For many of these, infuriatingly, it takes as long as it takes. Railing against it wont make it happen faster. Im inbetween waves of severe depression myself, right now. One of the other comments had it right: be kind and gentle with yourself. Feel all the things, wrapped in a big blanket, with your partner or support person, maybe with some tea. I have found this workbook to be especially helpful in my healing process. Be good to you.