What is Reddit's opinion of The Codependency Recovery Plan: A 5-Step Guide to Understand, Accept, and Break Free from the Codependent Cycle?

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100% yes

Read this book: https://www.amazon.ca/Codependency-Recovery-Plan-Understand-Codependent/dp/1641520833

(Ppl will recommend pia or melody beattie blah blah they are good to read too but not the be all end all. I’ve read a looooot and I recommend you start with what I posted and then move to others)

Then I recommend this

https://www.amazon.com/Codependency-Recovery-Plan-Understand-Codependent/dp/1641520833/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=yIaeU&pf_rd_p=5fe95cd4-8512-42fa-bf21-63d83b898785&pf_rd_r=FVGWKT3YQK61J260CTHG&pd_rd_r=a333a633-53d0-420c-b9aa-a4d9eaf1...

Ok as someone that grew up with an alcoholic you really need to know something.

Stop fighting with a bottle

When you engage with an alcoholic while they’re drinking your talking, screaming and/or fighting with a bottle. They won’t remember any of it. Your just driving yourself nuts and when he sobers up he thinks you are nuts. (Never happened, your exaggerating.)

You also go “save” him and bail him out every time. The I got him out before the police got there. Your shooting yourself in the foot. If he wakes up in a drunk tank or a hospital he’d have to admit there was a problem. Your saving him from admitting anything is wrong. He’s on the River of Denial and you keep handing him oars to keep paddling.

Go to Al-Anon, get a therapist, a good book on Boundaries and end the codependent merry-go-round. If you have KU start reading this

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1641520833/ref=sspa_dk_detail_1?psc=1&pd_rd_i=1641520833&pd_rd_w=TC4hP&pf_rd_p=0c758152-61cd-452f-97a6-17f070f654b8&pd_rd_wg=lKPeS&pf_rd_r=2PK44G67PT940XQK0593&pd_rd_r=25834eac-0db3-440e-8c9e-42a1e...

Good luck because you truly deserve better!

I bought this book at Chapter’s Indigo to help recover from the narcissistic relationship between my mother and I. It has helped me immensely in understanding her own trauma and then generating her upbringing on me in a toxic co-dopendant way.

I highly suggest looking into it. They also have the audible version on audible.ca

The Codependency Recovery Plan

There's an excruciating pointlessness to her back and forth that will become more obvious once you break the spell.

https://www.amazon.com/Codependency-Recovery-Plan-Understand-Codependent/dp/1641520833

I also had emotional abuse and my mother tried to convince me I could've fixed it by being abusive back to him. It was really triggering to have her probing my marriage. So I told my mother, "This is an upsetting conversation for me right now. I don't want to talk about this anymore. Maybe we can discuss it a year from now when I'm in a better place."

All to say. It is COMPLETELY your right to say, "I don't want to talk about this. And if you keep pushing the topic, I have to leave the room (or end this call)."

Also, honestly, do you need people in your life that refuse to trust your decisions?? I'd say, if they can't be respectful, you need to distance yourself from them. If you have kids, sure be polite, but they DON'T have permission to act this way around you anymore.

I'm slowly and painfully working myself through this book https://www.amazon.com/Codependency-Recovery-Plan-Understand-Codependent/dp/1641520833