You're being passive aggressive. Your boyfriend can't read your mind, and expecting him to is selfish and immature. Love takes charity, and forgiveness. If you want something from him you just need to sit him down and tell him how you feel.
Though if you have a history of being passive aggressive, he might not feel safe enough to be honest with you. I highly suggest you curb your behavior.
Here's a really good book that I think will strengthen the way you approach relationships: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands https://www.amazon.com/dp/0060520620/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_pS03Bb27EKRN3
What you're doing is catastrophically damaging for your son. Kids need their father and mother. The Bible says "God hates divorce" - do you have a pastor, can you seek counseling?
Consider reading this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Proper-Care-Feeding-Husbands/dp/0060520620
"completely shocked as we have not been having issues.". Are you sure he's not seeing someone else? Taking a break is sometimes and easy way to end it.
If he is indeed willing to go to counseling, that's a good sign. What does he say he's upset about?
I'd recommend this book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands https://www.amazon.com/dp/0060520620/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_OUfgzb4QQYYMT ...one of the best marriage books imo
> The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.
Mainstream book published by Harper Collins.
Or you could change your behavior in hopes he’ll change his too. There’s a book that’s good at telling women how to do this…. https://www.amazon.com/Proper-Care-Feeding-Husbands/dp/0060520620
Gillian Flynn writes excellent male characters. IDK, maybe she grew up with a bunch of brothers, perhaps she just pays attention. she really seems to understand men, the good and the bad, and have a lot of insight or empathy.
>Anyone has any advice for me?
read this book. it's relationship advice, but a lot of women swear it helped them understand their boyfriend/husband
https://www.amazon.com/Proper-Care-Feeding-Husbands/dp/0060520620
Buy The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: Laura Schlessinger and ask that she please prayerfully read it.
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Read this please: https://www.amazon.com/Proper-Care-Feeding-Husbands/dp/0060520620