>Every day he comes into my mind and I can't get him out, simple things remind me of everything he did to me or said or forced.
Pretty sure I understand it clearly: " Every day he comes into my mind and I can't get him out, simple things remind me of everything he did to me or said or forced. " - this is obsession.
Don't want to take my word for it?
https://www.amazon.com/Breakup-Bible-Womans-Healing-Divorce/dp/0307885097
Try a book written by a therapist. It applies to not just marriages but partnerships.
Enjoy.