of it."
Hope some of this helps, enjoy the ride!
here you go, owners manual. actually gives some really good tips. They also do one for toddlers.
I'm getting this for my SO, he has a Master's degree in Science. (Mechanical Engineering) 😂
You've already started! :)
I really liked this book: https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978
I’m the scientist who reads journal articles in our family, but my husband did read The Birth Partner and this baby survival guide book that was like a small graphic novel.
OP, this is it: https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978/ref=sr_1_16?crid=3MBV7ZIV6TDR4&keywords=baby+survival+guide&qid=1665663466&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIxLjg0IiwicXNhIjoiMS4zMCIsInFzcCI6IjAuOTkifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=Baby+survival+%2Caps%2C112&sr=8-16
They don’t come with a manual, but you can get them from the Jawas here:
Oh boy, you're late.
Ok, I'm not even joking: https://www.amazon.ca/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978
Then you should ideally get on a course for baby sleeping. We went with Cara. This WILL dominate your life from now on.
Especially important are also the bits about swaddling, the issue with babies turning etc.
Another tip, if you need a bottle, even from time to time, get one of these: https://www.formulavita.com/products/cool-twister
You keep this in the fridge, filled with water. When you boil the water for the formula or whatever you screw the bottle with the hot water into one end, turn it around and out of the other end comes the boiled water... just at room temperature. Then you put the egg back in the fridge.
You may appreciate a book my wife got for me, which should have "Don't Panic" in large friendly letters on the cover: https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978/
Reminds me of The Baby Owner's Manual by Louis Borgenicht. Can't say it was particularly useful, but definitely worth some good laughs.
there's an after market manual
The Baby's Owner Manual is great, and I really enjoyed Precious Little Sleep for sleep troubleshooting.
We got this for a friend of ours, it was funny and he said it actually had a lot of useful information for him:
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance (Owner's and Instruction Manual) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_FXR9AC5T24WW7293C37E?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
We've also gotten people things like diaper bags that are more masculine (some comic book themed, there are tons that are "tactical").
A massager is a great gift for both parents. When we had our first, it was murder on both our backs. Newborns aren't heavy, but something about the positioning really works muscles that we apparently didn't use much (plus the baby was colicky, so we were constantly holding him).
If they have a name picked out, there are some cute personalized books about baby and daddy. We got this one as a gift: https://hoorayheroes.com/personalised-books-for-children/when-theo-grows-up-daddy-edition
Of course there are tons of less pricey books focused around dads, always a good option.
We haven't gifted these so I can't vouch for them specifically (other than to say that the baby stuff we have from this company has been good), but we joked ALL THE TIME about the need for a product like this, it's amazing how often babies hit a guy in the jewels. Obviously depends on your sense of humor and relationship, but it gave me a chuckle! https://frida.com/products/fridaballs
And of course, if he's a coffee drinker, you can't go wrong getting him stocked up (and maybe a dad mug to go with it)!
Good for you thinking about the parents! Your friends are very lucky.
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance (Owner's and Instruction Manual) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_EH1XCBX09KE0K4AGB8X3
No, there is no RP content focused on this as far as I am aware.
The best you can do is find a twitter account here or there that might be RP and a dad. But most everything that pretends to be RP and dad focused is just building better betas (like a certain short bearded alcoholic sailor who married the only woman to ever have touched his penis [this means dude has n count of 1] but claims to know that 'picking up girls is easy').
Instead you are going to have to think for yourself and map all of the sidebar knowledge to your life, including raising kids.
Some general axioms from this space are:
Don't develop oneitis for your kid(s)
Going ham-fisted with overt dread when her hormones are messed up from pregnancy is probably not going to go well
>I really want to lead us
Look for the recent post on stop talking about leading if you are not fucking regularly.
This book was helpful to me with my first: https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978/
Good luck and don't be stupid.
As a father that also did everything late (I have a 4 and 2 year old an am 45) I wish I had a good answer for you.
I always recommend The Baby Owner's Manual for a good read for soon to be dads. I found it to be very helpful, but it doesn't really address what you're asking for.
I will say, that you're this thoughtful about being a father already is a very good sign. You'll figure a lot out on the fly.
I also cannot say enough good things about r/predaddit and r/daddit . Fantastic communities for fathers on Reddit. :)
Here you go. It's a funny read but informational.
I own this baby manual, it’s pretty hilarious
I found these books helpful: Baby Owner's Manual and Newborn Handbook
Bonding and attachment will be important in the beginning. Think about skin-to-skin contact, holding baby a lot, consider getting a soft baby carrier (either structured like baby bjorn or ergobaby or non-structured like a wrap or ring sling) so that you can have baby on you but hands free.
Sleep: baby needs a safe place to sleep. I recommend starting with a bassinet, especially a sidecar bassinet that will attach to your bed so that you can lay down while still comforting baby. Baby can sleep in either a sleep sack, PJs, or a swaddle. Recommend getting both a swaddle blanket and a velcro swaddle to see if baby likes one or the other. Swaddling can be comforting to a very young baby.
Food: Get formula and bottles. Personally I like Dr Browns for the anti-colic measures. Tiny babies have a lot of spitup and gas. For formula you can either do powder or pre-mixed. Pre-mixed jugs are so easy but more expensive. You may want a bottle warmer, though some babies are totally fine drinking cool or room temp formula. You will want a bottle brush and probably some microwave steamer bags for sterilization. You will probably want cloth bibs so that baby doesn't dribble or spit up on their clothes, and LOTS of burp cloths. I love the Burt's Bees Baby brand for both of these, but you can definitely find cheaper out there if you need to.
Hygiene: Lots of diapers. Babies go through diapers like crazy at first, and don't worry about the brand unless you find yourself dissatisfied with whatever brand you start with. You also need wipes and baby wash for baths. Regular towels are fine for a baby, and you don't necessarily need a baby bath tub unless you want one. Baby can bathe with you or laid on the bottom of the bathtub with a fluffy towel under them.
Dress: Start with simple onesies, socks, and one-piece sleep and plays. You don't need anything fancy, but you will probably need a lot of onesies or sleep and plays because little babies spit up so much. I recommend any brand of Free and Clear laundry detergent because the scented stuff can irritate baby's skin.
Travel: A car seat. You can get either an infant bucket seat or a convertible car seat. The convertible seat lasts much longer, but the infant seat can be used as a carrier and many of them will also slot into a stroller.
Play and comfort: Pacifiers are fantastic for helping baby feel comforted and helping baby sleep. You may want to try 2 or 3 different styles or brands because babies tend to have preferences. Mine will only use MAM. Not urgent, but you might want a baby lounger, a swing, or a bouncer -- somewhere to put baby down. It will be a while before baby can really interact with toys so most of this can wait.
I thought babies didn’t come a manual, but then my wife got me The Baby Owner’s Manual.
Honestly, there is only one certainty. You will have less time for the things you used to do. You can still go to clubs, but it’s not going to be every Thursday Friday and Saturday. You can still go camping, but once a month is going to turn into once a season (if that) for a little while. Your social life doesn’t have to stop completely when you’re a parent, but it’s going to slow down. And you’re going to be tired. But that’s OK.
You’re going to make new routines, and then there will be a sleep regression and you’re going to have to start from square one. It’s kind of how things go for the first two or three years.
Your social circle will get more parents in it, probably. You’ll meet other moms and dads on the playground or at daycare, and just like kids see other kids around their height and become best friends, you’ll see other parents with kids around the same height and become at least acquaintances. You don’t need to ditch your old friends, but make time to hang with these parents. They’ll be able to relate to this new part of your life in a way that child free friends can’t.
As to how to support the mother, I got up with my wife when she had to do overnight feeds. We did expressed milk for a while, so that was me feeding while my wife pumped. That turned into me staying up while she nursed, just to make sure she (wife) didn’t fall asleep. Feed her. And manage guests in the hospital and when you’re home. I guess Covid makes it so that the hospital isn’t really a thing, though. Make a plan for how much company you guys want to have and stick to it. Run interference for pushy relatives who don’t want to leave or give you back your own child.
That’s all short term stuff, long term support is just being there for her. Give her naps sometimes, take on a few extra diapers, and let her know that she’s doing a good job.
Sounds like you're taking the right steps and you are self-aware enough to overcome any developmental issues that your parents created.
For the first two years this book was helpful for my pragmatic mind: https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978
I used to be insecure and full of social anxiety. Thankfully I developed social skills and my self-esteem so my daughters have never seen me in that light. They have my genetic anxiety issues but we're already working through issues in their pre-teens that I didn't even begin to work through until college.
Fatherhood is not really genetic. It's literally about putting in the time and being there. Not empty time, but quality time. You quite literally get out of it, what you put in. And when you're not there, you should be living in a way that sets a positive example for being sociable, healthy, prolific, educated, and intellectually critical.
If you lack any of the described traits, begin to develop them. Don't expect to raise children with traits that you yourself don't have or cannot demonstrate.
My favorite was https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978
Not it, but funny.
You didn't pick up one of these?
Get dad a baby manual It's fun and hilarious and the content is legit. Not as in depth as other baby books though.
Baby Owner's Manual
Seriously, I gave this book to my hubby. It's amazing.
I'm almost done with "The Baby Owner's Manual." https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978 . I like it and this is coming from someone who hasn't read a book since high school ended about 14 years ago.
I have a couple models too. Can't believe they don't come with a manual. I had to buy mine after market. https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance (Owner's and Instruction Manual) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i2QWBbBR1VV1T
great book. great info. great bits of humor. welcome to fatherhood.
something like this?
Buy this. You sound like you need it. Still waiting on the arrival of my twins, but I found the book helpful in getting prepared, plus its very straightforward.
I got The Baby Owner's Manual for practical information like this. Funny and helpful.
Pick up a book or two to fill you in on the basics. My husband really got a lot out of these two:
This one for the nuts & bolts mechanics: https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1489628560&sr=8-1&keywords=the+baby+manual
And this one for more the emotional/what to expect: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0399166262/ref=od_aui_detailpages00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I was also a fan of the pregnancy app from "What to Expect when You're Expecting" because it gave week by week updates about what was happening with Baby and tips to deal with the physical and psychological changes.
Then start talking about what you want things to look like. If you're wanting to get married before Baby arrives, sooner is better because you're going to have a lot more on your plate coming up very soon.
Scheduling an appointment with a doctor to find out how far along, etc. will also give you an opportunity to ask questions from someone who will be with you every step of the way.
The Baby Owner's Manual is an actual thing with real advice.
I would check out the Wiki for this sub as there are some pretty good readings there. I personally liked The Baby Owner's Manual because it was very much like a checklist of things you need to know. Its got some humor to it, but also a lot of good information. Works as a nice reference tool for looking up information quickly.
These have super high reviews and are what I'm considering for my husband (I've done this before, he hasn't):
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance
The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be
Edit: sorry for such messy links!
You can get a replacement manual here: http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978
This was a great book (helped scale back the potential freak out from all the other books that were super dramatic): http://www.amazon.com/The-Baby-Owners-Manual-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978
No baby here yet (I'm due 3 days before you and still haven't popped yet!), but I have a few book recommendations. Your boyfriend might enjoy the first because it's amusing and not really overwhelming, called The Baby Owner's Manual. I am currently reading Mayo Clinic's Guide to Baby's First Year, which is more clinical but VERY detailed. I really enjoyed the mayo clinic pregnancy book because it wasn't as scare-tactic as some of the others (like What to Expect) but still gave good, evidence-based information. Speaking of evidence-based, I read and thoroughly enjoyed The Science of Mom, which is kind of like Expecting Better but for baby's first year of life. It goes over a lot of scientific studies, if that's your thing!
These are the only ones I bought and read:
The Baby's Owner Manual
Pregnancy Instruction Manual
The Pregnancy Countdown book
I love this Subreddit and just how easy breezy and fun the conversations were while still being helpful. I found these books had a similar feel to them.
I'm pretty petite and really didn't start showing until 24-ish weeks? Then is was like BOOM. There's a baby in there. So, I bet it's coming sooner than you think. I honestly was able to sleep on my stomach late into the 2nd Tri - which made me very happy.
I just ate what felt right at that moment. I had a lot of food aversions and it was just hard for a while. Eventually, I found things that worked and then the aversions tapered. I've been eating cashews a lot lately... Milk hits the spot... I'd say keep trying until you find something!
I didn't really have a "timeline," and my OB would remind us and help us figure out when to do some things like, call the insurance company, schedule classes, etc. I preferred to take the classes later so the information stayed fresh.
As for a car, we started that early because we knew we had two cars to sell/trade and wanted to make sure we found something we both really liked.
Make a list of what you want done before baby comes and place it according to "MUST HAVES" / "NICE TO HAVES" -- that helped us prioritize and made it feel more managable.
Hope some of this helped!!
Oh, here's a link.
I got this for a friend of mine years ago for his first child. He was a mechanic and he loved it.
No, seriously, my baby brother asked for a copy for his birthday and he says its been a big help.
This is the perfect book for you :http://www.amazon.com/The-Baby-Owners-Manual-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978
Actually I bought it for my husband with our first, and we ended up finding it quite helpful.
This book is supposed to be for fathers/parterns for labor, but I read it and found it a much better read the the ones geared towards mothers:
My friend gave me this great book before I had my first:
The Baby Owners Manual & Trouble Shooting
It's a funny, well designed book that is straightforward with all of the basics covered.
The other book that I would recommend is Baby 411
It's a really great book for reference when you are worried about everything - behavior, feeding, sickness, sleeping, etc...
Am I the only that read the manual?
Here's the manual.
Congratulations! I found Dr. Sears to be pretty helpful. Also, the Baby Owners Manual for the mechanics of year 1.
Edit: corrected url. Also, it's okay for her to have a beer or 1/2 glass of wine now and then, especially after 20 weeks.
Here are some things I found vital.
-Car seat. Of course. Buy new, it's worth it for this one item. Everything else can be secondhand.
-Rags. You can use what you already have but try to pick up some more cheap dishrags cuz baby's gonna puke A LOT.
-Diaper changing pads. One for at home and one for the diaper bag.
-Diaper bag. I had one big one and one small one depending on how long we were going to be gone. You don't need anything fancy just something to carry your diapers and formula/breast milk.
-Tiny garbage bags for the diaper bag! Don't want to put the used leaky diapers back into the diaper bag loose.
-I'd invest in a diaper changing station. Not 100% necessary, but very convenient. I set mine up on top of her dresser.
-DON'T BUY A BUMBO SEAT. Ugh those things are terrible.
-After baby is born and you know what size he is. Then go to the resale store and buy nice warm baby clothes. Warm sleeping clothes are better than lots of blankets.
-Bottles. Breast pump if she is breast feeding and formula if she is not.
-The very best book on raising a baby was The Baby Owner Manual I'd highly recommend it.