I've never read this book, but sometimes I think I should (Amazon non-referral normal link)
My missus gets stressed af and loses the plot every time she has an interview, and as a result she's been at the same level for about 10 years. However, she's been encouraged to apply for a number of roles 2 levels above hers, not only by her direct supervisor but by the director as well, AND the fact that there are some real wankers in the department that will apply as well (and probably get in), so she's thinking that she pretty much HAS to apply otherwise she'll be pissed off at the wankers being above her.
So she's starting to freak out about the potential interview. I'm very tempted to get her this book for xmas.
HR is not there to help you. HR is there to protect the company. Talking to HR might get you fired.
Start applying to jobs. Setup a LinkedIn profile. Add friends from current job on LinkedIn.
There's a book called the Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***. You should read it or listen to the audio book.
Igen, mondjuk én szorongó gyerek is voltam, kb. 6 éves koromtól kezdve. Azóta kb. folyamatos a szociális szorongásom, nehezen viselem az új helyzeteket, nehezen ismerkedem új emberekkel. A 10-14 éves korom közti időszak jó szar volt, akkor kaptam egy jó kis bullyingot is mellé, hogy a pubertás ne legyen elég. 20-23 évesen meg depressziós voltam, végigjártam a szorongásnak kb. minden formáját: túlzott maximalizmus miatti önértékelési problémák, imposztor szindróma, szociális elszigeteltség érzése, apátia, szuicid gondolatok... Várom, mi lesz, ha betöltöm a harmincat, mert mintha kezdene egy mintázat kirajzolódni :D
Nekem a mindfulness meditáció sokat segített, illetve az a gondolkodásmód, hogy elfogadással és megértéssel fordulok magam felé. Van egy könyv, ami szerintem jót tehet, bár elég ponyva: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
Het is wel engels maar ik heb dit boek eerder gelezen en heb ook de kindle versie gekocht om erna te luisteren in het vliegtuig. Echt een aanrader.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B019MMUA8S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_v38kBb88P7BQM
Available on audible and audio books. Absolutely brilliant listen.
Made me go "holy shit" many times - DeadlyCarrotStick
This guy doesn't sugar coat it for you, he tells you "life sucks, and it's ok for it to suck"
This book doesn't necessarily answer those questions, but it does help you answer them. I can honestly say it changed my life.
I've seen the way people around you height are treated. I've met two guys under 5'1 and both were given a super hard time by those around them. People wouldn't really say anything directly, but often there would be loud comments behind their back and shitty jokes towards them. It was fucking infuriating and I got into a fairly heated argument with a guy I confronted about his bullshit.
Some people will try to surgarcoat it, but being that short is really fucking hard from what I can tell. I think we may have some users around that height who can give better advice.
I'd suggest lifting, getting tips from subreddits that specialize in male fashion and working on your posture to start.
I'm sorry that people are so shitty man. Keep your chin up and don't give a fuck about what others think or say. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck might be a good book to read as well.
If someone is going to judge you based solely on your eye lids .... I don’t think that is the kind of person you should care about impressing. You should buy this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
There's a book called "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" which pretty much says the same thing. It's OK to be not happy and don't knee jerk to get back a happy state. Great book.
I'm exactly in the same boat. Even when I know that I shouldn't care about someone's opinion, I do. I can tell myself "fuck what they think" but there's still that feeling buried deep inside that bothers me about it.
There's a book that I want to read that would probably be right up our alley. It's called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B019MMUA8S/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
recommend reading this
Very easy and cheap first step.
https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
It may look trashy. but mind your own business
Did you really just use "turbo cringe" in a sentence? Man, I wish I had your confidence. I'm guessing you're a fan of this
This book might help:
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Learn and practice Stoicism. It will change your life.
Also buy, sit down, and READ The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
Should be required reading for all men.
Reading this book
https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
Not even kidding, it changed my life, it teaches you to love yourself and to say fuck everyone else WITHOUT stepping on others or hurting anyone.
https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
Not even kidding this book changed my fucking life, everyone should read this at least once.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life (Mark Manson Collection Book 1) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B019MMUA8S/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_navT_a_5HK33F5Z2PQNCH09Y3K0
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson
Is that you, Mark?
You can buy it in Amazon Kindle if you are interested :)
Minimum to give credit where credit is due: this is from the book: The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck by Mark Manson. Plenty of other great stuff in that book. https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
Cocaine is a helluva drug...
or... perhaps....
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this pimple is about to pop.....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mh-hNHxnLi4
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Either way, I can only eat popcorn if I'm holding my shares... so it's clear what I"m doing
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BUYING AS MUCH AS I FUCKING CAN @ 1230 ON THE 18th!
I strongly recommend the book The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck by Mark Mansen (blog post)(Amazon link)
Your script could literally bt eh most beautiful thing ever created, but to have a long career in Hollywood, psychological resiliency is going to be essential. As somebody with an anxiety and eating disorder who has worked for 15 years in the industry, I'm telling you this from experience.
Also, coverage / advice from random internet people is barely useful at best. For example, my last script was a SEcond Rounder at Austin Film Festival. The coverage was glowing. But the reader who kept us from becoming a finalist also provided their coverage and it was the exact opposite of what the previous reader had said. And these are the AFF readers, some of the best in the biz.
So who was right? Was my film a game-changing thriller, or a tired cliche?
Who the fuck knows?
I am proud of it and it's generally done well enough that I can trust it's a good enough script to justify my being proud of it.
I just recently got notes on the first draft of a script I was hired to write by a production company able to finance the whole film. In the room, it was very complimentary, all the things they liked. Then we discussed what didn't work, but it was still pretty positive. Then they sent over their written notes and it was harsh as fuck. Was I freaking out? Sure, for about ten minutes, but then I remembered that this is part of the screenwriting process. It takes multiple drafts, multiple rounds of notes, and a whole lot of "this sucks" before we get to "this rocks."
At the end of the day, you have to trust yourself and your instincts AND be able to take the punches that will absolutely come your way.
Check out The subtle art of not giving a fuck
You need this book man:
https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
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Stop giving a fuck. Helps with the stress.
https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
I guess I'll be the token right-winger, although I suppose I could be classified as a regulatory libertarian or classical liberal. I'm American, and in the U.S. it seems like any position that isn't anti-free speech and pro-progressivism is on the "right."
I believe in individual liberty, value, and responsibility. I see no reason why other primates get to determine how I live and what I should be doing with my life beyond mutually agreed upon contracts. I also don't think you do people any favors by treating them like children and never teaching/forcing them to learn how to behave like adults.
Based on history, most of the most horrible atrocities have been performed by people with good intentions or the belief that they know what's best for other people. I don't think that it's my right nor my responsibility to be required to take care of others beyond those who have social contracts with me; in other words, those I interact with. I believe that if people were more concerned with making their own section of the world better rather than trying to fix everyone else's problems, and people in general did this, the world would end up being a better place.
None of this really has anything to do with atheism, though. I'm very empathetic towards people, I'm just not very sympathetic. It's easy to conflate the two. Empathy is being able to understand where someone is coming from. I can do this. Sympathy is caring. I only have a limited amount of fucks to give, and I choose to give them in regards to my friends and family. I have no energy nor patience for people who choose not to help themselves; I'm sympathetic towards those who are unable to help themselves.
In the U.S., that puts me on the right, I guess. I don't agree with any of the random moral requirements of religious progressives (I consider the "religious right" another form of authoritarian progressivism, just with different values), of course, but my political views generally align with conservatism.
This makes me a pretty unusual atheist, I suppose, based purely on demographics. But I'm not really sure if you can conclude anything meaningful about political positions based on atheism itself.
Check out this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: Practical Guide for Improving Communication by John Gray
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover
I'd recommend checking out Mark Manson's website. There's some great stuff there for subscribers.
I too worry too much. I'm reading 2 books that are helping.
It doesn't look like I can update the URL in the original post, but if an admin can update it for me, you can use the straight URL. You have my permission.
https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
After reading this my mental health has improved greatly. Its not a cure all but it worked for me.
I haven't heard of any tax subsidies for fertility but that's here in the US. If there were, your burden would be less than the cost of the energy you're using to complain about it.
How does someone's begging impact you. They aren't at your door forcing you to donate. It seems you have to actively go looking for reasons to be offended by other people. Maybe you should ignore it, I recommend a book for you: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F, by Mark Manson https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B019MMUA8S/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_apa_i_6W86DbWAFFW9R
Well, check out this book right here.
Also the kids are mean, but kids are kids and they change like the weather.
This may help put things in perspective about the expectations of others and how they affect us. Even just reading the intro might point you in another direction. I know how hard it is and even how easy it is to have a relapse. You just build tools to deal with it better over time but you have to start somewhere.
Most PUA books.
But I was specifically referring to this extremely popular book: https://www.amazon.ca/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
These threads are popping up like weeds again, oh joy.
https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
Give it a read, review your life, and give a f*ck about what matters in it.
Yeah, you really need to get your shit together. I'm not saying to off yourself or anything but a step back to really take a look at what's important to you may have some real benefits on your outlook of life. You don't need to apologize or anything just try to "do you."
I used to be like you when I was in my teens. I was a little shithead concerned with everyone else. Best thing to remember is that everyone you hate is going to die someday. I'm 32 tomorrow and I still use this daily.
None of these people will matter to you in the following years. Nobody really matters, when you're there dying of whatever the fuck you die from, will these morons really matter if they cheated? Do the work, get the diploma get the fuck on with your life.
You'll be a lot happier if you be a bit less concerned with others actions because you can't control them and if you try again like you did in this little episode all its going to do is make your life harder.
I would strongly recomend the book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson. It's $13 and it really helped me get out of a funk.