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Save the videos and document everything that concerns you. You should consult a divorce attorney and see what they suggest. You can ask the courts to require supervised visits between your child and the father. Your therapist could also speak on your behalf in court, if that’s something you’d be comfortable with.

When you first met him, he likely showered you with attention and affection. That wasn’t the real him, it was a facade and the version of himself that he wanted you to see. A book that might be helpful is The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free.

He’s abusive and he’s gaslighting you. I hope that you are able to get out of the relationship. 💜

Resources:

https://www.thehotline.org/ The National Domestic Violence Hotline offers free confidential support. You can call, text, or chat with them through their website. They have resources about identifying abuse, making a safety plan, and connecting people with local resources.

I’m so sorry he treated you like that. It wasn’t your fault. Going to counseling will help you process what happened to you. If your first therapist isn’t a good fit, it’s okay to switch to another.

He was a cruel and manipulative narcissist. He said those things not because they were true, but because he is an asshole. It can take a long time to recover from the constant abuse.

There are some books that you might find helpful. One of my friends found it helpful to learn about narcissists so that she could identify them, avoid them, and heal. Here’s a link to The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free.

You are strong, even though it might not feel like it right now. If you have a strong support system, lean on them.

https://www.thehotline.org/ The National Domestic Violence Hotline offers free confidential support. You can call, text, or chat with them through their website. They have resources about identifying abuse, making a safety plan, and connecting people with local resources.

Hey, would you mind sharing the account name? I'm having a hard time finding it. My nmom ruined not one, not two, but all three graduations of mine. High school, college, and college again. (community college I'm not rich lol) They can't stand not being the center of attention, or if it's a holiday/event/occasion that's supposed to be about you, they make your accomplishments about them. It's part of the reason why my brain chemistry is so messed up now; always going from having a great time/being happy to the depths of hell when they start ruining everything. After a while, it puts you on edge every time you're happy, wondering not if, but when, someone/something is going to mess it up. OP, therapy has helped me immensely, and I've cut contact with my entire family. NC with nmom going on 2 years, and I'm VLC with e/ndad, considering cutting contact there too. I'm almost 25 btw, so the sooner you realize they only care about themselves, the sooner you can plan YOUR days without them in it, if it's possible for them to not be there. It'll still hurt, and you'll feel guilty, at least I did, but the peace I feel now makes it all worth it.

Some books I've found helpful or were recommended to me by my previous and new therapist are down below:

Book I found:

The Narcissist in Your Life by Julie Hall

Books my therapists have recommended:

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family by Eleanor D. Payson, M.S.W.

^^ Checked this one out from a library but couldn't finish it before I had to return it, but I do remember it being helpful.

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

^^ She seems to have many books on the subject, and I plan on ordering this one and possibly some more once I get my money back up.

If I think of any others, I'll try to update here if you're interested. Amazon is where I found all of these. If money is an issue, some have samples you can download I'm pretty sure or you can at least use their "look inside" feature online.

The above links will take you to Amazon's website. Mods, if I need to remove these links, please let me know and I will remove them.