You have the math, but there is more to risk assessment than looking at a number and saying "that's reassuring"
You could read up on qualitative and quantitative risk assessment, but that will likely be extremely boring.
This book is much more interesting.
https://www.amazon.com/Black-Swan-Impact-Improbable-Incerto/dp/1400063515
I'm almost finished with The Black Swan by Nassim Nicholas Taleb and I'd recommend that one also if you wanted to keep with the sociology type theme. Taleb mentions Gladwell's Blink in his work also. I guess I will be reading some Gladwell next.
I am also totally dumbfounded by why some inane things have such a profound societal impact. I stumbled on this book a few years back and enjoyed it thoroughly.
No, I did everything in my head at first. Then, during conversations with friends, I would sort of try out what I was thinking on them without admitting that it was coming from my own introspection. For example, I would make general comments about the way I think people should be. After I gained enough confidence, I told my story to younger friends who were going through shit. This helped me reinforce it to myself (in order to remember specifically what it was that bugged me), but I also applied it to friends' situations when I could. In fact, I think their shitty situations, if similar to my former insecurities, helped me remember certain specifics. (Sorry--that came off like a rant...I hope that made sense.)
I'm a fan of validity and logic, but only if a person is ready for it. People aren't very logical, but it's something I believe is nice to strive for. I read The Black Swan on the cusp of my new-found comfort and there was a chapter about theoretical people who Taleb (the writer) referred to as 'epistemocrats' who are very introspective, and, thus, had more robust knowledge about things and themselves, which made the theoretical society in which they lived much better. I feel like that is what I did, and reading about this notion after my whole 'epistemocratic', psychological housecleaning, was a nice sort of affirmation (not that I needed it.) :)
Do you think your boyfriend might be contributing to your insecurity? How often does he point out nice things you do? I don't know your situation at all, so don't take my words to heart. I would assume you're being a bit hyperbolic when you say he points out everything you do wrong. However, I was in a baaaaad relationship during my mid-twenties that made everything a lot worse than it should have been. (Not to say that you are.)
A highly unforseen event, popularized by the book of the same name.
The book The Black Swan covers that.
If I have have to read a book you do too.
http://www.amazon.com/Black-Swan-Impact-Highly-Improbable/dp/1400063515
Apply it to people.
See here or here or read this book, which I am currently reading.
Our brains are wired this way. That's why we vastly overestimate things like stranger rape and abduction, when in reality the vast majority of rapes and abductions are committed by people that the victim knows.
Not the black swan I was thinking of.
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Apparently it has nothing to do with the book.