I am only quitting due to medical tbh. I need to work because I'm broke but physically csnt. Neuro referred me to another specialist and now I will edit m I hope they understood I quit this time.
I have the Amazon link to what I showed her. I csnt see psych until I stabilize medical so better than nothing!
Amazon.com: The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole (9781623158248): Arielle Schwartz PhD, Jim Knipe PhD: Books https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining/dp/1623158249/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1543911120&sr=8-1-spons&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=the+complex+ptsd+workbook&psc=1
I was faded but I know I need help. So. Eh. This is why I like this place! I relate to the puke and shit and shit!!!@ and also I'm lonely and this is all true and I see no shame because we all have issues I appreictar you all.
With the caveat that it is absolutely best to work through these issues with a professional, I realize that's not always a feasible or comfortable option. This workbook is one of the tools I'm using with my therapist that might be helpful.
TY. Forensic populations. Tough work. I admire you.
Bessel's the Bomb. Pete Walker's book is useful, as well. Lately I've been recommending Arielle Schwartz's workbook. It's a very good "launchpad."
I can’t stand it either. Grew up with it my whole life and then lived with someone for 7 years. I want to say so much but everyone below is correct. It’s a struggle. Therapy is the best thing and staying away from people who make you feel like you are “too sensitive “ for not being ok with their harmful behaviors. Also this CPTSD workbook has helped tremendously too: https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining/dp/1623158249/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?adgrpid=61548573492&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI27WdvumF-QIVLBXUAR0GVgQWEAAYASAAEgKT5vD_BwE&hvadid=274815918130&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=1015537&hvnetw...
Thinking of you and wishing you well ❤️
I want to suggest a book to you for your PTSD that has helped me a lot. It’s called The Complex PTSD Workbook. I went through a really rough childhood as well, I hope you are able to get this book and it can help you.
I'm about to read this one. I'm new to this, too, and my partner wants me to understand.
Haven't read it yet, though.
Pretty good, I haven’t given it much more time yet but I did the second exercise and found it was goos as well.
I would say you will get better results from it if you are already in therapy with a trauma informed therapist where you can go over things together or reach out to then if you are having difficulty with what it brings up or if you have been. In therapy and are already aware of how to work through this on your own.
I got this to supplement therapy.
The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1623158249/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_31TVQNA1VJNE6H2GST77
I will give more updates once I have gone through more of it.
Oh Wow. That is a HUGE trigger. I recommend that you find a therapist while you go through this. Call 3 different Therapists for a pre-session phone chat before you book the appointment. That way, you won’t waste your money and get turned off by the therapeutic process. There is also a great work book
Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach To Regaining Emotional Control And Becoming Whole https://www.amazon.com/dp/1623158249/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_8GXJ4XFG07SFA4H75ZFK
Hey! Wanted to maybe recommend this workbook for CPTSD. I've been trying to think of other books that have helped me that aren't like Pete Walker's so they'll be more useful for you and that one popped up.
Perhaps Tara Brach and her book Radical Acceptance?
Colin Tipping's Radical Forgiveness is another.... I read so many during the first stages of recovery I have a hard time remember them all, I'll have to go back and reread some of them!
I highly HIGHLY recommend getting this book https://www.amazon.com/dp/1623158249/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apap_b2zSWfEZpHY3Y and reading or listening (audible) to Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankel. it's a non-fiction story, not necessarily a self-help book - it just has some invaluable insights from the author, who was a psychiatrist before WWII. I honestly don't understand why it's not required reading in every single high school in the world. MSFM helped me survive my own father, who is almost exactly like how you've described yours, but also has so much more to offer. I've managed to cut off contact with him for several years now, but the aftermath is still a daily struggle.
I'm open to paying for the book if that's what it takes for you to get it, but I recognize some of my own experience in you and it means a lot to me.
There are some workbooks that could help.
An example, I have never used it nor read it and hence not making any recommendations. Only providing this as an example. There are others, you'll need to find one that suits your need. https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining/dp/1623158249
This might be a good resource to start with:
Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach To Regaining Emotional Control And Becoming Whole https://www.amazon.com/dp/1623158249/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_6KQJ199XP8MSA2NM3VCT?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Just seeing a therapist for this. A shame that it’s not in the dsm .
Highly recommend this book...
I am very sory that you are unable to get a therapist.
If you can order online, I would recommend "The Complex PTSD Workbook: a mind-body approach to regaining emotional control and becoming whole" it's about 10$ on amazon
I think it's entirely possible to outgrow a psychologist. Over the years, switching psychologists based on where I am at the moment has been a useful tactic.
I've also had some bad experiences with "best in field" types of mental health providers. I personally find that the best mental health providers out there aren't seeking accolades and awards and attention. That's the shit that tends to attract more narcissistic personality types which tends to be counter-productive to trauma recovery IMO.
Regarding worksheets, I don't know of any for DID but have you worked your way through the CPTSD workbook yet?
There are also some good DBT workbooks out there that I think are applicable to most of us as well.
You could try the CPSTD workbook. My therapist is literally just reading it and have me tell her my thoughts. If you could come up with the money for it, I know it's hard, I definitely wouldn't have the money for it this moment.
https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining/dp/1623158249
I'm doing workbooks currently.
I've done Resurrection After Rape by Matt Atkinson
Cognitive Processing Therapy (Veteran/Military Version) by Patricia Resick and others
Both of those are free online, and useful regardless of the trauma you have been through
And just purchased this one
I haven't got it yet so I can't comment on how good it is, but hopefully it is.
I hope this helps!
>I find it overwhelming to truly absorb.
Most people do... at first. (I could not possibly have absorbed, processed and utilized all of that material 18 years ago after my second suicide attempt. But over time, it all began to make sense. AND make change.)
>let things emerge on their own in their own time in whatever form it comes
Bingo.
>I so wish I could accelerate the process.
Because the process is dependent upon neural plasticity and the rewiring of neural circuitry in the brain (and especially in the limbic system, the best we can do is recognize that "God is faithful, but He's slow" with regard to whatever "god" one may have.
>Would it help to return and keep going [for EMDR]?
Possibly. But I am not a big fan of EMDR for Complex (vs. "simple") PTSD. Single-event trauma does respond well to EMDR. But multi-factoral child abuse, peer abuse, romantic relationship abuse, etc. do not. IME, the psychotherapies other than EMDR in section 7c of this earlier post were far more productive for CPTSD for me and many others I have encountered. You can very usefully learn about many of them in Arielle Schwartz's excellent <em>Complex PTSD Workbook</em>,
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I got my formal diagnoses after menopause made it all worse, BUT- I still think formal diagnosis is just a tool to help find the best treatment options/types of therapy. So I don’t take it tooooo seriously. That’s why even though I’m NOT bpd, i love the workbook! I kinda forgot it’s a complex bpd book so I think it’s even better. There’s also a “normal” bpd one on Amazon. I have a CPTSD one too if anyone is interested. They’re both Amazon links below! (:
And consider getting TMS therapy - https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2021/10/depression-treatment.html
This stuff didn’t cure me but it helped me significantly, if you live in a non rural area chances are you have a TMS center near you. You can also YouTube TMS to see how it works more if you want
Yes, it helped change my perspective on medication a lot when she said that to me! And I am sorry that you are having such debilitating anxiety... It is absolutely horrifying and you're right-paralyzing. Another thing that helped me a lot is this CPTSD workbook, which gave me a lot of good strategies and I was able to work through it with my therapist. I highly recommend it: https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining/dp/1623158249/ref=pd_lpo_2?pd_rd_i=1623158249&psc=1
I wish you well!
My therapist recommended this one and I think it’s pretty solid. Complex PTSD Workbook: A... https://www.amazon.com/dp/1623158249?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining/dp/1623158249
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sounds extreme but lots of good tools on getting to know yourself, your body, establishing safety, etc.
https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining/dp/1623158249
Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach To Regaining Emotional Control And Becoming Whole
How do you feel about this book? https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining/dp/1623158249
This workbook is the first my gf worked through, and it has good breadth.
https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining/dp/1623158249
This workbook is more in-depth and heavy. But it can really help you get out a lot.
https://www.amazon.com/PTSD-Workbook-Effective-Techniques-Overcoming/dp/1626253706
There's a good deal of youtube channels that offer some support. The Crappy Childhood Fairy is good.
TheraminTrees has VERY good content on abuse and trauma recovery, but a lot of it has to do with religious trauma.
I am right there with you. There are some great C-ptsd workbooks on Amazon for inexpensive as well as EFT workbooks for Codependency. You can heal much more quickly with some guidance even on your own. I will include links of the ones I’ve been working with. It’s incredibly helpful and powerful.
Emotional Freedom Technique- https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Freedom-Techniques-Codependency-Recovery-ebook/dp/B00FGWGGOQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?keywords=eft+codependency+book&qid=1583206348&sr=8-2
I see. That does make sense.
It seems like you have a good self-awareness of the problem (aka - egodystonia), so that means you are already way out in front of the pack in respect to progress. Congratulations on that.
I suggest you do some reading about adverse childhood experiences and think very, very carefully about how those apply, or might apply, to you.
https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining/dp/1623158249
If you know, or figure out, that you have some so-called "Big T" trauma (i.e. major, acute situations of trauma) you would likely benefit quite a lot from EMDR, which is quite effective for that (when performed properly). Something that would likely really help with you general emotional stability is neurofeedback.
A good starter book for you is called "The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists", which you can find on amazon. The author of that book also wrote and excellent new book following up on that called "Discovering The Healthy Self and Meaningful Resistance to Toxic Narcissism". If you read the first one and really, really work the steps she has laid out, I guarantee you will have some deep insights and healthy behavioral changes. When you start to learn how you childhood and early years were affected by pathological narcissistic behavior from others, you can start to see how your own behavior is recreating that trauma, over and over and over again. You can break the cycle.
https://www.amazon.com/Wizard-Oz-Other-Narcissists-Relationship/dp/0972072837
https://www.amazon.com/Discovering-Healthy-Meaningful-Resistance-Narcissism/dp/0972072845
An absolutely key component to realize about changing the pathological behavior is realizing how it mirrors addiction - the constant feeding by way of unhealthy attention seeking. When you ween yourself off of that, then quit it hard and cold, then you can start replacing it with healthy means of gaining attention and success in life - healthy ego drive leading to deeper and substantial life satisfaction, instead of the constant cycle of binging on attention for a "bump" then needing more and more eventually leading to deflation/anger/range/depression etc.
Another excellent book is a regular workbook for affect regulation using DBT on your own:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1572245131
Just remember that the most important advocate for your own healing and health is you, and you'll always be making progress as long as you just put one foot in front of the other. Take a comfortable pace and just keep plugging away.
I believe you can do it.
Good luck