Different strokes I guess. For me the actual actions are easy, once I wrap my mind around "there is no alpha with a side of beta". Helps me out of the "sprinkle some alpha on it"-LARP thing I can be prone to do.
> Time to value myself and focus on doing what I want. I need to remove "she" from my priorities list.
Exactly what I define alpha as. Just do what you feel like and DGAF. I somtimes try to channel Corey.
In case you want to get specific:
As for alpha traits, you can do worse than to check out Rians video based on the MMSLP chapter.
As for concrete play-by-play some people recommend the Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves - when I read it I couldn't fit in my "frame" or whatever, but I will revisit as this was a while ago when I was even more retarded. Maybe it'll work for you.
General Game concepts apply too. Negs, rapport-break, disqualification etc. It takes some tweaking though, as your wife knows you and thus any incongruence will be noticed. Hard Mode. :)
Read Ian ironwood's book "the ironwood collection of alpha moves" https://www.amazon.com/Ironwood-Collection-Alpha-Moves-ebook/dp/B00B07O4YA