What is Reddit's opinion of The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain and Illness (Paperback) - Common?

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You're welcome! It's not my YouTube but both speakers deal with these topics very well and both are real things that will factor in to his life. If you have any other questions I'm here.

Oh, it's very far off of course- but theirs not much on sex and disability. This book really helped once I got a copy at 17. Even as a nondisabled person this book may help you to know just because he has a disability; he doesn't have to be single forever.

https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Sex-Disability-Disabilities/dp/B00FFBGURQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1492808187&sr=8-1&keywords=the+ultimate+guide+to+sex+and+disability

Sexplanations is a great channel and I'm so excited to see Dr. Doe make a video about Disability and Sex. It's a pretty giant overview, but hits a lot of important points that are applicable to CFS. This is a topic that's come up repeatedly on the chat groups and I thought it might be nice to bring here.

I especially liked her clarification that people with disabilities can be gay/straight/bi/poly/trans/asexual/kinky/vanilla/whatever - that sexuality is not defined by disability. As I've gotten to know people from this community (r/cfs) I've met people with many different sexual orientations and preferences.

Dr. Doe also talks about how people with disabilities are often desexualized which is something I certainly found as I got sicker.

And I appreciated her mention that some people fetishize disabilities in a harmful way. When I first started dating post-cfs I found this quite a bit (ick!)

I wish she had talked a little bit more about tactics for us to work around our physical limitations in our love lives. I've found this community very helpful in that area but haven't seen it talked about publicly very much. Perhaps in a future video.

As an aside, the book that Dr. Doe recommends at 5:50 (The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability) was actually shown to me by someone on here a while back. It's a good book and does a nice job of including energy disabilities. If you're starting to figure out how sexuality/dating/sex works with CFS it's worth checking out.

Links to the book:

• US Amazon
• UK Amazon new or used

edit: words brain hard fog GAH

I have a milder form of CP in my legs. Instantly visble in my walk and curved back. I can move on my own but curbs or stairs with no railing pretty much nerf me unless I have a hand or the walls are close enough together.

I was forced for 6 and a half years starting at age 12 to use a walker at school. It killed my self esteem and I thought no woman would ever want me as you don't grow out of Palsy. At about 17 I had had enough of trying to pretend like it didn't matter. The Ultimate Guide to Sexuality and Disability is written by 3 people, two with disabilities and all sex educators. It has some solid practical information on positions/technique/toys but to me the best part was the emotional healing it gave me even curing some biases I didn't realize I had. Its from 2003 so it doesn't really go into online dating but its tips for meeting people and self-esteem chapter is still very relevant. https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Sex-Disability-Disabilities/dp/B00FFBGURQ

I've had 1 girlfriend for a few months in 2014. Early 2016 I realized I'm part kinkster. Not the 50 Shades crap, the real thing. I went from knowing nobody like me in real life to knowing a guy in a wheelchair, a woman with a service dog and walker, two women with chronic pain problems and one guy with a cognitive condition all in my small local scene. The book has a chapter on 'S/M' sex too and the creativity of it enthralled me. People with Palsy have to be creative to navigate the world that's not made for us. This is great for BDSM. Its not all pain and chains and we are not all warped to enjoy it.

I've been accepted by them bad legs and all and had an amazing Halloween experience where I learned the curved back I always resented feels amazing when candle wax is dripped on it.

If your not into that fine, but I though I'd share my story with you. If you have questions about it or the book I'll be happy to answer. I'll link my first two munches (public dinner) in my local community and my Halloween story where I finally felt good about my body. The Halloween one is long but I think you'll enjoy it. I also know two books on kink and disability if you want the info.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/comments/4id7bw/an_exwalker_freaks_review_of_a_munch/?st=ivk5c0mg&sh=87a7dfbe

https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/comments/4ko5jt/an_ex_walkers_freaks_review_of_a_munchpart_2/?st=ivk5c1h8&sh=b8b363c3

https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/comments/58uyti/halloween_2016_the_exwalker_freaks_first_play/?st=ivhi618f&sh=42ab3f60