{"product":{"product_id":"0553804723","title":"The Definitive Book of Body Language: The Hidden Meaning Behind People's Gestures and Expressions","price":"24.99","image_url":"https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51875x7SZAL._SL500_.jpg","url":"https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553804723"},"comments":[{"body":"Hey man, fellow former-religious-conservative-turned-liberal here. I resonate with a lot of what you're saying in your post and comments. A thing that helped me was identifying some steps I could take to be more physically present/inviting to people and then just...doing those things, even when I felt weird/uncomfortable about it. I had to accept that what I felt about physicality *had nothing whatsoever to do with reality*, and so I focused on external actions I could force myself to take regardless of how I felt about doing those things. I started incorporating brief touches into my conversations with women I was interested in (e.g. when I met her and her friend at a gathering, reaching out and touching her arm as I greeted them), as well as more open and confident body language (I have no idea how body language works, I just took [this book](https://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language-Expressions/dp/0553804723/) on faith).\r\n\r\n*It felt very weird and awkward at first*. I felt like I was being invasive, inconsiderate, and going out on a very shaky limb. It was not perceived that way. I just had to accept that, thanks to the background I was raised with, my social intuitions were sources of very bad information when it came to physicality.\r\n\r\nAlso, therapy helps a lot. Your insurance may cover a good part of the expense (look for \"outpatient mental health\" or similar language).","subreddit_name":"datingoverthirty","author":"Grundlage"},{"body":"I found [The Definitive Book of Body Language](https://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language-Expressions/dp/0553804723/) to be helpful! Does a good job of breaking down to specifics. Helped me a lot with picking up on clues from eye contact/movement, posture, and body positioning. Never though of the importance of where someone's feet were pointing until reading this book haha","subreddit_name":"aspergers","author":"Haphazard-Finesse"},{"body":"you need self confidence my dude. this is what you lack, you get scared, you clam up, you technically shut down. \r\n\r\nBody Language - Barbara and Allen Pease\r\nhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/0553804723/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_STMQMM6XHZ6J2BY05E3V?_encoding=UTF8\u0026amp;psc=1\r\n\r\nif you have the time, read this book. im not saying you'll become a 007 by reading this. However, you can at least give youeself at edge. As they say, actions speaks louder than words.","subreddit_name":"relationship_advice","author":"AskingForMe0920"},{"body":"you need self confidence my dude. this is what you lack, you get scared, you clam up, you technically shut down. \r\n\r\nBody Language - Barbara and Allen Pease\r\nhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/0553804723/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_STMQMM6XHZ6J2BY05E3V?_encoding=UTF8\u0026amp;psc=1\r\n\r\nif you have the time, read this book. im not saying you'll become a 007 by reading this. However, you can at least give youeself at edge. As they say, actions speaks louder than words.","subreddit_name":"relationship_advice","author":"AskingForMe0920"},{"body":"\u0026gt; I really do not grasp social skills, nor do I notice I've said/done something wrong until someone points it out, usually hours later.\r\n\r\nHave you ever read any books on body language? [this](https://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language-Expressions/dp/0553804723) one is good. While I am not autistic, I really struggled with body language partially because the body language my mother uses is really wonky - so I would get the wrong messages. I still sometimes do.\r\n\r\nIt was amazing how much more sense other people made once I had some sort of rules to go off of. Maybe it would help you in a similar way? A good part of social skills is not just your ability to express yourself, but also your ability to read the people around you, and engage in social mirroring. I did not do social mirroring very well until I read that book. I realize it won't be perfect, but it might give you a few more tools.","subreddit_name":"JUSTNOMIL","author":"RestrainedGold"},{"body":"That book actually goes over this exact style of handshake, deeming it \"The Socket-Wrencher\" on page 62. \r\n\r\nThe book goes on to say it usually indicates one of three things: first that the initiator is insecure, second that the initiator is from an area with small areas of personal space, or third that the initiator is trying to exert control upon the recipient. \r\n\r\n[Source book](https://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language-Expressions/dp/0553804723)","subreddit_name":"gifs","author":"lolxcorezorz"},{"body":"\u0026gt; I want to make a good impression on most people and exude power but still be feminine, especially in professional settings.\r\n\r\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0553804723\r\n\r\nthis book has a lot of insights for how women should behave in business settings, what to wear, how/when to talk, etc... but it's kinda written \"between the lines\", there is no separate chapter for that. But it's a pretty good read anyway\r\n\r\n\r\n","subreddit_name":"GetSuave","author":"swaglord1k"},{"body":"You are good looking, maybe can change your haircut, but definitely are handsome and will get more handsome as time goes on. What is probably pulling you back right now with the ladies is posture and body language. May I recommend this book: http://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0553804723\r\n\r\nIt gave me great confidence and made me think about what I look like to others. It helped a LOT with the ladies.","subreddit_name":"amiugly","author":"wagubeaf"},{"body":"Didn't really like it. He gives some useful profiling insight but the main theme, basically the credo of his book is: My book is bullshit, you actually can never reliably read people more than 50% of the time.\r\n\r\nThis was very off-putting, because he called me - the reader - a fool by repeating this nonsense on multiple occasions. Like he didn't even trust his own book and teachings.\r\n\r\nIf you want a book on body language, I can recommend you [The Definite Book of Body Language](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0553804723/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;camp=1789\u0026amp;creative=9325\u0026amp;creativeASIN=0553804723\u0026amp;linkCode=as2\u0026amp;tag=modernma-20\u0026amp;linkId=LCONJTCPYITBEW6U). Great book sprinkled with evolutionary theory and humor, dissecting the likes of Prince Charles and Adolf Hitler.","subreddit_name":"The48LawsOfPower","author":"KillYourselfLiving"},{"body":"http://www.amazon.com/The-Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0553804723\r\n\r\nI've read this book a handful of times and reference it from time to time. Covers a lot of body language topics and ties things together well. I recommend it, pretty quick read. ","subreddit_name":"Entrepreneur","author":"Drbasa"},{"body":"You could try reading [this](http://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0553804723) book on body language. \r\n\r\nIt might put things in a more pattern like manner for you. \r\n\r\nAlso, a question please, if things are presented to you in a cause-effect style is it easy/easier to understand them ?\r\n\r\nFrom what I've read it's my understanding that it's hard to you to handle topics/situation with a lot of subtle, implied, non-written rules... am I right ?     ","subreddit_name":"IAmA","author":"Zander_aq"},{"body":"But you could start off by reading the book by Allen Pease:\r\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language-Expressions/dp/0553804723","subreddit_name":"aspergers","author":"johnx86"},{"body":"No it's not. I took great interest in it a few years ago. Within 10 years, there will be face recognition, and body analyzation software that will be able to tell how you feel, or what you're about to do before you do it.\r\n\r\nDid you know that globally across the world, there are specific facial gestures that represent emotion? This instinctively tells us that these are born with these. It's inherent, not taught/learned. \r\n\r\nI definitely think the doc posted here is amplified in bullshitness for viewing, but it's no pseudo science.\r\n\r\nCheck out this book on amazon if you're interested. \r\n\r\nhttp://www.amazon.com/The-Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0553804723\r\n\r\nand this one by former FBI agent Joe Navarro\r\n\r\nhttps://www.google.com/search?q=fbi+agent+body+language+book\u0026amp;ie=utf-8\u0026amp;oe=utf-8\r\n\r\nAfter reading the book and apply principles, it's no psuedo science. I took great interest is just watching people in every day situations as well as experiences with me included. ","subreddit_name":"Documentaries","author":"Dear_Prudence_"},{"body":"For flere sjove facts om kropssprog kan jeg anbefale https://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language-Expressions/dp/0553804723 Det er egentlig ret fed læsning, især for redditors og andre autister.","subreddit_name":"Denmark","author":"fuckingaquaman"},{"body":"Do yourself a favor and buy this\r\n\r\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language-Expressions/dp/0553804723","subreddit_name":"AskReddit","author":"mustipher"}]}