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Sorry you had that experience.
JWs are the worst.
He is trying to convert you. I assume he believes because you went h can present the argument to anyone who asks that you are obviously wanting to be a JW.
My advice is have a very serious discussion (again) right away about what you want for the future.
www.jwfacts.com is great to read up on all the latest jworg doctrine. The author of that site is very good to keep it updated. https://jwfacts.com/watchtower/experiences/paul-grundy.php
And a fantastic Youtube channel is https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz1w0ll081JJiYcjb298pOw He has a great book https://www.amazon.com/dp/0995669104/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_ep_dp_D7EIybP20N0C8
Jws are a cult (in my opinion). As an example higher education is STRONGLY discouraged. Ask your BF casually what JW view on education is. Most of the time JWs say it is not true. But the governing body (highest you can get) say otherwise
To watch the JW video: https://tv.jw.org/#en/mediaitems/pub-jwb_201501_1_VIDEO
Education stuff at the 4:30 mark, 6:10 and 9:44 . Scary stuff.
Ever hear of the BITE model? http://old.freedomofmind.com/Info/BITE/bitemodel.php JWs will regulate everything you do.
The BITE Model
I. Behavior Control
II. Information Control
III. Thought Control
IV. Emotional Control
If he is fully in he is being controlled. JWs are sheep.
Have a serious discussion and decide what to do.
The usual recommended reading is Ray Franz' Crisis of Conscious. Ray Franz was a member of the Governing Body (JW's Corporate overlords) who basically defected and was "disfellowshipped" (excommunicated). You might have trouble finding it in bookstores though, since the copyright holders are refusing to publish for one reason or another [insert conspiracy theory here]. It can be found in PDF form online though.
Available on Amazon is <em>The Reluctant Apostate</em> by Lloyd Evans. He also runs a very informative and even handed (IMHO) YouTube channel under the name "John Cedars".
Lloyd's book was a very emotional read for me because a lot of the stuff that happened to him happened to me. Not everyone is can escape a cult, and those that do have irreversible damage done to their personality and psyche. Everyday is a struggle for me, but knowing that there are other exJW's make the pain bearable.
Knowing that exJW's and exMormon's have so many similarities give me even greater strength to keep going on. Thank you for existing and I hope that we all find our happiness.
side note: Tapirs, amirte? lol
edit: forgot a link
You think Crisis blows your mind? Read The Reluctant Apostate by Lloyd Evans. It covers stuff that is in Crisis, but goes even deeper down the rabbit hole, bringing the reader pretty close to up to date on the Borg.
I am so sorry that this is happening to you. You are right to be concerned - this could very easily tear your family apart. I have seen it happen firsthand when someone in my family was recruited into the Dubs then became totally alienated from her non-Dub husband. You could very easily end up in a situation where both your wife and your child are brainwashed into thinking you are a bad influence and that only other Dubs are worth spending time with. You definitely do not want to be complacent about this. The JWs are not "just another religion". It is a very dangerous and nasty cult.
My advice would be to immediately start "studying" the JWs yourself - but NOT with their own material. JWs don't know their own history very well at all, but you can find a lot of eye opening stuff using outside materials like http://www.jwfacts.com
Here are the three books that I would strongly recommend you purchase and start reading right away:
The Reluctant Apostate: Leaving the Jehovah's Witnesses (a very long and well-researched explanation of the JWs - if you can only read one of these books, I would make it this one)
Combating Cult Mind Control (not focused on just the JWs, but a general book about how cults operate and how to try to work with someone to get them out)
Crisis of Conscience (an older book written by one of the "Governing Body" members that ended up leaving the religion)
If you read those books, you will learn a LOT about how the JWs operate and have ample proof that this is not a legitimate religion. However, you can't confront her directly with this info. She has been programmed by the cult to reject any direct attack on the religion.
However, as you read them, you will probably think of some questions that you'll have for your wife about the Dubs. Start asking her questions NOT in an aggressive way but just in a "curious" sort of way. For example, "What do you make of [this thing]? What is the JW explanation for that?"
When people are being brainwashed, you can't confront them directly about it. That just makes them dig their heels in. You have to slowly dismantle the belief system by asking them questions and forcing them to realize for themselves that the cult doesn't have a good answer for it.
I also recommend trying your best to find excuses to spend time away from home on meeting days to keep her away from the dubs as much as possible. Time spent away from the indoctrination sessions can often help people realize on their own that it is bullshit.
>What did I miss who is cedars
John Cedars aka Lloyd Evans. He's been an ex-JW activist for several years, has just published a book <strong>The Reluctant Apostate</strong> & has two YouTube accounts.
This is his active account: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz1w0ll081JJiYcjb298pOw
And this is his older account which was deactivated thanks to the Watchtower Society's claims of copyright infringement (an effort to shut him up, I suspect): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnl732zJZSOIkmhBo3di_YQ
Here is his blog site, JW Survey: http://jwsurvey.org/
That probably will cover your question...